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    How to stop thinking about women?

    I feel like I'm against my own nature or perhaps female marketing is at all times high, I feel the pressure from my own subconscious whenever I go outside or anywhere on the internet some fine chick always picks up the interest of this monkey mind of mine, I do conscious effort to remind myself of this illusion but the unconscious is stronger.

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    Re: How to stop thinking about women?

    If you dont mind saying, what age are you? In my 20's the only time i wasnt thinking about women was during intense workouts or endurance running.

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    Re: How to stop thinking about women?

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I feel like I'm against my own nature or perhaps female marketing is at all times high, I feel the pressure from my own subconscious whenever I go outside or anywhere on the internet some fine chick always picks up the interest of this monkey mind of mine, I do conscious effort to remind myself of this illusion but the unconscious is stronger.

    Hi, I have found with most forms of addiction, it goes away when you stop fighting ( evidently tge modern obsession with sex can be regarded as such ) . Now, I don't mean you give in mindlessly to your urges, but until your body/emotions understand what your intellect has grasped, it will be an uphill battle .
    Most addictions are really not stopped, but merely replaced, as they usually serve to occupy down time . While sex is a pleasant experience, the cultural narrative of chivalry and romance has clouded it with unrealistic expectations as regards the potential it has to create more positive impact in our lives. It's like a child who likes chocolate, later learns that, so do bacteria, but we have been continually told to believe the positive and take responsibility for the negative, hence when the fantasy falls flat, rather than acknowledge it for the delusion it really is, we pick ourselves up, dust our breeches and charge into the fray "one last time ", and hope it turns out right this time.
    The soultion I want to offer, is what I have found to be effective in dealing with this problem personally, your mileage might vary or you might even find a better way to apply it.


    First off, don't fight the urge for sex with feelings of guilt or shame, it's natural and until we find a way to create life direct from the ether, there's no need to feel less about a natural aspect of your being . But in the same vein, don't fall into the fantasy of trying to craft some grand epic romance around some booty call, do the deed and get on with your life's mission . A good analogy is the fact that no man fantasises about his hand after he has met "madam hand and her five daughters", it's the male desire for meaning that makes us fall into the trap of trying to validate a female's emotions, but her fantasy is different from your's, so eventually one person has to abandon their expectations, why should it be you ?

    Secondly, if you want to fight the urge, then pick your battles . Will power should be your go to but rather than trying to will it all to existence, it is important to understand that just like where a weight lifter pulling a muscle puts him out of commission for a while, pacing yourself is important . It might entail monitoring the media your consume, your friend circle or even where you go to for recreation . At least until you have more control over your own impulses. One failure can result in regression into blue pill behaviour, so self pacing is paramount.

    Furthermore, in regard to pacing yourself, even if you want to still engage with females, understand that you have to do so consciously, so as to avoid deluding yourself about the reality of your interaction with her . Don't condone toxic behaviour or try to pass it off as cute . Any such cop out results in a compromise in your values which a woman will continually push at until you either snap or you shove her back .Best to weed out such toxicity early . Decide early on whag you will and will not accept in essence whether romantic or otherwise .

    But most important I think , one has to have some form of frame work that gives their lives some stability . For some men it's a spiritual practice, for others intellectual or even physical . The important thing is that, you use that frame work as a contrast to determine what value a woman is having in your life . If her presence makes it difficult to pursue these things then maybe a rethink is in order . It's like the first statement I made, the human emotions and body are too primitive to comprehend intellectual proddings, so the easiest way is to provide a contrast where you can tangibly grasp the positive or negative impact certain decisions are having on your mind frame/life goals . In the long run, it's like the late Christopher Hitchens said about the bible and atheism, to steal his line a bit, with some artistic license of course, " the best proponent for not being in a romantic relationship with a woman, is actually being in one with a woman ". All you have to do is keep your eyes open and not start rationalising bad behaviour, any woman should shock you out of your delusions in a short while .

