Thread: Society forcing their norms on me.

You know what i had planned to avoid marriage by enrolling in some university out of our country so that i don't end up being an example classic disposable man. But the thing is no one is helping me out. Everyone is advising to get a government job and get married in the amount of money which can be used for foreign education. People are saying it's too late for me, i will be out of the league. Cause of my age. People of my age have family and kids, i am the only rare of the rarest. And yet society is hammering their norms on me. I don't want to serve, the already extra privileged women for my whole life. i would prefer to die rather marriage. Man i feel like committing suicide, where is freedom when it is needed the most? Society telling me to stop living in illusion and come to reality, start earning and get married, start a family like a good man. Where as if tell them where are good women, the current generation of women is a scum of 5000 cums, they all know. But they won't admit it. And yet they expect guys to bow down to matriarchy norms. Be a good guy and except a whore for life, i would've gladly if the whore didn't pretend to be a good women, self entitled perfection. Is there anyone can help me to get out of here.

Well, there is always the old escape hatch: Learn some French and join the French Foreign Legion. Heard the Ukrainian and Russian Foreign Legions aka PMC Wagner are hiring right now.

Originally Posted by Harish yadav

You know what i had planned to avoid marriage by enrolling in some university out of our country so that i don't end up being an example classic disposable man. But the thing is no one is helping me out. Everyone is advising to get a government job and get married in the amount of money which can be used for foreign education. People are saying it's too late for me, i will be out of the league. Cause of my age. People of my age have family and kids, i am the only rare of the rarest. And yet society is hammering their norms on me. I don't want to serve, the already extra privileged women for my whole life. i would prefer to die rather marriage. Man i feel like committing suicide, where is freedom when it is needed the most? Society telling me to stop living in illusion and come to reality, start earning and get married, start a family like a good man. Where as if tell them where are good women, the current generation of women is a scum of 5000 cums, they all know. But they won't admit it. And yet they expect guys to bow down to matriarchy norms. Be a good guy and except a whore for life, i would've gladly if the whore didn't pretend to be a good women, self entitled perfection. Is there anyone can help me to get out of here.

Harish, welcome back.

I don't think these people are trying to deceive or harm you. What they say would make them happy, so they think it will make you happy as well. Their wrong, but it's what they honestly think.

Starting late in anything can be, and usually is a disadvantage. But unless you're talking an Olympic skier or something like that, it doesn't matter. A late bloomer will have to work harder, sometimes a lot, but it can be done. If you want something bad enough, that counts for more than a timely start.

From what you've said in past posts, I think you'd be lots happier and better off in Canada. Too bad no one is going to agree, but this is one time you should go against their wish's. Don't let them talk you out of it.

Originally Posted by CPRA

Well, there is always the old escape hatch: Learn some French and join the French Foreign Legion. Heard the Ukrainian and Russian Foreign Legions aka PMC Wagner are hiring right now.

If I got my story right, Harish has gov funds available that could be used either for an education in Canada, (India and Canada are both commonwealth) or he can stay home and use the money to acquire a blue pill life. Everyone is telling him schools a bad idea. Least I think that's what's going on.

Harish, you're only what, 30, 31?
Don't listen to those jerks telling you that it's "too late." That's BS.

Instead of hoping someone local will help you, why don't you research schools where you want to go online?
Often times they will have the info you need, or perhaps contact someone there to find out exactly what you need to do to "get the ball rolling" so to speak.
Odds are they've dealt with people in your situation before, and know what to do.

As for "living in reality," looks like you're the only one there who actually is...
again, ignore these people trying to get you back on the plantation...they're far more miserable than they'd have you believe...
...and misery loves company.

Your personal life is none of their freaking business.
When pressured, you can either tell them ^^that^^, or just reply in a dismissive manner that you've sworn off women 'cause they're too damn expensive,
and you don't need the drama.

Best wishes and good luck.

Originally Posted by Harish yadav

But the thing is no one is helping me out.

Stop expecting to be helped and start helping yourself.

Tens of thousands of people before you have used their stipend to attend school in Canada. Find them and start asking questions. If you don't know how to find them, then find out how to find them. Stop wringing your hands and start being proactive. You know it can be done because of all those people who have done it before you.

There's an old saying: "Spit in one hand, wish in another, and see which one fills up first."

