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    Re: What's the best way to decline a blind date request at work?

    Quote Originally Posted by nameless View Post
    Thanks for all the advice guys, I really appreciate all of it.

    I can't use the poor finances card even though it's a good one. The problem is I am employed for my expertise with money so saying I'm struggling personally with it would not be a good thing.

    I also can't bring myself to say I'm "gay", or something similar (or worse like "I'm actually a trans woman"). I feel like it would be a self-induced attack on my very being. I'd rather keep my self-dignity than my job by supplicating in that way.

    So I've thought about this and my plan is as follows:

    1. Pretend it was never brought up. There's a chance she might forget about it or take it as a hint.
    2. If she brings it up again, tell her that I feel it's important to commit yourself 100% to a relationship and that I'm unable to do that with the ongoing pandemic. I don't want to begin something if I can't do it right and now is not a good time, even though her recommendation looks like a great girl.
    3. In case she still applies pressure after the above, just keep declining, "no thanks, not right now", "no, I'm sorry, I just can't". Not afraid of this because there's no way she can convince me to go down a path I don't want to go down on.

    The biggest problem is she's somewhat of an "alpha" female so chances are she already promised something to that girl/her mother. If that's the case, she's going to lose face because she'll be someone who doesn't end up doing what she said she could/would. If that happens, that's on her. Not my problem.

    I don't hate my boss, I've only worked for her for about three years, and then again you can never truly know someone. She treats me pretty well so I have zero desire in harming her over this in any way (although as weird as it sounds... she's different around me, almost likes she attracted to me. I know what it's like when women come on to you, and I get the same vibes here). Technically, I'm flattered in a way (even though there's always ulterior motives). But with that in mind, can you imagine if the roles were reversed? And an older, male boss went to his subordinate, younger, female employee and said he'd have a great match for her?

    In my view, it shouldn't be a big deal, but society has twisted everything horribly.

    And that is I why I've said to hell with women. I don't even need to have sex. I've reached a point where there's literally nothing a woman can do to control me. I just live my life doing what brings me inner fulfillment. The only women I care about anymore or have any contact with are my immediate family (mother, etc.). I would do anything for them. They're as pure hearted and real as it gets. The only thing that gives "unicorns" any sort of credibility in my mind. But they certainly don't exist amongst the younger population anymore, that's for sure.
    Fuck, I can't bring myself to say I'm "gay" either! It's just cringingly weird. WEIRD! Or say "I'm trans-woman" either!

    I'm a male, outcast bred to wield power of my being, and say fuck the world! I am a male who does what he wants. If I want to work for men, I shall. If I want to work for myself, I shall. But no, to working for women! Fuck that!

    I had experienced working for a young woman, and she was a fucking tyrant. Most of the workers quit working for her. She fucking worked them under terrible condition, and my older buddies and I hated her. That was 7 years ago. Never again.
    Later, she got caught and got fired for upgrading the customers's drink to a large, (formerly Sabarro on the west coast), when the customers didn't order a large drink, and they were furious with her, because they all wanted to small drink or medium drinks. So, customers hated her, for that, and they lodged numerous complaints. One buddy, Allen met two executives from the company Sabarro, and they asked Allen, where is Britney, because they have been getting complaint about her. Allen pointed at her, and said, "she's over there". And I wasn't there, but later Allen told me, that the bitch got herself in trouble, and eventually was fired from her position as a manager.

    Allen and I were best friends that day, (and still are, to this day), and we sworn loyalty for each other. We had no loyalty for that selfish bitch of a manager.


    So, I recommend that men work for men or go work for themselves, because young women as managers, are very harsh and selfish. Young women that become managers don't care about their workers or their customers. They only care about the money. Avoid hiring young women as managers, and avoid working under them. These bitches are just wicked, and only care about money. AVOID, AVOID AVOID YOUNG WOMEN!!! AT ALL COSTS!!!

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    Re: What's the best way to decline a blind date request at work?

    Quote Originally Posted by WarChief View Post
    You chose to work for a female and now you seek advice? That's like purposely getting a disease and then asking what to do about the symptoms. You've caused your own doom, live with the consequences and be damned.
    Female bosses suck. Agreed.