    Finally, I know this might not be for everyone, but there are practices in both psychology as a practice and also qigong which help to redirect the sexual impulses to other goals, if you are not averse to such, looking into it might help to provide more firepower to your arsenal .

    I hope you find my suggestions useful . Do have a great day .Cheers

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    Re: How to stop thinking about women?

    Difficult to advise a younger man, if you are. I don't think I would have listened, I enjoyed my 'PUA' years. But I will tell you that looking back, they were a waste of time.

    Yes I had status among men for so many notches, but what is it worth now? Fuck all. I guess one benefit is all that experience has made me determined to stay MGTOW now. But I'm late thirties.

    You can't eradicate your instincts, but with strength of mind you can resist much temptation, and channel your drive into something productive for yourself.

    Do things you enjoy and which build you up. Sort out your finances and make money. I will probably be 50 now before I'm set for life. You could achieve this much earlier. Then if you want to pump and dump, it'll be like shooting fish in a barrel.

    Listen to older, wise men, and play the long game.
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    Re: How to stop thinking about women?

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I feel like I'm against my own nature or perhaps female marketing is at all times high, I feel the pressure from my own subconscious whenever I go outside or anywhere on the internet some fine chick always picks up the interest of this monkey mind of mine, I do conscious effort to remind myself of this illusion but the unconscious is stronger.
    Masturbate daily to all the different women you have encountered during your life and porn can also be used. You can also use Tinder or other dating sites to masturbate on the chicks and when you have got orgasm you just swift left and move on because you won't "need" them anymore. The chicks don't see that you swift left.

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    Re: How to stop thinking about women?

    Quote Originally Posted by Kristian Lopus View Post
    Masturbate daily to all the different women you have encountered during your life and porn can also be used. You can also use Tinder or other dating sites to masturbate on the chicks and when you have got orgasm you just swift left and move on because you won't "need" them anymore. The chicks don't see that you swift left.

    Nothing wrong with the odd fap, but to do it daily? That sounds like swapping one addiction for another to me.

    @ OP

    Abstinence and time will work wonders. In the meantime try to keep all the pitfalls in mind. If you don't know what they are, try reading through some of our intros - they'll open your mind for sure.

    I feel like I'm against my own nature or perhaps female marketing is at all times high
    This is normal in the beginning. I was going to use your word 'natural' but that would be wrong. These feelings have been ingrained in you since birth, and it's mostly deliberate. You have been manipulated in to thinking that life without a woman is somehow incomplete when actually just the opposite is true.

    Once you shed this way of thinking whole worlds of possibility show themselves. Truly, MGTOW is the only way for a man to be happy in this day and age.

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    Re: How to stop thinking about women?

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    Nothing wrong with the odd fap, but to do it daily? That sounds like swapping one addiction for another to me.
    Yes daily so you won't be controlled by your sexuality. If you suppress your sexuality you will be manipulated by it because what you really suppress is your own awareness of it. This is the reason why many pervert sexual things happen in churches and monk societies.
    We have been indoctrinated by both gynocentric society and death cults of Abraham to believe that masturbation is many bad things. It's a lie. Masturbation gives the indvidual power back to his own sexuality.

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    Re: How to stop thinking about women?

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    death cults of Abraham
    This approaches a Principles violation, Thomas, aka Kristian, had you been a member. I'm leaving it in to point this out to you. Further ones may be redacted.
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    Re: How to stop thinking about women?

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    Yes daily so you won't be controlled by your sexuality. If you suppress your sexuality you will be manipulated by it because what you really suppress is your own awareness of it. This is the reason why many pervert sexual things happen in churches and monk societies.
    We have been indoctrinated by both gynocentric society and death cults of Abraham to believe that masturbation is many bad things. It's a lie. Masturbation gives the indvidual power back to his own sexuality.
    What complete and utter bollox.

    I agree that many perversions are carried out due to suppression of natural instincts, the Catholic Church is just one example, but to take one form of suppression and replace it with another is also flawed.