Stop posting here about how you can't achieve your dreams. Start working towards your dreams instead. Do something, do anything, just get started. Get off your ass and get started.

It's not going to be easy with everyone against you Harish. You're going to have to be ruthless.

There might be some greed I didn't see either. If you go to Canada the money goes with you. If spent in India, the people you been talking might gain something from it. Family shouldn't stoop so low, but they sometimes do. They might have hopes of benefiting from finding you a bride as well. It doesn't look like they have your best interests at heart.

Originally Posted by Prokopton2

Stop expecting to be helped and start helping yourself.

Tens of thousands of people before you have used their stipend to attend school in Canada. Find them and start asking questions. If you don't know how to find them, then find out how to find them. Stop wringing your hands and start being proactive. You know it can be done because of all those people who have done it before you.

There's an old saying: "Spit in one hand, wish in another, and see which one fills up first."

Stop posting here about how you can't achieve your dreams. Start working towards your dreams instead. Do something, do anything, just get started. Get off your ass and get started.

The only mistake is going to the man/human hating education system in canada.

As long as you don’t mind massive political indoctrination, straight of hatred for you, a tyrannical government, and being in crap-ass canada, more power to you.

Originally Posted by DangZagnut

As long as you don’t mind massive political indoctrination, straight of hatred for you, a tyrannical government, and being in crap-ass canada, more power to you.

He'll be fine.

In Canada, he'll be both an immigrant and a "person of color". He'll be exactly what the Canadian, indeed Western, woke left worships, coddles, and subsidizes. All he'll need do is keep his head down and watch his tongue while allowing his "betters" shower him with their help and understanding.

Originally Posted by DangZagnut

The only mistake is going to the man/human hating education system in canada.

As long as you don’t mind massive political indoctrination, straight of hatred for you, a tyrannical government, and being in crap-ass canada, more power to you.

He could go anywhere, but since Canada and India have ties, school is cheaper for him in Canada.

I don't doubt anything you say about the great white north, though it saddens me. But I'm with Prokpton2 here. He's a clueless guy from afar, and if he watch's what he say's and plays dumb he should be fine. Besides, it looks like Canada or a traditional life on the plantation are his choices at the moment.

Originally Posted by CPRA

Well, there is always the old escape hatch: Learn some French and join the French Foreign Legion. Heard the Ukrainian and Russian Foreign Legions aka PMC Wagner are hiring right now.

Shit that will come if things didn't work out.

Originally Posted by CPRA

Well, there is always the old escape hatch: Learn some French and join the French Foreign Legion. Heard the Ukrainian and Russian Foreign Legions aka PMC Wagner are hiring right now.

Originally Posted by frog

Harish, welcome back.

I don't think these people are trying to deceive or harm you. What they say would make them happy, so they think it will make you happy as well. Their wrong, but it's what they honestly think.

Starting late in anything can be, and usually is a disadvantage. But unless you're talking an Olympic skier or something like that, it doesn't matter. A late bloomer will have to work harder, sometimes a lot, but it can be done. If you want something bad enough, that counts for more than a timely start.

From what you've said in past posts, I think you'd be lots happier and better off in Canada. Too bad no one is going to agree, but this is one time you should go against their wish's. Don't let them talk you out of it.

Going against everyone's wish
That's what I am trying for so many years. Hey do you guys also face something similar like this by your society, in you whichever country. I used to think that it is only local thing, but with age i am realising it might be happening everywhere in some other form.

Originally Posted by frog

If I got my story right, Harish has gov funds available that could be used either for an education in Canada, (India and Canada are both commonwealth) or he can stay home and use the money to acquire a blue pill life. Everyone is telling him schools a bad idea. Least I think that's what's going on.

Exactly. Not gov funds, but education loan which can be acquired through govt Bank. It's just that the present scenario is making me sick already.

Originally Posted by NorthwoodsHermit

Harish, you're only what, 30, 31?
Don't listen to those jerks telling you that it's "too late." That's BS.

Instead of hoping someone local will help you, why don't you research schools where you want to go online?
Often times they will have the info you need, or perhaps contact someone there to find out exactly what you need to do to "get the ball rolling" so to speak.
Odds are they've dealt with people in your situation before, and know what to do.

