Thread: My Dad Had A Heart Attack Last Night

Sell the Subaru, used car market is higher than ever, put that money into the house or see a financial advisor if the house is paid off, the Subaru will depreciate faster than a rockslide, the house will hold steady or even appreciate. Rid yourself of the Subaru before it blows its infamous head gaskets!

Originally Posted by mgtower

Sell the Subaru, used car market is higher than ever, put that money into the house or see a financial advisor if the house is paid off, the Subaru will depreciate faster than a rockslide, the house will hold steady or even appreciate. Rid yourself of the Subaru before it blows its infamous head gaskets!

We're going to take one step/one day at a time with everything I'm going to collect and what I have to do. I have great family that is strongly willing to help me out and make sure I'm taken care of.

Wow, sorry that happened.
My condolences to you.
I'll second and third what others here have posted.

It felt real good to sleep last night. First decent sleep in a long while. I even had a dream where I protected my dad from a home intruder who was armed.

I have to tell you guys, it's been a brutal couple of years:
First my grandpa on my mom's side died at the age of 87 January 2020
Covid plagued the world and forced us all the lockdown and everything that came from that.
Mine and my best friend's favorite sushi hangout restaurant went under due to the lockdown
Trump and his supporters being robbed of the election and including the January 6th riots
Inflation and bad economics
And now my dad dead last Saturday from 8 days of trying to recover from a mild heart attack

Pretty soon my soon-to-be 95 year old grandpa on my dad's side will be gone soon and then my grandma. When that happens I hope I get to get my dad's share of the inheritance.

It looks like I've reached the age in my life to where life is no longer giving me good luck and is taking back everything I had or loved. Life can suck at times and the pain and suffering I've been feeling these past 2 weeks, I wouldn't wish this pain on anyone, because it DOES hurt badly. Although it does feel like I'm getting better, considering I just had a good sleep last night.

Last night, I watched a video on YouTube about how to deal with the lost of a father. All the people who commented on it all are going or had gone through the same thing I'm going through now. So I don't feel like I'm alone on feeling like I lost my father (my friend and my mentor). There were comments of guys and women who lost their fathers the same day they commented.

You guys are my friends and I am very humble and grateful to have you guys and your sympathies in my life. I really do appreciate it.

I'm out applying for work today so I can earn the money to save my father's house. Unfortunately, my mom wants me to surrender the house (sell it) and move out by her, which I'm highly against. I know she and my aunts are going to do whatever the best case scenario but I don't want my dad's hard work and sacrifices to be wasted by my manipulative mother. I don't know what's going on in my mom's mind, but by the sound of it, she wants me to not look for a job out by me, sell my house and move out by her. I think she's making this whole situation as a way to get me to be more part of her life. She's the only one so far that thinks I should leave, while everyone else is wanting me to keep the house, including me. Typical woman; even when she's being very helpful, she still has to be a major burden, manipulative, and discouraging. UGH!

My dad wouldn't want me to give up the house. He told me years ago that if anything happens to him, I will inherit everything and that I have to pay off the house with the money. This is my first day since the funeral and I'm already picking up job applications. My neighbors (whom my dad was close to) is saying that is a great idea and all the power to me.

We're glad you're doing better RE. Just remember, the grieving process takes a long time. It'll be years before this really retreats into your past.

I have already lost my parents, and what I learned is it's different for everyone. Though I dearly loved my father, the quality of his life when he passed wasn't that great. His body was shot, and most of the things he loved doing were not available to him anymore. Dying an inch at a time is not much of a life. His passing was sad, but nothing like it would have been had he been taken early.

Hang in there RE.

Worst case scenario took place, who would have thought about it? But okay, you cannot change the past.

Beware of the scavengers! Get an attorney and remember: they are mercenaries and only serve him who pays them! Don't trust your family members who would have an incentive to fuck you over. Probably they will and use your illness against you, prepare yourself accordingly!

My condolences, and keep up your contribution for your mission!

Originally Posted by Smoking Wizard

Get an attorney. Don't trust your family members who would have an incentive to fuck you over. Probably they will and use your illness against you, prepare yourself accordingly!

My condolences, and keep up your contribution for your mission!