    Take heed of Unboxxed's warning. Non-member posts are also subject to scrutiny and moderation. He is being VERY tolerant of your post as an 'opposing view', but as with all things there are limits.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jackoff View Post
    What complete and utter bollox.

    I agree that many perversions are carried out due to suppression of natural instincts, the Catholic Church is just one example, but to take one form of suppression and replace it with another is also flawed.

    Take heed of Unboxxed's warning. Non-member posts are also subject to scrutiny and moderation. He is being VERY tolerant of your post as an 'opposing view', but as with all things there are limits.
    NoFap is bullshit and I have worked long on MGTOW groups on facebook to put at end to this nonsense. [Redacted the remainder of post as offensive and ridiculous - you have issues. I think your time here is coming to a close.]
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    NoFap is bullshit and I have worked long on MGTOW groups on facebook to put at end to this nonsense. [Redacted the remainder of post as offensive and ridiculous - you have issues. I think your time here is coming to a close.]
    My issue is people like you.

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    Re: How to stop thinking about women?

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    My issue is people like you.
    Dude, you are attracted to people like me. It's a love/hate thing.

    You don't believe in God. Got it.
    You don't believe in devils, you wrote. Got it.
    You wrote you believe nothing. Got it.

    So, while you place yourself outside of the religious realm with all of that, you decorate yourself with religious ideas in the usernames and email addresses that you give yourself. These ideas have meaning to religious people. But not to you, you said. They don't even represent your personal stance. Your use of them, therefore, is disrespectful and irreverent and is insulting to religious others. You should keep your offense in mind each time you try to assert a holier-than-thou attitude.

    Ha, see what I did there?

    You're attracted to me because in me you see connection. A quench for your thirst. I'm not your answer, but that is what you see.

    Let me tell you a story. I was on the public bus many years ago. A fellow on the bus came up to me, standing next to me as I was seated, and started preaching Christianity to me. IIRC, he had just finished up with another person on the bus. He gave me all the usual biblical quotes, and kept talking. He didn't know I already was Christian and I didn't tell him. Why didn't I join him or validate him, a fellow Christian, one might ask? Why did I remain silent?

    It was because I was distracted by a perception that occurred to me in that I didn't believe that he believed what he was saying. He didn't quite believe what he was saying. Not yet. I saw in him a specific thing that many people do, although not with religion. There are people who do not yet believe in a certain idea yet they repeat the idea to others as if they already do believe it, when they are instead really gauging how well received it is, to see if it is something they should also believe in. They are trialing ideas. People do this every day, actually, in repeating things they've heard, things they have not yet accepted internally, but they offer it as if it's coming from them, then they note what buy-in they get from others and what pushback they get, all responses are useful in them deciding what to ultimately believe. It's like people are performing surveys, constantly. It's very common in social conversation and slips right by. If you haven't already noticed it, try to notice it and, once you do, you may not be able to stop noticing it. (I see women do this a lot. They knowingly test out their delusions onto people and, if they see they get sufficient traction with their BS, they add the delusion to their arsenal and defend it like it's truth.)

    So, I believed the fellow on the bus was still trialing his thoughts. I should have affirmed him, but I didn't.

    I see you as searching for someone to take you on. Yet, no one does, do they, and, as time goes by, your unchecked ideas begin to warp into odd ideas and bitter snipes, such as your recent comment that I redacted where you said, and I'm cleaning it up here, that centuries of religion were caused by "Incel losers". I can only imagine what weird stuff you were dishing out on facebook. When the returns were too diminished there, you went looking for fresh ground by coming here.

    Your dislike of me is only symbolic. You're attracted to that from which you rebel. You are not content with who you are and so you're acting out, searching for your daddy to spank you. So many people nowadays are, in plain sight, looking for discipline.
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    Re: How to stop thinking about women?

