Thread: The newly single man and 3 day weekends. A tip from the road of hard knocks

I remember how tough it was after my divorce. Since she picked most of my friends, hijacked my family, for a year I was alone most holidays. The ones that really bugged me were three day summer weekends. I was too anxious to fish or do something relaxing, no money to travel as the ex has it, so I exercised and went to work. Yep, work

Exempt employee, so I didnt qualify for overtime , but I worked nonetheless. Having that one extra day without phones ringing, and paper pushing women bothering me allowed me to really organize the following weeks. It made me much more productive. And I would do a project now and again for the big boss, got a promotion.

Came out stronger financially, then did something stupid, got married again and divorced again (nobody is perfect)

Anyways, a shoutout to the newly single, life gets better, use this extra time wisely
Tip for the married, have a group of friends apart from your wife as divorces come out of the blue with no or little warning

Originally Posted by FrankS

Came out stronger financially, then did something stupid, got married again and divorced again (nobody is perfect)

See, that is the part that bothers me. Nobody is perfect, however the definition of insanity...

There's a guy currently at my job, his story is similar to yours. Great guy by the way. He was a guy I took under my wings when he started because everybody wanted him gone due to his (overly) gregarious personality, even the women who are now "friends" with him wanted him fired back when he started. Anyway, since everyone sort of look up to me on my unit I basically told them to back off him...he's not doing anything wrong. The guy is dating a girl now but had previously been married twice. At the time he wouldn't stop talking to me about his previous wives and the hell the first one put him through, how fat she got after marriage, how bad her behavior, and how greedy she is about child support. As a man who knows a few things I told him not to repeat that mistake again. I flat out told him never to get married again. Long story short, a few weeks ago he told me is planning to propose to his current girl. I palmfaced myself. He said no no no no...bro if you met this girl she's different...she's nothing I've ever seen before...she's great and she's great to my son (mind you, the 8-year-old doesn't like her). Found out he just bought her a 10 thousand dollar rock a few days ago. I laughed, shook my head, and kept it moving.

That's the thing. NWALT. Every guy that's ever made that mistake thinks that girl is the one when in actuality she's just like every other bitch out there. Every time I see a guy with his girl out in public I think to myself "to him she's everything, she's special, but to the rest of the world walking by, she's just another person. How could he get it so wrong, how could his perception be so flawed, how could she be special?" Biology is a bitch. I won't be surprised to find that the surge of oxytocin at the first kiss of a woman is on the same level as the first hit of heroin because in a man's warped mind he's in heaven and all reason goes out of the window. And what happens to heroin addicts? They're always craving more. The more intimate, the deeper the illusion.

Originally Posted by FrankS

no money to travel as the ex has it, so I exercised and went to work. Yep, work

Same here on the crash of my first marriage, I was paying the bank trying to keep the house.... I told my boss at the time what happened and I needed money. I think he knew I just also wanted to bury myself in work. He loved it, it was likely the best few years that everything run smoothly.... I ended up burning myself out there, but looking back years after I am thankful he let me do it. It was 16 hrs a day 6 days a week. Sunday was shopping and cooking day to stock the freezer with cooked meals for another week. I changed my life 180 degrees, got focused, fit, and learned how to cook.... I still use the knowledge I learned +20 yrs later.

In the darkest of times sometimes the brightest light shine.

Originally Posted by RustyNuts

Same here on the crash of my first marriage, I was paying the bank trying to keep the house.... I told my boss at the time what happened and I needed money. I think he knew I just also wanted to bury myself in work. He loved it, it was likely the best few years that everything run smoothly.... I ended up burning myself out there, but looking back years after I am thankful he let me do it. It was 16 hrs a day 6 days a week. Sunday was shopping and cooking day to stock the freezer with cooked meals for another week. I changed my life 180 degrees, got focused, fit, and learned how to cook.... I still use the knowledge I learned +20 yrs later.

In the darkest of times sometimes the brightest light shine.

That's how it was when I made my exit from the tunnel of love!

I hear ya on the cooking, I took it to the next level by refurbishing used restaurant equipment to do my own food processing, pasteurizing, vacuum sealing, and canning from the gardening I do every year, I can't buy things like Carolina reapers anywhere near, and certainly not at an economical price. I make and freeze Zucchini garden soup, make tomato sauces, frozen peppers, winter squash and peaches galore! Not to mention back into keeping a small flock of layer chickens (because store bought SUCKS!).

