Thread: The Positive side of MGTOW, the happy tidbits of going your own way.

My life is simple. I like it that way. I have my own apartment and I work from home. I have goals that are important to me -- building back my health, learning other languages, working on my writing, and other things.

I no longer worry about whether or not women want me. I now longer worry if some hateful feminists says abusive crap like, "Incel, no woman will ever want you." My happiness no longer depends on impressing some woman or making her want to have sex with me.

My self worth is not dependent upon having some woman want to be with me or want to fuck me. I do my own thing. I have a lot of ways in which I'm bettering myself, and that makes me happy. Sticking my hard schlong into some woman's cunt can't make me happier than I already am -- and it's usually not worth the inherent risks anyway. If I want sex, I'll pay for the service and enjoy the time with a woman who will treat me better than most women would, and then she won't meddle in my life.

I know this might sound a bit odd, but for me, it's mostly having a Different Perspective. Back when I was a kid, I got alot of hate for my autism... Lots of violence, being called stupid and a retard, and basically being told that I was the most worthless creature ever to have been born. And it seemed to me, as I grew, that if I could just get a woman to love me, and treat her right, that would make it all better, or at least worthwhile. The hope of romance is literally the only reason I didn't kill myself as a child. And so I grew up, and life went on, and eventually I did start getting girls... but I would always lose them, ofcourse, when my autism or bipolar or PTSD got the better of me. And so back to square one.

But I don't feel that way anymore. Now I can see that a tremendous amount of my pain and grief (since I grew up) was cause specifically BY the women that I encountered throughout my life. They ended up being more of a Curse than a Cure. So now I go through life knowing that I am truly better off alone. And the sky is still there, and cats still purr, and pizza tastes good. The world continues on and I can basically just REST now. No more madness or gaslighting irrational bullshit. I'm safe.

That's truly what it is for me. Feeling safe.

Similar to other posters in the thread, the incredible amount of freedom and peace I get from not wanting to attract women anymore blows my mind. I don't realise it myself, but other peoples' perceptions of my lifestyle is how I notice the uniqueness of it. I have no shame in what hobbies I engage myself in, what I wear, what I say. I just don't care anymore.

Outside of work, I live by my own schedule and play the weekends by ear, kick back, go out, do whatever. I know how to play the corporate game enough to move up, and I'll be on track to living the life I've always wanted in a few years.

I still get brief moments where people try to get me back in the game and shame me for being single, but I openly tell them "If I'm ever tempted, I rub one out, look at my bank account, and decide "Nah I'm good."" That usually does enough for them to leave me alone!

But yeah, I overall really appreciate finding MGTOW, it's really done wonders for my general life satisfaction and prioritisation, even if I may not have much to contribute nowadays.

Originally Posted by Kryptic

Another factor for me is MGTOW is about going against primal programming. The concept of just wanting to fuck, to chase women and spread our genes even though, condoms are used or the ejaculation isn't even in a way that would allow pregnancy. All of that is really silly me. Even if a man does reproduce, what's the point if he isn't around to see his offspring go on to rule the world etc? What if they grow up to become everything he despises? Or he is locked out of their lives altogether?

An exercise in futility.

I have lived this one... many times. At my age, I am finding it difficult to deal with life and enjoying it. (Spend 23.5 hours a day in a room by yourself and tell me how you feel).

Depression and isolation aren't your friends.

Originally Posted by The Captain

I have lived this one... many times. At my age, I am finding it difficult to deal with life and enjoying it. (Spend 23.5 hours a day in a room by yourself and tell me how you feel).

Depression and isolation aren't your friends.

You need to change that, go to prison solitary confinement, they give you a half hour more outside the box, 23 hours in, 1 hour out. And if you succeeded in robbing a bank, you're out for good!

Got to weigh your options, and in your case, I would go for it, everything to gain, nothing to loose!

Originally Posted by TigPlaze

My life is simple. I like it that way. I have my own apartment and I work from home. I have goals that are important to me -- building back my health, learning other languages, working on my writing, and other things.

Originally Posted by TheSisko

I don't realise it myself, but other peoples' perceptions of my lifestyle is how I notice the uniqueness of it. I have no shame in what hobbies I engage myself in, what I wear, what I say. I just don't care anymore.

These two lines here sum it up nicely. Certainly there are those out there who would label these things childish, meaningless, "Peter-Pan-Syndrome", or what have you. These people might be doing this while they shove healing crystals up their pussies and "study mindfulness" for whatever that means. But everything they do is good, see, and everything we do is bad. So fuck 'em. It's so good to be freeee

Originally Posted by OwenWentFullMGTOW

When you're married, you don't get to chill. "Idle hands are the devil's workshop" is an expression that was probably created by a woman. A lot of women get annoyed af seeing a man do nothing.