    Cut him some slack.

    Sometimes you just don't have a choice. Not all of us are Bitcoin millionaires or Space Shuttle door gunners.
    Last edited by sam luis obispo; January 7, 2022 at 1:53 PM.
    An escort is a woman you occasionally financially support only when she has sex with you.

    A date is a woman you occasionally financially support in the hope she will have sex with you.

    A wife is a woman you constantly financially support even when she is not having sex with you.

    An ex-wife is a woman you constantly financially support with alimony so she can have sex......with someone else.

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    Re: What's the best way to decline a blind date request at work?

    Quote Originally Posted by UnKnownSurviving View Post
    F

    I had experienced working for a young woman, and she was a fucking tyrant. Most of the workers quit working for her. She fucking worked them under terrible condition, and my older buddies and I hated her. That was 7 years ago. Never again.
    Later, she got caught and got fired for upgrading the customers's drink to a large, (formerly Sabarro on the west coast), when the customers didn't order a large drink, and they were furious with her, because they all wanted to small drink or medium drinks. So, customers hated her, for that, and they lodged numerous complaints. One buddy, Allen met two executives from the company Sabarro, and they asked Allen, where is Britney, because they have been getting complaint about her. Allen pointed at her, and said, "she's over there". And I wasn't there, but later Allen told me, that the bitch got herself in trouble, and eventually was fired from her position as a manager.
    For our non-American brethren, Sabarro is a chain of fast food stores, located almost exclusively in shopping malls.

    Working in fast food places for minimum wage when you are a teenager for 'managers' who are barely out of their teens is supposed to suck.

    It is supposed to motivate you to go learn a trade, or become a merchant seaman, or work on an off-shore oil rig, or become a hit man for the CIA.

    Are you the Judge Reinhold character in "Fast Times at Ridgemont High?"
    An escort is a woman you occasionally financially support only when she has sex with you.

    A date is a woman you occasionally financially support in the hope she will have sex with you.

    A wife is a woman you constantly financially support even when she is not having sex with you.

    An ex-wife is a woman you constantly financially support with alimony so she can have sex......with someone else.

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    Re: What's the best way to decline a blind date request at work?

    Quote Originally Posted by sam luis obispo View Post
    For our non-American brethren, Sabarro is a chain of fast food stores, located almost exclusively in shopping malls.

    Working in fast food places for minimum wage when you are a teenager for 'managers' who are barely out of their teens is supposed to suck.

    It is supposed to motivate you to go learn a trade, or become a merchant seaman, or work on an off-shore oil rig, or become a hit man for the CIA.

    Are you the Judge Reinhold character in "Fast Times at Ridgemont High?"
    I'm willing to freelance, do you know any covert agents? We can work payments through a phony construction front, hide everything good and proper.


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    Re: What's the best way to decline a blind date request at work?

    Quote Originally Posted by mgtower View Post
    I'm willing to freelance, do you know any covert agents? We can work payments through a phony construction front, hide everything good and proper.
    Actually, I do. Prepare a Standard Form 86, include two sets of fingerprint cards, and we'll talk.
    An escort is a woman you occasionally financially support only when she has sex with you.

    A date is a woman you occasionally financially support in the hope she will have sex with you.

    A wife is a woman you constantly financially support even when she is not having sex with you.

    An ex-wife is a woman you constantly financially support with alimony so she can have sex......with someone else.

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    Re: What's the best way to decline a blind date request at work?

    Quote Originally Posted by sam luis obispo View Post
    Actually, I do. Prepare a Standard Form 86, include two sets of fingerprint cards, and we'll talk.
    Okay, will do, when can I start?

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    Re: What's the best way to decline a blind date request at work?

    Quote Originally Posted by mgtower View Post
    Okay, will do, when can I start?
    Quote Originally Posted by sam luis obispo View Post
    Actually, I do. Prepare a Standard Form 86, include two sets of fingerprint cards, and we'll talk.
    Quote Originally Posted by mgtower View Post
    I'm willing to freelance, do you know any covert agents? We can work payments through a phony construction front, hide everything good and proper.
    Rule 1 of Hitman Club, don't talk about the Hitman Club

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    Re: What's the best way to decline a blind date request at work?

