From a guy getting ready to meet his maker (with regard to divorce settlement), believe me, this is real. I came into it with a 7 figure net worth and the first thing I did was to pay off her CC and buy her a car. She didn't work, did whatever she wanted, spent whatever she wanted, we traveled whenever and wherever she wanted then had a kid that we both stayed at home and raised. 13 years later, I get an email an hour after she leaves to bring child to school, she doesn't come back. Now, she wants half of everything she did nothing to earn, and guess what? The gov't agrees with her!
My advice to any guy out there, fuck them but don't marry them. NO MATTER WHAT THEY SAY OR PROMISE! It's all bullshit because the laws don't hold them accountable for any of their actions! You are NOTHING but a meal ticket to her and the gov't.
Guys have absolutely no one in gov't that advocates for fairness in divorce settlements. The gov't does NOT want these women back on the "dole" so takes all that they can from you to ensure these deadbeats don't ever show up on their door step. Instead of my ex thanking me for taking care of her for 13 years in a way that she could never have afforded, I'm getting shit on for not being totally receptive to taking care of her for the next 40 years in the same lifestyle she enjoyed while being married. Unfucking real the entitlement. All I can really say is that you guys (collectively) CAN NOT marry someone under these draconian marriage/divorce laws!!!!! Don't do it! Your life's work will be wiped out and given away by the state!
Shack up, fool around, have a baby out of wedlock, do whatever you want but under NO CIRCUMSTANCE should you say "I DO" unless you have absolutely NOTHING that she and the gov't can take from you. Starve the system!