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    Re: Tired of Nosy Bastards

    I'm quiet and stand offish so I don't get that happening too often. What I hate the most is that nosy parker on public transport, usually a senior aged male who just has to talk shit about everything.

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    Re: Tired of Nosy Bastards

    I just had a flashback to when I lived in the city! People in crowded conditions tend to shut-up (me) while others drop a 426 hemi under their tongues! I don't miss it one bit! Now I go days without hearing another voice, it's mind soothing if anything.
    Bundle up, boys, it's gonna be a long cold endless winter.


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    Re: Tired of Nosy Bastards

    Yeah I know same old shit every Monday what did you do?? guess what I did bla bla bla Iím Iím not interested in your shitty weekend.

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    Re: Tired of Nosy Bastards

    Quote Originally Posted by Societysucksmyass View Post
    Just curious, how do you fellas deal with those people in your life who are always prying and being invasive, especially when it comes to women and relationships?

    I have no problem setting boundaries with people and have done so (appropriately) with family members, co-workers, even friends, about why I’m not in a romantic relationship and never discuss wanting to meet a woman. I’ve never discussed MGTOW philosophy and pretty much leave my arguments as “just doing my own thing in life right now.” But it seems this certain group of people never let up. Some have even been so bold as to ask if I’m gay. I’ve been in two long-term relationships with women, so I have no idea why they assume that.

    I don’t care what people think at the end of the day and can put up with quite a lot of bullshit, but I’m getting really irritated by the gay references and the incessant antagonizing. I’m thinking about cutting off some of these idiots completely. I can’t really do that with co-workers of course. I have to pretend and kiss ass like everyone else to pay the bills. But as for people who are not essential in my life, they can go take a nap on the railroad tracks for all I give a shit.

    Does anybody else experience stuff like this?
    Just curious, how do you fellas deal with those people in your life who are always prying and being invasive, especially when it comes to women and relationships?
    But then you say..........

    I have no problem setting boundaries with people and have done so (appropriately) with family members, co-workers, even friends, about why I’m not in a romantic relationship and never discuss wanting to meet a woman.
    You don't set boundaries even though you claim you do. If you really did tell them to "fuck off" in a nice way then they'd get the picture. If they were digging deep then you gotta step it up. Tell them you will go to the boss or HR. No boss or HR wants a sexual harassment lawsuit.

    Don't be afraid to speak up. If you were harassing them do you think they'd spare you? Hell to the NAW!

    Some have even been so bold as to ask if I’m gay. I’ve been in two long-term relationships with women, so I have no idea why they assume that.
    then you say.........

    I don’t care what people think at the end of the day and can put up with quite a lot of bullshit, but I’m getting really irritated by the gay references and the incessant antagonizing
    You do care if it's bothering you. Why do you feel the need to prove yourself with their shaming tactics? I know you are not gay but who freaking cares if you are? It's none of their business. That gay shit is just a male shaming tactic. Don't fall for it.

    I’m thinking about cutting off some of these idiots completely.
    Speak up and do it. Don't be afraid of hurting their feelings. They don't care about yours . Next time they start their shit then tell them "I have told you countless times but you are not listening. This is the last time". If they keep it up then good bye.

    I can’t really do that with co-workers of course.
    Yes you can. See above about the boss and HR. You have the right to a safe work environment.
    Stay away from women. They will only break your heart.

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    Re: Tired of Nosy Bastards

    Most people I deal with regularly know not to bother me with questions about marriage, kids, or the like, but when coworkers used to ask me if I'm married, I'd tell them, "no, I'm not making THAT mistake again!" Some of them get it, some (usually women) are offended... I don't care. One guy at work had two ex-wives, and was married to a third woman. He told me that he'd have to work until he died to pay for all of it--and that's exactly what he did. He never got a chance to enjoy retirement, just worked himself to an early death (the incessant cigarette smoking and heavy drinking probably didn't help, but I'm not here to judge another man's vices). Another guy has been married FOUR times, and lives with a woman who tells HIM how to decorate HIS house.

    Yes, at some companies it's probably better to just play along and perhaps have a fake photo of "your" kids on your desk, etc., but I've played the opposite tactic: made myself as close to indispensable as one can be in an at-will employment state, and also made it clear that I'll walk if they mistreat me.

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    Re: Tired of Nosy Bastards

    I remember being so insecure that I couldn't find a woman to stick around that I would make it a point to bring up a chick I had gone on 4 or 5 dates with just to keep my family away from asking those questions of whether or not I was gay.

    After going through so many Relationshits, I think people started to realize it and I didn't have to overcompensate for it.

    I remember meeting this one girl, Caitlin, in class in college. I took her out a bunch, and she acted like she was into me. She was from LA and we were in college in San Diego. She invited me to her Christmas party at her moms house in LA, and I Simped it on up there.

    I figured I was her man, and now that she had finally got rid of her boyfriend, I was the next suitor in line. Turns out, sweet little Caitlin met a guy at the grocery store that night and he came to her party and piped her. I got to sleep on the couch.

    I was trying to crash and her couch, hearing her getting piped in her bedroom, and her brother tried to talk me into letting him give me a BJer.

    It was the ultimate insult to injury. I don't have a problem with gay dudes. I just couldn't believe that I drove 100 miles each way to spend the night like this.

    I Simp Limped back home the next day after breakfast with Caitlin and her new supermarket piper.

    Sadly, it would take me another 3.5 years to even begin to embrace MGTOW values.

    A few weeks later Caitlin kicked that dude to the curb and then got into a relationship with some abusive dude. I stayed FB friends with her for years and then when she broke up with that dude, I hit her up. She said, "I see how you talk about women on FB so I have to keep my distance from you".

