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    Why Self-Esteem is Essential for Bachelors (MGTOW)

    Hey folks, I just finished the second in my series on self-esteem. In this piece, I explain why self-esteem is essential to develop, if you want to live a happy, satisfying life as a bachelor (i.e., gyow). I hope you find it helpful or thought-provoking.

    https://goodbachelorhood.com/why-sel...for-bachelors/

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    Re: Why Self-Esteem is Essential for Bachelors (MGTOW)

    This is excellent work. I hope younger men find this material early so they can skip some of the hard knocks we pre-internet guys had to go through. I found a few books along the way that helped explain the situation with women and relationships, such as Warren Farrell and other critiques of feminism. But there was nothing specifically addressed to men who try to build an independent life in this strange landscape. You've put together a lot of great information in a friendly presentation.

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    Re: Why Self-Esteem is Essential for Bachelors (MGTOW)

    The affirmation is so real I could have wrote it!

    If only I could sit down and talk to myself at 10 years old!

    Do you have a trick up your sleeve for that?

    I thank god all-mighty I didn't have the WOKE serpents of today whispering in my ear back then! Pure evil and emasculation is all they know, it's the state's new religion from cradle to grave!
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    Quote Originally Posted by McDudeski McGee View Post
    What you wrote about the life script stood out to me the most. Everything institutionally and culturally is organized for producing the next generation and it can't be any other way, since the next generation by definition is what survives. And this means competing to acquire resources for your group, however conceived, which ultimately means for women and children. But for a bachelor, life is not a contest where people win and lose. As an example, unless one really loves the subject, how much time does any of us really need to spend on politics? In the old days our grandfathers would read the paper every Sunday morning. Done. No more for the week. When there is a personal void, it is really easy to try to fill it with a tribal ersatz identity -- becoming a sportsball follower, a capeshit fan, a music fanboi, a political partisan.

    I'm going to do a better job defining who I am and who I am not. There is garbage in my life gobbling up neurons that can simply be discarded. Some priorities need to be reranked.

    Again, thanks!
    You're welcome. In addition to what you mentioned about the cultural scripting, I have been coming to appreciate how much of the scripting is biologically hardwired into us. It's one thing to unlearn cultural programming but another to unlearn how you are wired, especially when the wiring goes deep. Getting older helps, I've noticed.

    And yes, I agree, defining who you are (and aren't) is very important. What you want, what you don't want. What you value, what you don't value, etc. I want to cover that a bit in the next piece.

    But for a bachelor, life is not a contest where people win and lose.
    I was never a very competitive guy (except in arguments, I suppose), but I've noticed that after I've become a committed bachelor, my relationships with other men are much more easygoing. I used to notice this subtle dynamic where we'd be trying to get "one up" on each other -- not in any big way, just little subtle ways. But that has gone away. I wonder how much that is because I have "unplugged" from the standard male scripts? Hard to say. Maybe I'm just older and can't be arsed, lol.

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    Re: Why Self-Esteem is Essential for Bachelors (MGTOW)

    Quote Originally Posted by BeenThereDoneThat View Post
    This is excellent work. I hope younger men find this material early so they can skip some of the hard knocks we pre-internet guys had to go through. I found a few books along the way that helped explain the situation with women and relationships, such as Warren Farrell and other critiques of feminism. But there was nothing specifically addressed to men who try to build an independent life in this strange landscape. You've put together a lot of great information in a friendly presentation.
    Thank you. I'm trying to speak to men who are like me, both younger and my age, and give them a hand up. It was something I wish I'd had, when I was younger and struggling.

    I'm glad it's coming across as friendly. I want to pass along some things I've learned, but I don't want to sound like some all-knowing expert, speaking from on high. I'm still figuring things out, too. You never really stop learning (or at least I hope not).

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    Re: Why Self-Esteem is Essential for Bachelors (MGTOW)

    I'm all for this. I see so much frustration in single people, both men and women. I think the world would be a better place if more people could learn to live confidently by themslves. Too many people still believe that happiness will come from an external source. A person isn't some object you can just add to your life and be happy.

    I fell into that trap in my youth, thinking having a girlfriend would make me happy. Then I'd find one and all I wanted was to be single again.


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