Thank you. My aunts are professionals in accounting and solving problems for their family. I trust my aunts on this. They and my mom have hired a good attorney which specializes in helping people with special needs like myself who lost someone they depended on. My grandma and aunts said at the wake that I will get all the money I'm entitled to and that I shouldn't have anything to worry about. Trust me, my family are not the type to screw people over and they're not going to use my autism to take advantage. I'm VERY confident that I'm in good hands and have great support and I'm going to be provided for.

Today, I went to get a job application from a barn store that sells food for farm animals that's just down the street from me (I can walk there, even in winter). The place is called Trellis Farm And Garden and they are hiring. It looks like it's run by friendly young men who look like it's their first job. I asked for the manager, but she wasn't in but will come in Monday between 10 - 4.

I'm also looking at shipping/receiving/inventory/merchandising positions at Best Buy which I was going to apply for anyway. Looking at the pay and benefits are exactly what I need. It pays $18.20/hr. (about $50K-$98K), provides wellness program, dental, medical, vision, prescription drug coverage, paid time off, mental health and financial support. That's according to the information I have on Best Buy from Glassdoor.com. I'm starting to get excited about applying, because it's a job I know I'm going to love, because it's meant for me, plus it will be the right support I'll need. I looked under qualifications and there is not a mentioning of skills or experience require.

https://www.glassdoor.com/job-listin...56&srs=EI_JOBS

My deepest condolences for your loss, OP. Also my utmost respect to the way you're dealing with everything. You're inspiring me on a level you can't imagine. Thank you.

I just saw this post and I am so sorry RE7. I really am.

Today was 3 years ago my mom died. I know the pain of losing a parent you really love. I'm so sorry bro.

Originally Posted by MGTOWFOREVER

I just saw this post and I am so sorry RE7. I really am.

Today was 3 years ago my mom died. I know the pain of losing a parent you really love. I'm so sorry bro.

Thank you MGTOWFOREVER, I appreciate it and I'm sorry for your loss of your mother. This feeling I've been going through, I don't wish this one anyone, because it DOES hurt a lot and it sucks, because I've always been close to my dad for these past 40 years. There's a lot of things I'll never see or have again now that he's gone: his turkey soup he makes out of leftover Thanksgiving turkey; no more movie/Pawn Stars night; he won't drive me to my mental health doctor; no more trips; no more going to the movies; no more Sunday grilling; he won't bail me out of my car problems and so on.

So far, since the funeral Thursday, I've kept myself busy and active with the means of moving forward. Yesterday, I picked up a job application (one of those old fashioned paper ones) at a farm and barn store and I did interview question research on Glassdoor. Today, I cleaned up my man cave, my dad's computer room and my bathroom: vacuuming, mopping, cleaning the toilet, the sink, the dishes, moved my supplements that hadn't sold yet in the spare room. So I'm keeping myself busy while my mom and aunts are looking into getting me what I'm entitled to out my dad's estate.

I won't push my aunt and grandma into anything, because she's been through a lot visiting my dad every day in the hospital, coming by paying his bills, dealing with my dad's death and making arrangements. She's got to be exhausted on so many categories.

Shit, dealing a father's death is hard. I bet you have good stories. I still need to find my own father. I don't know where's mine is. You are blessed to have a father. Don't let his death be in bad memory of him, remember the good times.

Keep something of him in memory.

Originally Posted by UnKnownSurviving

Keep something of him in memory.

He had a gold dragon chain that my mom gave him back when they were married. If I find it, I'm going to wear it around my neck in loving memory of my dad.

Dang R.E., I’m so sorry to read that your dad has passed, I was really rooting for him (and you) that he would pull through.

Times will be odd for a while but you have 2 major things going for you: a generally positive outlook on life and a great support network around you. You’ll do O.K.

You will obviously miss his presence dearly but you will keep him with you in your heart always. Remember all those good times you had together.

My condolences.

Another day of cleaning. I'm vacuuming the downstairs portion of the house, scrubbed the kitchen counters and stove. I'm taking a break with a cold Pepsi and watching classic TV. I'm sweating anyway.

Yes, I will remember all the good times, including my recent trip to Brookfield Zoo, my trip to Las Vegas when I was 13, my trip to Orlando, Florida when I was 15, playing Sega Genesis Monopoly while he made fun of the game and remember all the fart joke, the adult jokes and so much more. One beauty about my type of autism is that I can remember things from like 30 or so years ago as if it just happened. And the past is one reason why I want to keep his gold dragon chain; it has ties to both my parents; my mom bought it for my dad when they were married and he wore it.