    I blocked her immediately, frustrated that her actions helped me see MGTOW values, but she wasn't able to see how HER actions hurt me and led me there.

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    Re: Tired of Nosy Bastards

    Quote Originally Posted by ThotPolice View Post
    I remember being so insecure that I couldn't find a woman to stick around that I would make it a point to bring up a chick I had gone on 4 or 5 dates with just to keep my family away from asking those questions of whether or not I was gay.

    After going through so many Relationshits, I think people started to realize it and I didn't have to overcompensate for it.

    I remember meeting this one girl, Caitlin, in class in college. I took her out a bunch, and she acted like she was into me. She was from LA and we were in college in San Diego. She invited me to her Christmas party at her moms house in LA, and I Simped it on up there.

    I figured I was her man, and now that she had finally got rid of her boyfriend, I was the next suitor in line. Turns out, sweet little Caitlin met a guy at the grocery store that night and he came to her party and piped her. I got to sleep on the couch.

    I was trying to crash and her couch, hearing her getting piped in her bedroom, and her brother tried to talk me into letting him give me a BJer.

    It was the ultimate insult to injury. I don't have a problem with gay dudes. I just couldn't believe that I drove 100 miles each way to spend the night like this.

    I Simp Limped back home the next day after breakfast with Caitlin and her new supermarket piper.

    Sadly, it would take me another 3.5 years to even begin to embrace MGTOW values.

    A few weeks later Caitlin kicked that dude to the curb and then got into a relationship with some abusive dude. I stayed FB friends with her for years and then when she broke up with that dude, I hit her up. She said, "I see how you talk about women on FB so I have to keep my distance from you".

    I blocked her immediately, frustrated that her actions helped me see MGTOW values, but she wasn't able to see how HER actions hurt me and led me there.
    YOU are the one at fault here. She was just being a woman. She was being her natural monkey branching self. You got mad at her for giving into her natural instincts. You being mad at her was like being mad at a starving person you left an expensive cake in front of and they ate it. Do they care about all the time and money you spent on the cake ? No! Because their natural instinct kicked in when they saw what they wanted.

    Why did you remain "FB Friends" or have any contact with her? I hate to break it to you but she was laughing at you behind your back. She has no respect for you.
    Stay away from women. They will only break your heart.

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    Over the years I had dozens of answers for those nosy bastards. They ranged from sarcasm, to jokes, to lies, to honest explanations, to many other types all depending on the situation at the moment. I slowly came to realize that I owed those people no explanation whatsoever.

    Tell them nothing, no answer and definitely no explanation as to why you won't answer.. You're not under oath or being interrogated by law enforcement. Keep your private business just that; private.

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    Re: Tired of Nosy Bastards

    Quote Originally Posted by Prokopton2 View Post
    Over the years I had dozens of answers for those nosy bastards. They ranged from sarcasm, to jokes, to lies, to honest explanations, to many other types all depending on the situation at the moment. I slowly came to realize that I owed those people no explanation whatsoever.

    Tell them nothing, no answer and definitely no explanation as to why you won't answer.. You're not under oath or being interrogated by law enforcement. Keep your private business just that; private.
    I try to be "nice" but it always backfires. People take advantage of me cause they want compliance. If someone is crossing boundaries then I'll tell them about it. If they refuse to listen then I avoid them like the plague.

    Don't answer people's interrogations. It will never end. If they really need an answer from you then tell them to Google it since they have their faces stuck in an electronic device anyway.
    Stay away from women. They will only break your heart.

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    Re: Tired of Nosy Bastards

    Quote Originally Posted by Unboxxed View Post
    If you want to have some light-hearted fun with them, the next time someone asks you if you are gay, say with mirth:

    "Why? Do you need me to be?"

    Whatever you do, don't show defensiveness.
    I like this train of thought.... Go on the offence, start off friendly at first and ramp it up with personal questions until they walk away. A good defense is a better offence. Answer their question with another question, then keep asking more questions making them more personal.... (don't get personal at work)

    Never share information with someone that doesn't need to know that information. More ammunition you give them, more they have to use against you...

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    Re: Tired of Nosy Bastards

    Quote Originally Posted by Prokopton2 View Post
    Over the years I had dozens of answers for those nosy bastards. They ranged from sarcasm, to jokes, to lies, to honest explanations, to many other types all depending on the situation at the moment. I slowly came to realize that I owed those people no explanation whatsoever.

    Tell them nothing, no answer and definitely no explanation as to why you won't answer.. You're not under oath or being interrogated by law enforcement. Keep your private business just that; private.

    Best post in the thread.

    It shouldn't even be a topic of discussion.

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    Re: Tired of Nosy Bastards

    I used to get annoyed by these. But after practicing stoicism I became indifferent. Now when someone asks me "why do you have no gf?" I respond with "I don't know. Do I need to have one?". Instead of explaining my situation and trying to prove that I'm in the right, I get curious and ask about their point of view. This in most cases makes the other person unconfortable and they stop asking these questions. But for those who want to talk about it, it leads to an interesting conversation.

    In most cases people play the drama game. And they ask these questions to cause drama. They are not interested in your answer but they want to make you feel unconfortable or angry. So as soon as you turn that arround on them they lose interest.

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    "I don't know - do I need one?"

    Excellent answer, Witch Doctor.

    In my experience, the best reaction is no reaction - silence. Let them think you feel uncomfortable; if they ask again, remain silent. They will shut up, eventually - and learn that this is a subject you don't talk about.

    Recommended reading - Feynmann's "what do you care, what other people think"?

    Ignore them.


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