It's been a great year, proportional rain and lots of sun! I also make my own fertilizer from high purity, highly soluble chemical compounds. This year my gardens could pass for something in Better Homes and Gardens! They look that good! I'll take the Brix photo spectrometer challenge with any of the big guys that use inferior ammonium and urea nitrates, mag sulfate pentahydrate, and sewer sludge pellets!

I'm seeing defects in the food chain never seen before, eggs that run faster than the chickens that laid them? WTF?

Originally Posted by mgtower

I'm seeing defects in the food chain never seen before, eggs that run faster than the chickens that laid them? WTF?

Yes, the "Free Range" eggs are not any better than the caged eggs, all the same, different price and label. Store bought is not as good as growing your own but preparing your own food is better than buying prepared every day.

That's great you grow your own food, it's not likely I will ever get there here. Time and water are the two major factors for me. One makes me money the other I have to buy.

I bought a used Weber Family Q, LPG BBQ, for a Weber it is large. When I'm working at my shed on break I will prepare and roast up a couple roasts.... Whenever a mate drives by and sees the gate open they drop in for a chat, most are surprised I'm cooking a big roast (I haven't tried a chook yet) and they always complement how good it smells. Disappointment sets in when I tell them it's for my lunches when working.... I think most want an invite for a roll when it's done.

Multi tasking simple jobs that save time is the key.

Originally Posted by RustyNuts

Yes, the "Free Range" eggs are not any better than the caged eggs, all the same, different price and label. Store bought is not as good as growing your own but preparing your own food is better than buying prepared every day.

That's great you grow your own food, it's not likely I will ever get there here. Time and water are the two major factors for me. One makes me money the other I have to buy.

I bought a used Weber Family Q, LPG BBQ, for a Weber it is large. When I'm working at my shed on break I will prepare and roast up a couple roasts.... Whenever a mate drives by and sees the gate open they drop in for a chat, most are surprised I'm cooking a big roast (I haven't tried a chook yet) and they always complement how good it smells. Disappointment sets in when I tell them it's for my lunches when working.... I think most want an invite for a roll when it's done.

Multi tasking simple jobs that save time is the key.

I have inexhaustible potable and irrigation water sources, without abundant water it's hopeless or elaborate and expensive!


One piece I acquired is a 1960's propane griddle I refurbished and mounted in a stainless steel roll around table on pneumatic wheels. I try to keep things simple and modular for fast setup and takedown. I use stainless steel processing tables and do harvests like piece work, using normal home appliances is too slow and burns them out. A stove top with a griddle and frying pan is like trying to use a Betty Crocker Easy Bake Oven compared to restaurant equipment. After Covid you could purchase it pennies on the dollar and so I did!

Originally Posted by FrankS

I remember how tough it was after my divorce. Since she picked most of my friends, hijacked my family, for a year I was alone most holidays. The ones that really bugged me were three day summer weekends. I was too anxious to fish or do something relaxing, no money to travel as the ex has it, so I exercised and went to work. Yep, work

Exempt employee, so I didnt qualify for overtime , but I worked nonetheless. Having that one extra day without phones ringing, and paper pushing women bothering me allowed me to really organize the following weeks. It made me much more productive. And I would do a project now and again for the big boss, got a promotion.

Came out stronger financially, then did something stupid, got married again and divorced again (nobody is perfect)

Anyways, a shoutout to the newly single, life gets better, use this extra time wisely
Tip for the married, have a group of friends apart from your wife as divorces come out of the blue with no or little warning

My life is so much better without women. I was married and it was a disaster. I was a total beta provider cuck. She constantly lied in court . I was punished for her lies even when I proved her wrong. The judge didn't care. After my divorce, EVERYONE turned on me. All my so called friends took her side. I was literally homeless. I slept in bus stations and shelters. Ate meals at the soup kitchen. The local Salvation Army had daily food banks and I would always get free snacks.

I had to "Man Up" and got myself a place. It was brutal cause my credit was total shit and I had a domestic violence conviction on my record. But I worked my ass off with a ton of over time. I was able to find a place and built my life up. I avoid women like the plague. Don't need or want their bullshit. I have people make fun of me for being single but they are slaves to their biology. I laugh when a woman screws them over. I have no remorse!