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    Re: What was dating like pre-Social Media?

    Quote Originally Posted by Kryptic View Post
    Just thinking back to my teen years in the 80's and I doubt this happens anymore but thought it was worthy for comparison sake. Back then teen girls would often date older men. And I mean actual men! It was not uncommon for a 16 year old girl to have a 20 plus year old boyfriend who had a real job and money to burn, a car etc.

    You would have to be a pretty good looking/successful in some way 16 year old boy to compete with that.

    It sounds amazing now but at the time no one really blinked at it. A 16 y.o girl I had a crush on was dating a 23 year old guy and was madly in love with him. I knew I was never going to compete with his job, freedom, car etc. There were rumors about one of the younger male gym teachers being in a relationship with a female student as well.

    We also had a lot of female teachers who would wear provocative clothing it was like they were dressing for a night out.

    Things were very different.
    I remember that. It was NORMAL for a 16- or 17-year-old girl to date dudes who were out of school and were between 21 to 28 years old. That's what the young girls wanted! That's what they preferred. Now the feminazis are trying to make that out to be some kind of pedophilia, as if a 17-year-old has no idea what sex is and just can't possibly consent.

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    Re: What was dating like pre-Social Media?

    Quote Originally Posted by TigPlaze View Post
    I remember that. It was NORMAL for a 16- or 17-year-old girl to date dudes who were out of school and were between 21 to 28 years old. That's what the young girls wanted! That's what they preferred. Now the feminazis are trying to make that out to be some kind of pedophilia, as if a 17-year-old has no idea what sex is and just can't possibly consent.
    I'm old, dated in the 1960s. And yeah, it was common back then for girls in high school, including 16 and 17 year olds, to date guys who had already graduated high school and had a job or were in college. No one thought it was weird at all. In fact, other girls were often envious because dating an older guy was seen as a 'serious' relationship and gave the girl some prestige among her friends. Today the guy would be arrested.
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    Re: What was dating like pre-Social Media?

    I agree with the other guys -- don't romanticize the "good old days." They weren't that good. The same dynamics existed. Yes, women's hypergamy has been amplified by dating apps, but that hypergamy, superficiality, opportunism, etc. existed back then, too. It was easier for an average-looking guy, but it wasn't all that great.

    To me, the best time for dating was in the mid-90s, which was when I got my first PC. There internet wasn't too old at that point, and people were connecting mostly via chat rooms (I hung out on Prodigy a lot) and similar places. You got to know people via text conversation. Looks were not a big part of the equation. It was about words on a screen.

    That sounds sterile, but it was really the opposite, at least for me. I express myself naturally in writing, and I was able to talk openly about my personal thoughts, history, and feelings, without self-consciousness, without being interrupted, without physical distractions. Conversations were deeper, more personal, more thoughtful. You could get to know a woman from the inside out -- and her you -- rather than having looks be the overwhelming and dominant influence the way they are now. Even with the early dating apps, people would write long, detailed descriptions of themselves, and they'd often exchange lots of email before meeting.

    That lasted for maybe 10 years? Sure, there was still the usual superficiality and hypergamy, and hookups were prevalent, but it was an expanded market. Rather than just dealing with your local area, you could branch out, and even an average Joe like me could have "successes" he hadn't had before.

    Everything is visual now. People flick through hundreds of profiles, one per second, judging them solely based on looks. Very few people actually get to know each other in any depth at all. It's all become very superficial. But it was nice there back in the 1990s for a moment, when the internet was new.

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    Re: What was dating like pre-Social Media?

    Quote Originally Posted by Eddie Haskell View Post
    I agree with the other guys -- don't romanticize the "good old days." They weren't that good. The same dynamics existed. Yes, women's hypergamy has been amplified by dating apps, but that hypergamy, superficiality, opportunism, etc. existed back then, too. It was easier for an average-looking guy, but it wasn't all that great.

    To me, the best time for dating was in the mid-90s, which was when I got my first PC. There internet wasn't too old at that point, and people were connecting mostly via chat rooms (I hung out on Prodigy a lot) and similar places. You got to know people via text conversation. Looks were not a big part of the equation. It was about words on a screen.

    That sounds sterile, but it was really the opposite, at least for me. I express myself naturally in writing, and I was able to talk openly about my personal thoughts, history, and feelings, without self-consciousness, without being interrupted, without physical distractions. Conversations were deeper, more personal, more thoughtful. You could get to know a woman from the inside out -- and her you -- rather than having looks be the overwhelming and dominant influence the way they are now. Even with the early dating apps, people would write long, detailed descriptions of themselves, and they'd often exchange lots of email before meeting.

    That lasted for maybe 10 years? Sure, there was still the usual superficiality and hypergamy, and hookups were prevalent, but it was an expanded market. Rather than just dealing with your local area, you could branch out, and even an average Joe like me could have "successes" he hadn't had before.

    Everything is visual now. People flick through hundreds of profiles, one per second, judging them solely based on looks. Very few people actually get to know each other in any depth at all. It's all become very superficial. But it was nice there back in the 1990s for a moment, when the internet was new.
    Even in the 2000's it was about words on the screen. People filled in.profiles on dating sites and having a photo wasn't mandatory. In fact a profile with just a pic was seen as dubious.

    Then something changed probably apps like Tinder. And it just became about the photo. Swipe left or right.

    I think when the internet was new that people were hopeful and just excited by the technology. As the net got older and people noticed more games and scammers who they started losing that hope. People got more sceptical which is only natural.

    In terms of nostalgia for the good ol days? I do miss seeing women who dressed better and weren't covered in tarts and weird piercings.

    I never dated or even tried to date much anyway so not a lot for me to reminisce about.


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