Thread: I am Joe and after lots of pain and heartache I have decided to go my own way.

Hello everyone,
My name is Joe and I have chosen to go my own way. Long story short I learned about the red pill when I was trying to figure out why my wife was doing what she was doing. I found it strictly by accident and have been hooked ever since. I love Vox, Dalrock, and the Chateau and read them religiously. I thought I was "red pilled" but unfortunately I was digesting the content but not taking it to heart. I orginally was in a dead bedroom with my wife. I tried to divorce her back when I found the red pill but she used sex and pretending to be what I wanted to keep me hooked. That was back in 2015. Fast forward to end of 2018 and begining of 2019. I was having major health issues. I was retired from the Military back ini 2012 because of MS. My wife was already starting to act up then. But at the end of 2018 I developed kidney stones. Lots of pain. She was not supportive at all like I was for her with all her problems. Then I discovered that I also had gall stones and had to get my gall bladder removed. Again no nothing from her. I should have expected as much from all the red pill stuff I was supposedly digesting. Come Valentines Day 2019. I found a pack of pregnancy tests and upon further inspection I found a set of nine cards written to another man professing how much she loved him and wanted to feel every inch of him yada yada yada. We I then grew a pair when to my attorney and now I am divorced and I am going my own way. I was not divorce raped too hard but freedom is worth it. She now wants me back but I again told her that I will help her move but we are done. I have to help a little to keep the peace for my son. Here in a week I will be on my own finally.

As far as blue pill. Christ. I am still trying to recover. It is one thing to read red pill knowledge it is quite another to put it into practice. I am still trying but I think that at 45 I am done with relationships all together. I learned long ago to never say never but I can say that I am done with women. I do not want to be a dancing monkey for their entertainment for a piece of ass. If I want ass I figure it will be better to just go buy it instead of investing that money for bullshit and dealing with women on any level except physical.

As I said before I am 45 and newly divorced. I have a son who is 10. I made the mistake when I married her that she already have a daughter. I raised someone else's spawn, put through college, and everything else with not even a thank you for anything. I was burnt badly by this and want no more of it.

I do not hate woman but I know what they are due to the red pill and will act accordingly. I am new to the MGTOW thing but have been a long time lurker. I think monk mode at least for the short term is what I am going to do.

As far as likes it has been so long since I have done anything for myself that I need to figure it out again. I loved being an Officer and a Soldier but now I have to figure out what I really want to do and love doing. I don't know if that is weird I just don't know who I am and need this time to figure it out.

Thank you for writing a good intro and welcome to the forum. The mods and other forum members will also review your intro and may well ask for elaboration on various points, but my impression is that you put a genuine effort into writing a good intro. It passes the "is it relatable" test, in my opinion.

Welcome home Joe!

(JoeS registered back in September 2014 and had never posted a message and had not logged in since that first day. As many of you may know, I am following up on lack of Intros from members old and new to see if these members still exist and if they are really MGTOW or what, and coincidentally I saw him on the site today so I PM'd him to see if he wanted to participate or if he only wanted to view the site moving forward like our many Unregistered Guests. JoeS has chosen to introduce himself and we can see from his story why he showed up today.)

Hi JoeS,

Thank you for making your Intro. Geez, I can only imagine the stab in the heart you received on Valentine's Day. Or was it the twist of the knife after her indifference to you before then? I am glad that you are not taking her back. Whatever is in her head right now, guaranteed it is fucked up.

I raised someone else's spawn, put through college, and everything else with not even a thank you for anything. I was burnt badly by this and want no more of it.

Amazing, and it's true. You were a resource.

Welcome, sir, and I see that you see that you now deserve your primary attention.

Welcome Joe S.

It's sad to think that between your career and your marriage you had no time for any interests of your own. No sports, no hobby's, Nothing? I guess that's the plantation for you.