    Quote Originally Posted by WarChief View Post
    You chose to work for a female and now you seek advice? That's like purposely getting a disease and then asking what to do about the symptoms. You've caused your own doom, live with the consequences and be damned.

    -Pardon, I'm amending this. I actually would be honored to work for a female -if she earned her position. What I'm attempting to say is, if one chooses to work for the communist corporation -then be damned!
    This is an absurd take. She's not a communist and neither is my work in support of communism. She treats me pretty well, it's a good job, and it's how I put food on my table. I have no problems with her.

    I'll quit my job tomorrow, will you support me? If you want to survive in this world you'll have to learn how to navigate working with and for women. It doesn't mean you have be friends with them or have relationships with them. But you can be coworkers just fine if you do it properly.

    Work should be about doing your job well. Nothing more, nothing less.

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    Re: What's the best way to decline a blind date request at work?

    I don't understand why people always think the answer to a situation like this is to lie and make shit up. It's totally unnecessary.

    Just tell her thanks, but you aren't interested. Women may not like to hear the word 'no', but tough titty. They live in the real world too. If she makes an issue of it or retaliates, take legal action. You have rights. I suspect she won't, though. Either way, don't live in fear.

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    Re: What's the best way to decline a blind date request at work?

    Quote Originally Posted by sam luis obispo View Post
    Lots of things in play.

    - A blind "date based on a set up." This is how people met their spouses two generations ago. This involved vetting and pre-screening by third parties by parents in settings such as work, church, civic organizations, bowling leagues, etc. This actually worked, when we had functioning communities, and not just rows upon rows of wage-slave barracks for atomized hyper individuals who grunt at each other in public but spend most of their time interacting with people (sort of) via ever smaller screens.
    Just wanted to add on: my parents met through a blind date, arranged by friends. They were married for 60 plus years, and they stayed together until my mother passed.

    But--it was the 1950s when they met. That world is long gone.

    My point is that blind dates often worked, but in the past, esp. when neither partner brought any baggage to the relationship (ie, kids).

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    Re: What's the best way to decline a blind date request at work?

    Quote Originally Posted by Faramir View Post
    Just wanted to add on: my parents met through a blind date, arranged by friends. They were married for 60 plus years, and they stayed together until my mother passed.

    But--it was the 1950s when they met. That world is long gone.

    My point is that blind dates often worked, but in the past, esp. when neither partner brought any baggage to the relationship (ie, kids).
    And that was pretty heavy baggage back then. Now, it's light in comparison to what some women are packing. Former tinderella, abortions, tattoos, weird hair colors, trashy attitudes, terrible views on society, and that's just the tip of the iceberg.

    The worst part of it all is a lot of them are chameleons. Once they hit their late twenties and enter "lock down a man mode", they rebrand themselves entirely. Some are a masterclass in disguise. Only years later when you're in the final stages of your marriage will she bring up that threesome she had back in college. Then more stories come out, and before you know it, your sweet, loving wife was actually one of the biggest sluts around back in the day.

    It doesn't count if she was drunk, or in another country, or if did it with a guy she didn't know. Incel! Insecurity! Man up!

    The absolute worst time to get to know a girl is in her late twenties/early thirties. How some women can just put on a mask and appear to be something you know for sure they're not, chills me to my very bones to this day.

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    Re: What's the best way to decline a blind date request at work?

    "I'm kinda seeing someone and I don't know where it's going yet" worked well for me. It's all non committal to anything and very open ended.

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    Re: What's the best way to decline a blind date request at work?

    Quote Originally Posted by _RPK_ View Post
    "I'm kinda seeing someone and I don't know where it's going yet" worked well for me. It's all non committal to anything and very open ended.
    Let us know how it dismally fails and the damages incurred.

    I don't even need my time machine to see where it's going!

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    Re: What's the best way to decline a blind date request at work?

    Quote Originally Posted by mgtower View Post
    Okay, will do, when can I start?
    Forget about the badge! When do we get the freakin guns! - YouTube
    An escort is a woman you occasionally financially support only when she has sex with you.