Things are a little strange without him but I spent most of my life alone anyway, so it's not so bad yet. The thing is, no more movie or Pawn Stars night; no more grilled burgers/brats on Sundays and no more talking to him about what's going on and no more having a beer with him. The tears are going away. I think I've come to terms and put things in perspective about my new reality without him.

I'm going to fight to keep my dad's house along with his vegetable garden, his pond, his landscaping work in the backyard and his flowers. I don't want to live by my mother (not that I have anything against her), because this is my home of 19 years and I don't want to lose it after losing my father. Luckily, I have a lot of family support that's going through attorneys and making arrangements on what I'm going to get out of the estate. I might even have my best friend move in with me and we can share the house and expenses, but he hasn't given a definite yes/no answer. At least I have a lot of family help on my side.

Originally Posted by ResidentEvil7

Another day of cleaning. I'm vacuuming the downstairs portion of the house, scrubbed the kitchen counters and stove. I'm taking a break with a cold Pepsi and watching classic TV. I'm sweating anyway.

Yes, I will remember all the good times, including my recent trip to Brookfield Zoo, my trip to Las Vegas when I was 13, my trip to Orlando, Florida when I was 15, playing Sega Genesis Monopoly while he made fun of the game and remember all the fart joke, the adult jokes and so much more. One beauty about my type of autism is that I can remember things from like 30 or so years ago as if it just happened. And the past is one reason why I want to keep his gold dragon chain; it has ties to both my parents; my mom bought it for my dad when they were married and he wore it.

Things are a little strange without him but I spent most of my life alone anyway, so it's not so bad yet. The thing is, no more movie or Pawn Stars night; no more grilled burgers/brats on Sundays and no more talking to him about what's going on and no more having a beer with him. The tears are going away. I think I've come to terms and put things in perspective about my new reality without him.

I'm going to fight to keep my dad's house along with his vegetable garden, his pond, his landscaping work in the backyard and his flowers. I don't want to live by my mother (not that I have anything against her), because this is my home of 19 years and I don't want to lose it after losing my father. Luckily, I have a lot of family support that's going through attorneys and making arrangements on what I'm going to get out of the estate. I might even have my best friend move in with me and we can share the house and expenses, but he hasn't given a definite yes/no answer. At least I have a lot of family help on my side.

You’re on the right track R.E.

I assume you know all about Autism support groups. A personal favourite of mine is Best Buddies International.

Best Buddies International

Even if you’re not interested in their particular support programmes, they are a great source of contacts for other properly run advocacy groups including employment advocacy, something you might be interested in.

Good luck my friend.

Originally Posted by Jackoff

I assume you know all about Autism support groups. A personal favourite of mine is Best Buddies International.

Best Buddies International

Even if you’re not interested in their particular support programmes, they are a great source of contacts for other properly run advocacy groups including employment advocacy, something you might be interested in.

Good luck my friend.

Thanks. No I don't know of any support groups for Autism, but now that you told me about it, I'll look into it.

Originally Posted by ResidentEvil7

Thanks. No I don't know of any support groups for Autism, but now that you told me about it, I'll look into it.

Aw man, this surprises me. There are so many support groups out there.

My advice, be wary of “only online” support groups as they may not be well regulated. That being said many are run by autistic people so they may know the problems that you face, but every person is an individual and their experiences may not be your experiences.

I don’t know precisely where you live (and please don’t say – I wouldn’t want you to out yourself, this is a public forum after all) but I believe you are in the U.S.A. and in a city. From a quick google search whilst the USA isn’t top of the list in support for the autistic there should be services available to you.

As a first stop I suggest trying to contact someone here:

Autism Society

Phone them on: 1 (800) 328-8476 and see if there’s anyone in your area that you could talk to in person instead of impersonal internet contact.

I’ve only recently begun to work in this field (6 months) and my knowledge is VERY limited. Also I’m in Ireland so things are probably a little different where you are. What I do know is that everyone involved in this is very motivated and more than that, they are very nice, caring people. They want to help.

I am sorry for your loss, brother. May God grant you peace in this time of grief and struggle. I have been there, and done that more than I care to admit.

Prayers sent.