As for "living in reality," looks like you're the only one there who actually is...
again, ignore these people trying to get you back on the plantation...they're far more miserable than they'd have you believe...
...and misery loves company.

Your personal life is none of their freaking business.
When pressured, you can either tell them ^^that^^, or just reply in a dismissive manner that you've sworn off women 'cause they're too damn expensive,
and you don't need the drama.

Best wishes and good luck.

Thanks man. I have it all,
Contact overseas, check
Contacted university of there online, check.
Agent, check.

But with zero support. I will have to cut a deal with the agent that i will pay him later once i am overseas. Speaking of drama, i can say drama, nagging, mood swings all have one common origin in life. My neighbour's wife constantly Nags whole day. I don't want to end up with similar fate. Plus i want to see more of the world, not want to reach the point B from A. The line must continue, journey must continue. Or else what's there without it.

Originally Posted by Prokopton2

Stop expecting to be helped and start helping yourself.

Tens of thousands of people before you have used their stipend to attend school in Canada. Find them and start asking questions. If you don't know how to find them, then find out how to find them. Stop wringing your hands and start being proactive. You know it can be done because of all those people who have done it before you.

There's an old saying: "Spit in one hand, wish in another, and see which one fills up first."

Stop posting here about how you can't achieve your dreams. Start working towards your dreams instead. Do something, do anything, just get started. Get off your ass and get started.

I have few contacts who are living there. Tell you what indians don't want other Indians to migrate there. Indian immigrants don't want other Indians to live a better life. So they keep on saying life is hell out there. I have heard that this stigma is there in Chinese, indians and other nations similar like that. I am trying my best.

Originally Posted by frog

It's not going to be easy with everyone against you Harish. You're going to have to be ruthless.

There might be some greed I didn't see either. If you go to Canada the money goes with you. If spent in India, the people you been talking might gain something from it. Family shouldn't stoop so low, but they sometimes do. They might have hopes of benefiting from finding you a bride as well. It doesn't look like they have your best interests at heart.

There's this norm in which parents marry their son/daughter young in a grand expensive wedding, which they keep on boasting about in office, on social media, practically everywhere they go. Making other people jealous or something. And it works other people start doing the same thing as well. Here there's this system where everyone is looking for an excuse to demean you (i have heard it's like that everywhere but i have never been to some other country so i Don't know) And this marriage thing becomes their excuse. So it's kinda hysteria or what i don't know but one thing is i am sure of that your personal freedom gets crushed, failed, bows down in front of it. And it will if you didn't escape to protect your freedom.

Originally Posted by DangZagnut

The only mistake is going to the man/human hating education system in canada.

As long as you don’t mind massive political indoctrination, straight of hatred for you, a tyrannical government, and being in crap-ass canada, more power to you.

Shit the people who migrate there don't even bother about political issues for initial years. It is only in their interest once they've settled down.

Originally Posted by Prokopton2

He'll be fine.

In Canada, he'll be both an immigrant and a "person of color". He'll be exactly what the Canadian, indeed Western, woke left worships, coddles, and subsidizes. All he'll need do is keep his head down and watch his tongue while allowing his "betters" shower him with their help and understanding.

Person of colour? I haven't heard about racism or any discriminative practice from anyone who has migrated there.

Originally Posted by Harish yadav

I have few contacts who are living there. Tell you what indians don't want other Indians to migrate there. Indian immigrants don't want other Indians to live a better life. So they keep on saying life is hell out there. I have heard that this stigma is there in Chinese, indians and other nations similar like that. I am trying my best.

Tall Poppy Syndrome: The tall poppy syndrome is a cultural phenomenon in which people hold back, criticise or sabotage those who have or are believed to have achieved notable success in one or more aspects of life, particularly intellectual or cultural wealth; "cutting down the tall poppy".

Originally Posted by frog

He could go anywhere, but since Canada and India have ties, school is cheaper for him in Canada.

I don't doubt anything you say about the great white north, though it saddens me. But I'm with Prokpton2 here. He's a clueless guy from afar, and if he watch's what he say's and plays dumb he should be fine. Besides, it looks like Canada or a traditional life on the plantation are his choices at the moment.

Hey man is there anything wrong with Canada? It's cheaper and more developed than our country. Developed by miles.