    A date is a woman you occasionally financially support in the hope she will have sex with you.

    A wife is a woman you constantly financially support even when she is not having sex with you.

    An ex-wife is a woman you constantly financially support with alimony so she can have sex......with someone else.

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    Re: What's the best way to decline a blind date request at work?

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    And that was pretty heavy baggage back then. Now, it's light in comparison to what some women are packing. Former tinderella, abortions, tattoos, weird hair colors, trashy attitudes, terrible views on society, and that's just the tip of the iceberg.

    The worst part of it all is a lot of them are chameleons. Once they hit their late twenties and enter "lock down a man mode", they rebrand themselves entirely. Some are a masterclass in disguise. Only years later when you're in the final stages of your marriage will she bring up that threesome she had back in college. Then more stories come out, and before you know it, your sweet, loving wife was actually one of the biggest sluts around back in the day.

    It doesn't count if she was drunk, or in another country, or if did it with a guy she didn't know. Incel! Insecurity! Man up!

    The absolute worst time to get to know a girl is in her late twenties/early thirties. How some women can just put on a mask and appear to be something you know for sure they're not, chills me to my very bones to this day.
    So profound! This should be its own thread.
    An escort is a woman you occasionally financially support only when she has sex with you.

    A date is a woman you occasionally financially support in the hope she will have sex with you.

    A wife is a woman you constantly financially support even when she is not having sex with you.

    An ex-wife is a woman you constantly financially support with alimony so she can have sex......with someone else.

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    Re: What's the best way to decline a blind date request at work?

    Why did you even entertain her with the possibility? I would've just said "I don't mix business with pleasure and Im not interested " and walked away.

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    Re: What's the best way to decline a blind date request at work?

    Quote Originally Posted by nameless View Post
    My female boss is trying to set me up on a blind date. I don't date by choice and design. What is the best way to decline this without harming my working relationship with her? In my experience, I've found that when you turn a women down (in anything) she usually turns vindictive in one way or another and will hold it against you. Maybe this one won't, but why risk it? That's why I want to be smart about this.

    If this wasn't work, this would be a simple one word answer (no). Maybe I'm overthinking it? Maybe no story is necessary and just a simple, no thanks, I'm not interested right now will suffice?

    After she brought it up, when I came home that day I started sending out job applications. I don't expect much luck because it seems like everything needs a vaccine which I refuse to get.
    Ignore, or a simple no, thanks.

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    Re: What's the best way to decline a blind date request at work?

    Quote Originally Posted by mgtower View Post
    Let us know how it dismally fails and the damages incurred.

    I don't even need my time machine to see where it's going!
    What do you mean? I used this line when a female co-worker of mine tried to get me to come along to a speed dating night. I didn't want to outright say "no" cos the follow up question is always "why?" and I couldn't exactly blert out the truth.

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    Re: What's the best way to decline a blind date request at work?

    Quote Originally Posted by _RPK_ View Post
    What do you mean? I used this line when a female co-worker of mine tried to get me to come along to a speed dating night. I didn't want to outright say "no" cos the follow up question is always "why?" and I couldn't exactly blert out the truth.
    About 5 years ago, I was approached by someone's wandering X-wife, I didn't even answer her, I walked away. She came back and I wouldn't even answer the door.

    I'm under no obligation to sugarcoat anything with my sugarfree attitude and directness. Why beat around the bush when you can set it on fire? As far as I'm concerned, if she's scorn, she scorned herself, but never the less, I keep one eye peeled!

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    Re: What's the best way to decline a blind date request at work?

    Quote Originally Posted by mgtower View Post
    About 5 years ago, I was approached by someone's wandering X-wife, I didn't even answer her, I walked away. She came back and I wouldn't even answer the door.

    I'm under no obligation to sugarcoat anything with my sugarfree attitude and directness. Why beat around the bush when you can set it on fire? As far as I'm concerned, if she's scorn, she scorned herself, but never the less, I keep one eye peeled!
    Well you should always try to keep your response proportional to the situation you are presented with. In my case I felt deflecting the question was better than outright stomping on it. As always, your mileage may vary.


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