Thread: My Dad Had A Heart Attack Last Night

Getting your food under control is no small thing, specially if moms helping. Nothing wrong with that.

But your aunt is out of line. You're an adult and don't need her approval for anything. Don't let her become a filter between you and the doctor either. Being older, she's probably thinks it's her call even though it is not. Kind of a dirty trick but blow it off. Now is not the time. Just remember what she did and call it good. Your dad doesn't need any family squabbles when he's sick. Or ever, if you can help it.

When you get the chance ask the Doc how well your dad is likely to heal up. He could have many years left but not be as strong as before. Everyone's different, so don't take what I say as anything more than what happens to some people. It's just something that could happen, that's why you need to ask the Doc.

UPDATE:
My aunt and grandma are telling me that my dad is doing better. The doctor's are no longer giving him added blood, because my dad's heart is pumping its own blood normally. He's still under sedation but he's functioning like normal and they'll transfer him to another hospital in a few days to do the bypass surgery on his heart, but they don't know exactly when. The doctors are saying they have VERY HIGH expectations my dad will pull through and come back home a few days after the bypass surgery. So all is getting better with my dad.

Lastly, I know you guys are giving me some tough love by getting me to go down to see my dad, but what you guys need to know is because of Covid, they're only allowing 2 close relatives in, which is my aunt and grandma. When the open time comes, I'll visit him and hand him the get-well card I got him today. Speaking of my aunt, she said she'll help with my dad's household bills when they come in the mail, since he'll be away until early/mid August.

My dad is fighting through this to recover because he wants to come home to me and his backyard. And frankly I want him home too, so I can give him a hug.

Originally Posted by ResidentEvil7

they're only allowing 2 close relatives in, which is my aunt and grandma. When the open time comes, I'll visit him

Are they only letting the same two close relatives in until the open time comes? You can't go in place of one of them? Just asking.

Look ResidentEvil7, in the end you have to make your own decisions. Personally, I would listen to the sad story of Unboxxed and visit your dad. I would also be skeptical about these regulations. Who told you this, your aunt or the hospital? Or maybe you invented it to not have to deal with the whole situation? I don't know. I wish you and your dad the best. I'm out.

Originally Posted by ResidentEvil7

I know you guys are giving me some tough love by getting me to go down to see my dad

I think you probably should go see him, that being said listen to your family and your best friend. They are the ones that know you best and if they are saying the time isn't right then it's probably out of concern for you.

Anyway, I'm gladdened to read that your dad is improving. Hopefully it won't be long before you can give him that hug.

God speed!

Guess it wasn't your aunt playing games, that's nice to know. However, the "adults" might still look on you as a kid. They're not being jerks; it's just how older people see it sometimes. I was lucky and was always treated as an adult when I grew up. But not everybody's so lucky.

Originally Posted by frog

Guess it wasn't your aunt playing games, that's nice to know. However, the "adults" might still look on you as a kid. They're not being jerks; it's just how older people look at it sometimes. I was lucky and was always treated as an adult when I grew up. But not everybody's so lucky.

My aunt and grandma aren't treating me like a kid; they're keeping me informed, which is my all rights.

Last I heard, my dad is still under sedation. So even if I did go to visit him today or yesterday, it wouldn't of done any good because my dad is still under. Even still, right now for the past half hour, I'm expecting an important call from MY mental health doctor to let him know how I've been doing in the past 3 months with the medication I'm on. I can't miss that call, because my disability benefits and medication refill depends on this doctor of mine.

I'm feeling a lot more hopeful about my dad's recovery, since it sounds like he's getting better and his heart is functioning on its own, but still, he needs to be under sedation for a few days. My neighbor, who are close friends with my dad and me are telling me that if the doctors felt it was critical, they would of done the heart surgery by now instead of just holding it off for a few days.

Originally Posted by Unboxxed

Are they only letting the same two close relatives in until the open time comes? You can't go in place of one of them? Just asking.

My 2 cents: let's try not to spark a "blood feud" over "visiting privileges" on this one, men. Few reasons: OP has a lot on his mind. I can relate because I lost my old man to the C when I was a young adult. The most frustrating part of all is you can't do anything. Also his dad is kept in artificial coma. Despite all the "lore" surrounding it: he can't sense anyone it there. Artificial coma is anesthetics, basically put. Futhermore: the more visitors the patient gets, the more risk on infection of the patients (and others in the CCU). The cough being one of the thousands infectious diseases. Also the CCU is one of the most intense wards in a hospital. I bet there is a room filled with staff and 25 monitors (in every hospital it's called "the aquarium"). The staff needs to monitor all patients' health by the second. So it's very common to have only 1 or 2 close relatives as "liason." Physical condition can vary very quickly and it would take unnecessary energy/ time from the staff having to remember what they have told to whom. OP, his aunt and grandmother are equally close on the "food chain/ hierarchy" regarding "closeness on relatives." As OP is describing his dad is being stabilized to prep him for surgery. As said elsewhere in the thread: cardiology is a "all or nothing" specialization. Either the cardiologists need to act right here, right now or there is some time to figure out the optimal treatment. The latter always being the best "option" regarding the prognosis. In other words: it's actually a good thing OP isn't being called to the CCU. Why? There is only one reason to do so; saying good bye.

OP: my heart is with you, brother. To me it looks like your dad is in good hands. You're doing the best thing you can: guard the fortress. Keep doing that, so you can tell him after surgery his plants/ house and garden are all in pristine condition.

I was able to talk to my dad the other day through my aunt's phone. He couldn't answer (he has a breathing tube in his throat) but he was able to hear me. I told him that I love him and I hope for a speedy recovery. Last night I filled out a get well card and when the time comes to where I can visit him, I'll give him the card and a hug. So it looks like everything is trending in the right direction. I look forward to my aunt's call because she gives me better news than last time.

When he comes home, he's going to have a great time in the vegetable garden, because we're getting a TON of tomatoes and peppers. But I'm taking care of things so he'll be ready to return to his normal life when he gets released.

I just talked to my aunt and she said that not much has changed since yesterday, except my dad is progressing better, but he's still resting. Yesterday, when he briefly woke up, he got a little agitated by the breathing tube in his throat. I guess in a strange way that is a good thing, because it means he has the energy to get upset. Yesterday, I asked her when is the soonest I can come down to visit him and she said from 3-7 days and that was yesterday. So hopefully I can see him anytime between Saturday and next Thursday.

My aunt will come by tomorrow morning to pay my dad's bills since my dad did leave his checkbook and cards here at home. I would do it myself, but I don't know how to pay paper bills because I pay my bills via Internet.

Originally Posted by ResidentEvil7

I just talked to my aunt and she said that not much has changed since yesterday, except my dad is progressing better, but he's still resting. Yesterday, when he briefly woke up, he got a little agitated by the breathing tube in his throat. I guess in a strange way that is a good thing, because it means he has the energy to get upset. Yesterday, I asked her when is the soonest I can come down to visit him and she said from 3-7 days and that was yesterday. So hopefully I can see him anytime between Saturday and next Thursday.

My aunt will come by tomorrow morning to pay my dad's bills since my dad did leave his checkbook and cards here at home. I would do it myself, but I don't know how to pay paper bills because I pay my bills via Internet.

Thanks for the update. Perhaps watch your aunt pay the bills. Knowing how to do it without the internet is a good skill to have.