Joe, you got to find something positive to do. There's a lot more to life than serving the plantation. It ought be easy after what you been through, but it will probably turn out to be a fight. It don't have to be self destructive, though that's what a lot a divorced guys end up doing. Is there something you and you son could take up? That would be a good place to start.

I almost skipped this post. I was stationed in a time and place where they didn't need good soldiers, and Uncle Sugar took full advantage of that fact. Ninety nine percent of the officers sent there were rookies or assholes, and I hated them all. But you sound like a good guy, so I guess in your case anyway, it's time to bury the hatchet. Welcome, and get to work on a life of your own. Cause you sure ain't had one so far.

Thank you. I am willing to expand on anything. Just trying to learn how to live life on my own terms.

Thanks. You know I am at the point where I really do not care what she thinks or what she wants. She moves out of the house on Saturday. I move out next Wed. She is going to take the boy for the first weekend and I am fine with that. It will be the first time in forever that I will be by myself and in peace!!!!!!!

I find that being alone with my thoughts is something that I have come to appreciate. Being able to sit with a cup of coffee or doing some task that keeps my hands busy, allows me the luxury of being able to think over things. Once you start doing that, it becomes increasingly obvious both how and why the plantation slaves are not allowed any time to their own. They might start thinking for themselves, and the SlaveMasters can't allow that.

I can totally relate to the knowledge in theory and difficulty in application in reality - there is wide schism between the two. Female treachery and manipulation using male sexual needs is 101 in men's utility and discarding by women.

At 45 controlling your sex drive shouldn't be as hard as when you were 19. Use this to your advantage and take few years (yes years) to deprogram yourself. Happiness is very possible if you make the efforts for it. Never take a step backwards. Keep moving forwards. You got an army of like-minded men here.

Cheers

Welcome JoeS, wow, just yesterday I was approached by a married women I've known for quite some time (platonic), and yes, it's men that enable them to do the atrocious things they do by empowering them with attention and moral compromise, more and more the older I get I see the pieces to the puzzle of female empowerment and how it's brought our civilization to new depths of moral disparity. I'm glad to let you know I nipped it in the bud by full rejection of her advancements and willy nilly sacrificing her husband and family for some clandestine love affair.

Trust me when I say, under this gynocentric system of liberating women to do whatever they please without repercussions or accountability is proving to be the death null of our once splendid civilization, there's no refuge from this moral decrepitude out side of solidarity and total independence from women altogether, otherwise heartache, headache, and strife is sure to curse your life and alter your happiness to despair and desperation.

I am a free man from this cultural calamity and will never return to the pigs trough of sexual gratification on false pretenses. Female empowerment was achieved by male demotions from our good and rightful place in society, just stand back and let it burn on it's own accord and no harm will come to you. As a society we're at the X roads of destiny, there's no more avenues to exhaust or measures to take, it's ordained we make a stand and not give in or budge an inch!

Welcome to the show!

Welcome to GYOW I hope you enjoy your stay here. See you on the forum.
All the best

Although a little short, this is a relatable intro. Welcome.

What made you suspicious your wife was with another man? Any tell tale signs?

JoeS, thank you for sharing your story. I am a new member, too, and looks like we're the same age give or take a few months.

I also - while hoping to meet a woman worth 'dating' - am not averse to partaking in the oldest profession.

If you haven't discovered Happy Humble Hermit you may enjoy his channel, along with huMAN and Terence Popp / Redonkulas.

Enjoy the process of re-discovering yourself - it's taken me some time but I really enjoy nature (ocean/mountains/trees) and solid exercise. Yeah, and some video games from time to time. Hobbies and outdoor activities are so important and are also a great way to bond with your son who you are blessed to have. If I had the space for it I'd definitely get a dog. There isn't enough to be said for just being gentle with yourself, especially since your divorce and this pain is recent. If you haven't done any therapy, you may consider that which helped me through confusion and red pill rage. I found Dr. Tara Palmatier (shrink4men) quite helpful, both her videos and direct coaching sessions.