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  1. #1
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    Oh Hello, Long-time Lurker, First-time etc. etc.

    Thought it was about time to register and introduce myself.

    I'm almost 40, no kids, never been close to married. I look like a thin Chad, but I spent the formative years and beyond socially awkward - so I am not Chad, I just look like him. The Awkward Chad character has produced interesting and sometimes comedic results.

    Relationship History
    Iíve had many short-term relationships and two long-term ones. The long-term ones were one year each; both went on longer than they should have.

    Long term one was pretty typical in a lot of ways: primary interests included boys, travel, watching Sex in the City, and becoming impregnated. I was always trying to find ways to make money or learn new skills, and she was basically only interested in travel (costs money) and having children (costs a fuckload of money). Who was going to pay for that? Who is currently paying for that? I donít know. Itís probably not her. And itís definitely not me, which is pretty cool. Overall it confirmed the MGTOW theme that women ride the CC and then find a man later who will provide - whether he wants to or not it seems. I guess it was just my turn that year. Iím alright with it. She was pretty hot.

    Long term two was 16 years younger than me, so Itís fairer to say that I learned more about myself in relation to relationships than I did about women. The cycle appeared: fun and games in the beginning, the inevitable dead bedroom about a third of the way through, and finally, inevitably, her cheating. I didnít care because I lost interest in her sexually, like I always do. I pretty much only like the first month, maybe a max of three months. During that time, I am filled with excitement and hope. But after that time, I am annoyed and kind of repulsed, even if theyíre attractive. I donít know what it is, man.

    These two relationships were bookended by a bunch of short-term relationships. Women would always get hurt when I would end things after a month or two, and I only recently realized at least part of the reason: they had stakes in me. When we sat across from each other, she was trying to determine if Iíd be a good husband and/or father and/or provider and/or emotional support animal; meanwhile I was trying to determine how to get her to my place later. I really didnít think much about the future because I donít need women to support me. Thatís all they were thinking about, I guess because they need a man to support them (to put it another way, they need a man from whom to extract resources).

    TRP Awareness
    I always behaved more purple-pilled, I just didnít call it that. I only knew something was wrong. Just like in the film The Matrix when Morpheus says, ďWhat you know you can't explain, but you feel it. You've felt it your entire life, that there's something wrong with the world. You don't know what it is, but it's there, like a splinter in your mind, driving you mad.Ē

    After almost 20 years of the above relationships, and almost 20 years of seeing people pair off, get married, and have children, I started to wonder what was going on. Why am I the only one still single? Should I be concerned about this? Why do these people want to be in these relationships when misery is a frequent dinner guest? Half of marriages end in divorce, and a probably high number of the half still together donít want to be. It seemsÖdumb. But then thereís loneliness to contend with, so maybe they think misery is better than loneliness. Maybe I think freedom is better than misery and worth any loneliness I feel. I didnít know, but I was beginning to ask the questions.

    The way I ended up taking the big red one was kind of random: someone said I was MGTOW. I looked it up. I didnít think much of it; MGTOW has some pretty significant PR hurdles. However, probably years later, I was watching Fight Club, and I remembered MGTOW, and so wanted to see if there were any articles about the relationship between that film and the MGTOW lifestyle. Thatís probably when Morpheus emerged with his cool glasses double-fisting that decongestant.

    (Fun fact about Fight Club if you were not aware: in the novel, the main character and Marla do not end up together. Oh Hollywood.)

    Anyway, since then, I see it all around me, and I have let it change me. I have had a lot of female friends in my life and, looking back, I see that I was an emotional tampon for some of them, and was not often afforded this service from them when I needed it myself. I am now on the lookout for any parasitic behavior like this, and I set the boundary accordingly.

    For Unboxxed

    When it comes to romantic/emotional relationships, I am firmly out of that game: I am quite indifferent to women. I do want to get laid, though, but even getting laid has become a good deal of workÖand risk, so I might end up a ghost before long. Accordingly I consider myself a bachelor, since I will put myself in the presence of a woman in a one-on-one fashion if it feels promising that our boots might knock.


    In my free time, I do outdoorsy things. I also love spending my time learning about stuff that seems well beyond me at the outset. Recently Iíve been diving into crypto and web3, for example.

  2. #2
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    May 2014
    Bumfuck, Egypt

    Re: Oh Hello, Long-time Lurker, First-time etc. etc.

    Nice job meursault, good intro.

    Every day I make the world a little bit worse.

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    Re: Oh Hello, Long-time Lurker, First-time etc. etc.

    Hi meursault,

    At this time, as a new member please read our Principles by clicking on that word at the top of this page, in the black bar.

    Thank you and welcome.
    The two most important days in your life are the day you were born and the day you find out why. - Mark Twain

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    Re: Oh Hello, Long-time Lurker, First-time etc. etc.

    Hey meursault! Welcome to the forums!

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