Here's an alternate saying with a MGTOW slant to combat the female propaganda about idleness: "Mother Nature despises idle men". She needs men to keep busy all their lives, and never figure out what's going on, or at least until they're too old and worn out to do anything about it. Idle men might realize what's happening, compare notes, and eventually rebel against women and the reproduction program.

So Mother Nature has worked very hard to weave anti-idleness messages throughout the social systems, including the churches. Jesus said "seek the kingdom of heaven first". The churches came up with a lot of nonsense about working our asses off (for instance, the Protestant work ethic) and serving the purposes of women/family/church organizations. Idle men might not produce a lot of money, and it's hard to build monster cathedrals without financial contributions.

Doing nothing can be a very productive pursuit. It just isn't producing what women and the system want.

I was helping a Mate fix his digger today, he took me out to lunch at a small restaurant/café, and said he eats there often, all the women working there knew him. He says I should get out more, meet more people. I spotted an old business acquaintance that was eating, he says Hi and on his way out say catch up, I wonder what he wants... While my Mate is chatting up the old girls, I'm looking on line for cheap deals on the buy and sell sites. I can see no value in getting to know these people.

He says I should find "Someone" so we can all go out.... Having a single male in a group of couples is not good entertainment.... I told him I don't go out, I would rather cook my own food to how I want it, I also cook extra for lunches for when working. I asked why would I pay someone else to cook my food, his reply was don't be so cheap... It's good having a few beers with him and his girlfriend at my shed, I will never be part of their inner circle.

It is so nice to know TRP, see the traps, see human nature in action and to side step it... I don't need to please anyone but myself, maybe that is their problem? Who cares!!!!

I need to explain to everyone that I'm living in a farmhouse eighteen miles from the nearest large city and three miles from the nearest community. I don't want to go to a "senior center" and do not want to go out to spend a great deal of money. (l'm living on a VA Pension and Social Security).

The nearest city has turned into a dangerous crap hole and driving there to waste money seems a poor option.

Great thread!

I'm just over 18 months into my divorce and already I can see and feel the benefits of MGTOW!

What everyone posted on this thread checks out in real life, and I specially identify with Mgtower's OP and Hedon's post: the freedom and peacefulness of going your own way and not catering to women is PRICELESS!

Below is a transcript from what I wrote on a similar thread in another MGTOW forum I'm a part of:

Also, to me one of the greatest (if not the greatest) upsides of MGTOW is shifting your mind's focus to what is most important in one's life: YOU!

Having being a blue pilled slave most of my life, married and a father, it comes almost automatically to put other people's interests before my own. My boss, my wife, my son, my relatives, everybody came before me.

MGTOW showed me that it's ok to treat yourself first and foremost. It unleashed the shackles of shame that society put on my neck and made me think that I'd be a selfish prick if I put my own happiness before that of "my family".

When you start treating yourself better, you start to feel better about life, regardless of all the nonsense that surrounds us. Contentment and peacefulness ensue.

Now, you must be thinking: "so you're some kind of selfish prick, aren't ya, GJ?!". And I say quite the contrary; by treating me right, I actually became a kinder person towards others that I perceive that are deserving of my time!

My "selfishness" isn't a predatory, parasitic or narcissistic one! I do not exploit or destroy anyone's lives by focusing on my well being! It is rather a "self preservation" and "self love" kind of selfishness, that caters to myself without harming anyone around me.

That, to me, is the greatest upside of the MGTOW mindset! To put yourself in first place!

Cheers!
GJ

Originally Posted by OwenWentFullMGTOW

I thrive on having a routine. It feels more natural to have a set of pattern to my behaviors. A schedule.

But starting Wednesday, I'm doing a staycation. I'm just going to bum around my place, eat junk food, watch movies and pretty much just hang out. The plan is to be as lazy and unproductive as possible. Unplug for a little while and just CHILL.

When you're married, you don't get to chill. "Idle hands are the devil's workshop" is an expression that was probably created by a woman. A lot of women get annoyed af seeing a man do nothing.

But for the next several days, I'll be doing NOTHING. No work, no emails, no alarm clocks, no schedules, no nuthin. Just hanging around and relaxing.

Way to go kid! It's your life . Don't let anyone tell you or try to manipulate you into doing what they want.

Besides the things that have been already mentioned. I like the respect.

Before I was always afraid of ending up friendless, wifeless and alone. I would always give people the benefit of a doubt for their toxic behaviour. Thinking that they maybe have my best interests in their mind bur just don't know how to work with me. Now that this fear is dealt with, I can demand respect or walk away. I don't get emotional over it but just ghost them.

I like the fact that instead of going trough all the bullshit ang gaslighting, I can now ignore the toxic behaviour. This brings me peace in life but also helps me build better relationships on work and with friends.