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Last edited by JustaThought; April 4, 2022 at 7:17 PM.
Every little thing you give up for a woman or give her some power to, a little piece of that man is missing.
It's a man's world and we need to take it by the throat and make it give us what we desire.
A lot of guys just let the woman decide things, they eat what she decides to cook (or buy), they wear what she buys him, they watch what she likes to watch, a lot of men lose their friendships once in a relationship as well.
One of the saddest things I have seen is a couple having a discussion about what type of laundry detergent to buy. I can see how most men would just buy whichever is cheapest or whatever and not care.
I guess there is always a pay off somewhere. The men just see it as not having to go clothes shopping for themselves.They are most likely doing a lot for her as well.
Nothing you can tell the fella at work other than to stop being a simp and get away from his wife - in that case it could just as well be that it's easier to keep her than deal with the fallout of divorce so he's stuck whether he likes it or not, he's pretty fucked if he knows anything about what waits for him in court should he displease his dominatrix hah.
No easy way out for him, remember there was a topic about "how to divorce your wife" somewhere on the forum - that would be helpful if he wants to start planning his eventual freedom.
Most people don't want freedom, they just want security & the freedom to not be responsible for making choices.
One of my Army buddies near got divorced over this. After being in boot camp or overseas for two years, his wife decided he was hopelessly out of fashion, and demanded he wear a bunch a new clothing he hated. They ended up divorcing, though there was more to it than his wardrobe. She wanted to run his entire life, but after two years in the Army, that wasn't going to fly.
Every day I make the world a little bit worse.
You made me laugh with recognition of this.
I figure if you are married, there will be things where you let the other one take control and vice versa, and seeing how women are so opinionated on clothes and appearances in general, I could see a man who did not care as much about that, letting her do it. He did marry her not just for sex but for helpmate reasons, too.
I used to wear one of those grey Mickey Mouse T-shirts that I got from Disneyland. After many years and many washings, Mickey lost his luster and the threads were wearing thin. I had a girlfriend who kept bugging me to get rid of it but, hey, I liked it! Several years after I broke up with her, the T-shirt was getting ratty even to my standards such that I finally decided to get rid of it.
So, I mailed it to her.
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The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. - Henry David Thoreau
There are 10 types of people in the world - those who understand binary, and those who don't.
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No, you didn't read too much into it. Your assessment is spot on. Despite women's domineering nature they hate being put in a position to make decisions. So, as you said, that's a little bit of power your friend is giving up to her incrementally, and a man with no power in the relationship is a man with no respect. She probably feels comfortable jabbing her index finger against his forehead in an argument.
Letting her buy him clothes like a little boy is already too far. You give women an inch they'll take 100 miles. There's no way she can respect him, and as a man, if you don't have a woman's respect in a relationship you have nothing.
Last edited by Hedon; November 23, 2021 at 1:53 AM.
Im so glad I'm single. I don't have to be nagged at and told how I'm wrong Wrong freaking wrong all the time.
It's a control thing, and the man knows it's better to let her have her have her own way and choose his cloths like he's some sort of child or pet.
He knows it's better to let her have her way than being constantly belittled and ridiculed for making his own choices. She'd always be making snide comments about his "poor" taste in cloths.
If you doubt it's a control thing, then reverse the genders, and you can see how abusive it is.
The same goes for buying a house, and all real estate agents know it. Men rationalize it to cope by saying "I don't care"
I have some articles of clothing from the 80's in mint condition, never worn. Guess why?
Corruption, like low tide, lowers all boats and smashes their hulls on the rocks.
I can understand the idea of some men not caring about fashion. But still, allowing your wife to pick out your clothes is a problem. You cede a small amount of control here, a small amount there and it adds up pretty quickly.
Women instinctively seek to control, dominate and emasculate. It's not their fault either, it's how they're built. They're also built to resent any man who allows them to dominate. So, when you allow her to make decisions for you, you're ultimately breeding hatred from her.
Not my problem. But the guy whose wife buys his clothes for him will eventually turn to the Dark Side. And when she does, her soon-to-be ex won't know what hit him.
LOL!!
I have a bunch too
My Ex of 23 years bought my clothes. I thought she did it to not feel guilty for all the clothes she bought. She went on a shopping spree every month. Its been 4 years since my divorce, this is my list of clothes purchased
Socks
Underwear
handful of shirts , hats and shorts for sports
Tennis shoes 6-8 pairs over the 4 years
Hiking boots 1 pair
Since I buy my clothes at Costco, it cant be more than a couple hundred bucks
She would spend that much on a sweater that she would wear a couple times. The rest of my clothes are from when I was married, and some never worn
Guys, we dont need money
Me? Give some tacos and a beer...Im good
Seems like a pretty "normal" story to me Men put all their effort into attracting the female. Once they have her, and life has settled into a routine, men are fine with that. In fact, we thrive in it. Most men put a lot of energy into their work, so there's not much left by the time they get home. No more romantic gestures, no more planning and deciding. It's easier to just let her do all that. As pointed out, this inevitably leads to some level of resentment. Rare is the woman that can muddle through work and a mundane home life like a man can.
The two most important days in your life are the day you were born and the day you find out why. - Mark Twain
The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. - Henry David Thoreau
There are 10 types of people in the world - those who understand binary, and those who don't.
Suitable for bookmarking: www.fakehatecrimes.org and www.breitbart.com/tag/hate-crime-hoax
Seriously?
I’m finding it hard to see a problem here.
From what you say the guy is happy with his other half choosing and buying his clothes for him.
Personally I couldn’t stand it. I'm happy with my 5 year old tees and 7 year old jeans, but if he doesn’t have a problem then why should anyone else?
Some men like to be controlled. Most women like to control.
If they can find each other then I’m happy for both of them.
It’s not gonna be my life though!
Last edited by Jackoff; November 23, 2021 at 7:56 PM. Reason: Grammar
Married guys give up all their power the second they put the ring on. Because they're fucking delusional.
And they think they have the power. I love nothing more than listening to TRP guys talking about how they have the power in marriage, like they live under some fucked up cult.
Any relationship over 6 months you lose. Even that's probably too long, but that's the longest I go. Keeps the honeymoon period and lets you slope down on months 5 and 6.
Marry? You're a powerless bitch. You should only even consider FWBs or Lovers where you have 100% of the power. If she's not submissive and on board with you having 100% of the power and the relationship 100% for you, don't get into it.
Any other method fucks you and puts you in danger. Any relationship does, but you have to approach it as if you're dealing with a known serial killer.
Yeah, sometimes married guys claim to be RP'ed, they've got it all under control, etc. All I can think is that guy's wife must be running one hell of a game on him.
I mean, don't get the wrong idea. I can see a guy getting RP'ed after the wedding. I'm sure there are married RP guys out there. They didn't know any better, they got married, here comes TRP, what are they supposed to do, you know?
But these guys who claim to be TRP'ed and the husbands regulate on their wives, the husbands are totally in control, etc., no, I'm calling bullshit on that right now.