    It was because I was distracted by a perception that occurred to me in that I didn't believe that he believed what he was saying. He didn't quite believe what he was saying. Not yet. I saw in him a specific thing that many people do, although not with religion. There are people who do not yet believe in a certain idea yet they repeat the idea to others as if they already do believe it, when they are instead really gauging how well received it is, to see if it is something they should also believe in. They are trialing ideas. People do this every day, actually, in repeating things they've heard, things they have not yet accepted internally, but they offer it as if it's coming from them, then they note what buy-in they get from others and what pushback they get, all responses are useful in them deciding what to ultimately believe. It's like people are performing surveys, constantly. It's very common in social conversation and slips right by. If you haven't already noticed it, try to notice it and, once you do, you may not be able to stop noticing it. (I see women do this a lot. They knowingly test out their delusions onto people and, if they see they get sufficient traction with their BS, they add the delusion to their arsenal and defend it like it's truth.)
    dd

    This rings true to the memory of my former self. I also noticed this more in men without fathers, or with weak fathers, like myself.
    So yes I can see the OP is 'seeking the father'.
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    Re: How to stop thinking about women?

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    NoFap is bullshit and I have worked long on MGTOW groups on facebook to put at end to this nonsense.
    And just who mentioned NoFap in this thread before you? I think that you're enamoured with your your own dick and can't leave it alone. You know you have a problem and are looking to justify your actions by promoting it to others.

    See a doctor. Seek help.

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    Fuck kicking this clown intellectually.

    Call Curby from Hoboken and do it the old fashioned way!
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    Re: How to stop thinking about women?

    I shut him off. He's doing one-line stick-poking at this point.
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    OP, why would you want to stop thinking about women? The harder you try not to think of something, the more the thoughts will creep themselves up. Hetero sexual men are "programmed" by the cosmos/ evolution/ God/ the flying spaghetti monster or our programmers (whatever the F you believe in) to get attracted towards females, their round shapes and childish voices etc. Furthermore, like it or not, they make up 50-ish % of the total population. So it's kind of hard to avoid them. And even if you'd try that, you'd still think of them.
    Unless there's a deeper question in your post. "How not to obsess over women?"
    Now here's the thing. Like already mentioned: treat it like an addiction. I see an addiction as being depending on something you don't necessarily need for survival. But with not using the substance you'll get the same impulses as to things you need for survival. Like alcohol, drugs, gambling a.s.o. That's the craving. For me the trick is not to give in to that craving. It'll take practice but you'll get there. You see a good looking chick walking past you on the street and OMG! She's even wearing the clothes you find very sexy as well!! Off go all the "alerts" in your system and they're screaming hell to go chase that pussy!!! Everything you've read/ saw here and elsewhere seems like it's in the Andromeda system for all you care. You want her and you want her now!!! Just don't do anything. Don't even walk on and stand still. Pretend you're looking at something or tying your shoe laces. The urge will fade away. With enough practice you'll even become indifferent to them. "wow, nice looking chick. Oh, look: an awesome sports car, oh wow: that house looks nice." And 5 seconds later you've forgotten the whole thing. Like TFM said: "vagina. Nothing to see. Just move on people."

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    Dont try to stop. Its useless. Think as much as you can. For instance visualize them in your mind while they are pooping. They are humans. They gotta poop. See how you feel after you visualized that enough times.

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    Re: How to stop thinking about women?

    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
    I feel like I'm against my own nature or perhaps female marketing is at all times high, I feel the pressure from my own subconscious whenever I go outside or anywhere on the internet some fine chick always picks up the interest of this monkey mind of mine, I do conscious effort to remind myself of this illusion but the unconscious is stronger.
    Hello there. Generally your interest with go up or down depending on what you know about female psychology, getting more in-depth is important to form opinions that benefit you. Personally i never get interested even with 5 girls showing me interest IRL currently because sexual validation is meaningless.

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    Re: How to stop thinking about women?

    Thanks for the post. Fortunately I don't have that problem. Gay.


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