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    Who I Am; How I Came To Be

    Hello, everyone. If any of you participate on pro-male subs on reddit, you might recognize my name from there.


    My whole life, I always assumed that I was a basically normal guy. I never thought that I was very remarkable. For example, I've received interest from the opposite sex ever since I was about twelve years old (maybe even earlier) and I always thought that was normal. Some of those members of the opposite sex were more desirable than others, of course. But the point is that the opposite sex has pretty much always been interested in me. So, when I see stories on reddit where men say that a woman has literally never expressed any sort of romantic interest in them, I can't relate to that. I've never experienced that.


    Like I say, I was always relatively successful with women. But I had a pretty nasty breakup with my first real girlfriend in college. The usual. I was "emotionally unavailable" (because I was working lamf to make good grades in school while simultaneously one of my grandparents was dying; did I have a lot on my mind at the time?) so she cheated and left me. In that order.


    After the usual months-long depression ended, I emerged a different man. For example, I quickly discovered that getting laid in college required practically no effort whatsoever. I never knew that before because I had always been with my cheating ex. But in the first month of going back to college after the breakup, I slept with three girls from school, plus a 30'ish year old cougar neighbor from my apartment.


    When you hate yourself, either you don't believe others when then they say they love you or else you hate them for loving you. For some sick reason, women are drawn to that and will virtually throw themselves at your feet.


    And, of course, the easier it is to sleep with them, the more you hate them. The more you hate them, the more they want you to like them. The more they want you to like them, the easier it is to sleep with them. It's like a vicious circle or something. At one point, a girl begged me to let her come over to my apartment to do spicy things.


    I told her no, get lost. Just to be an asshole.


    Needless to say, I was going through a pretty intense bad boy phase.


    All of this contributed to my red pilling. Men did not like it when I mistreated them -- which was totally understandable. But women seemingly couldn't get enough of it -- which was totally incomprehensible.


    Now, one thing that legit slowed my red pilling down was the statistically improbable number of "successful" marriages I was surrounded by. Many friends and family all seemed happily married. Afaik, nobody ever cheated on anybody else in those marriages and nobody has ever been through a bone-grinding, suicide-contemplating divorce or anything else. Of course, there's no way to know how happy my friends and family truly are behind closed doors. But outwardly, they all seem like happy couples.


    That convinced me that marriage was possible. And maybe it is in a statistically irrelevant number of cases. But the fact remains that marriage is simply not a good idea for most men. I didn't know that tho, so I got married. You can all probably guess how much sex we had about one month after the ceremony.


    I had put away the bad boy, I had treated my wife like a queen and I never missed a chance to put her first. You can all guess how the marriage ended. I'm still coping with some aspects of that, in fact. Nothing is a bigger wake up call than your wife saying "I need to find myself" after years of making her #1 in your life.


    So, here I am.

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    Re: Who I Am; How I Came To Be

    Would you look at that, a fuckin Chad. Owen, you must be the first.

    Most members probably don't have much to say to your average cocksmith. But since your signing up, you must not be your ordinary everyday Chad. Oh well, it takes all kinds. Welcome.

    A lot of of us been burned by Chads cutting us out over the years. I don't think we'll hold that against you, but you might want to remember it till we get to know you better.
    Every day I make the world a little bit worse.

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    Re: Who I Am; How I Came To Be

    Welcome. I think Chads are, in some sense, in a worse position than normal guys, because they get targeted by women. Yes, they get laid more, but they also get more of all of the downsides, too. They get funneled into the "system" in a way normal guys don't, because the rewards are so easy to come by. So they end up living out the traditional scripts. Not a fate I'd envy.

    Anyhow, welcome to the group. Glad you found your way here.

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    Re: Who I Am; How I Came To Be

    Quote Originally Posted by frog View Post
    A lot of of us been burned by Chads cutting us out over the years. I don't think we'll hold that against you, but you might want to remember it till we get to know you better.
    Suddenly, I'm glad I didn't share certain other anecdotes.

    Quote Originally Posted by Eddie Haskell View Post
    Anyhow, welcome to the group. Glad you found your way here.
    You can thank Sandman for that because he mentioned GYOW in one of his recent videos.

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    Re: Who I Am; How I Came To Be

    Hey Owen, great to have you! Hope you’ll expand on the marriage. So I won’t do anything stupid lol. Btw Watching Sex / Life at the moment. Not very enticing picture of a marriage.

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    Re: Who I Am; How I Came To Be

    It is very hard to consider another opinion (GYOW & MGTOW) when women are treating you like a king, people like to say that only people with bad experiences forego women and it's true...otherwise you never break out of that conditioned propaganda. Welcome to the community, Owen.


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