Well, I'd say that's a particular definition of MGTOW, and a rather narrow, rigid one. It's one I don't share. I see MGTOW as being on a spectrum. I also see it as a viewpoint and a lifestyle choice that can be either temporary or permanent.
Things change. People change. I think it's rather extreme to demand that someone who is 22 make a decision that he must stick to for the rest of his life, in order to "qualify." Who knows what the future will bring for this young man?
I look back on what I was like at 22. The changes I have gone through are mind-boggling. I'm not remotely the same person I used to be then. If we're open and learning, we change a lot, especially at those early ages. I think it's unreasonable to demand that MGTOW be a permanent life decision, especially for young men.
Why not? What's stopping someone from doing that? Why is going MGTOW different than other viewpoints or lifestyle choices, which you get into for a while, then move on to something else, because it no longer fits?
Why do you have to marry MGTOW? Why do you have to decide you are 100% permanently committed to follow this lifestyle for the rest of your life, or else you don't "qualify" as MGTOW? I don't understand that logic.
The MGTOW way is to not be open to changing your mind? Why is that? And why is that a good thing, rather than something akin to what religions or cults ask? Doesn't that imply that you are not open to alternative opinions, not open to hearing more than just your own side of the story, not open to admitting error, not open to experiences that could alter your perspective, and not open to learning or growth?
This seems unhealthy.
That's really just two ways of talking about a decision. The second version is someone who feels he has no other choice. He is trapped or forced into the decision.
I don't even qualify as MGTOW by that second version. I don't feel trapped or forced into MGTOW as my only option. Having a relationship with a woman doesn't automatically mean that I lose "any sort of direction and control" over my life. In fact, I wonder about a man who believes that. What has gone wrong in that man's life, so that a relationship with a woman causes him to lose "any sort of direction and control" over his life? That sounds like a simp or an approval junkie, a man without boundaries or the ability to assert himself, not a healthy man.
I have chosen going my own way as the better option, not the only option. I didn't choose it because I was afraid my life will spin out of control if I got involved with a woman. I chose it for many other reasons. I chose it long before I ever heard the label MGTOW.
p.s. I also think wrangling over who "qualifies" as MGTOW is rather silly. Myself included, since I've just spent a long post wrangling over it.
