I'd bet I'm not the only ex romantic here. I used to believe in the true love that conquers all thing. I thought that eventually everyone met their soul mate and would get a solid commitment, meaning total loyalty, from them. I thought it was possible to win a woman's love by being a good and an extraordinary person.
Man, is that fantasy ever destroyed! Here are key realizations that destroyed my romanticism
1. Figuring out that with women it's always about the money. First dates are basically financial interrogation sessions.
2. Women, and especially feminists, don't give a fuck about gender equality. If they wanted equality, the custom of the man paying for all dates and then basically everything in marriage would have ended way back when women got the right to vote. But women care about enriching themselves, not about equality.
3. Most women in dating spin several plates. Even women in committed long-term relationships keep backup boyfriends so they have someone to fallback on in case the relationship goes south. I find this particularly disgusting. It's basically a way to not commit and pretend you are committed. It's using several people, and is a form of cheating. It's the antithesis to loyalty ... which brings me to my next point.
4. You cannot find a loyal woman. Women consider shopping for an upgrade to be normal in a relationship, and it's the man's fault if he can't measure up to someone else richer or more famous who comes along. The vows "in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad times, and forsaking all others" mean NOTHING to women. If some dude with more toys comes along, she'll jump along for the ride.
5. Women won't even be loyal to their country. In World War II, when the Nazis invaded France, many Frenchwoman took advantage of sex by banging SS officers in exchange for special privileges. Then they couldn't understand their countrymen's anger at them when France was liberated. They were screwing NAZIS, France's worst enemy ever, but they didn't understand why people were upset. Even today, if you look at the historical photos of Frenchwomen being punished for being such traitors, the text that accompanies is often Feminazi text to the effect of, "They were women who just fell in love." Bullshit. They were women who betrayed their country. The Free French stripped them to their underwear in public, shaved their heads, and painted a big, black swastika on their faces. Then they paraded them around town to public derision. I LOVE looking at these photos. It's one of the few times in history when women had to answer for their crimes.
6. Women, and especially feminists, don't see men as human beings. We're things to be used. If we've got money, we're ATMs they can use in exchange for sex. If we don't have money, we're subhuman and don't even deserve to live.
7. Feminists demanded that women be treated with respect. When men responded by doing exactly what they asked, feminists responded by dehumanizing men. They invented numerous terms to belittle men and show us no respect. Expressions like "mansplaining", "kill all men," and "male tears" exist to mock men. Meanwhile, almost all men have quit using expressions like "dumb broad," per women's request. In other words, they demand that we change, but they won't reciprocate.
8. Feminists have demanded an end to gender roles, but what they mean by that is women's gender roles are to be dropped, but they still demand the same gender roles as before on men. Women don't have to be housewives. They don't even have to be kind to their husbands, but men are still expected to be providers and are TOTALLY judged by how much money we make.
There's more. These are just the 8 main ones. It all boils down to feminism destroying relationships between men and women. Any man who agrees to get married is basically signing his own death warrant because she'll probably drive him to suicide. And, even when he does kill himself, she won't give him any respect. She'll denegrate him by claiming he took the coward's way out. She won't take any responsibility for driving the poor guy mad.
And that's the core of it all: Feminism is all about women evading responsibility for their own actions. It's not now, and never has been, about equality.