Thread: Request: looking to find a non-standard, RP/MGTOW sympathetic, off-the-books, remote "therapist"

Sorry mods if this isn't the right place to post something like this. Long story short, I've been put through hell on earth over the last decade due to my feminist ex, the family courts, and gynocentric society. I have barely survived and I have been close to offing myself multiple times to escape the pain and torment. But considering all of this, I am extremely proud of myself that I have survived and kind of see it as a miracle that I'm still here.

And through research and reading, I have been able to do quite a bit of self therapy to keep myself going and to get myself back on a better track. I have tried a number of different therapists and have been extremely dissatisfied with the state of modern psychology and therapy, feeling like it actually offers more risks to men like myself than benefits. With most of the therapists I've tried, I've come away from them feeling like it was ME that was counseling THEM a majority of the time while paying hundreds of dollars per session. I found that I couldn't be truly open and honest with the therapists I've worked with and I have read much of the same stories from other men in these kinds of message boards, how typical therapists were at best not worth the money and at worst, a great risk to men like us.

With mandatory reporting laws and how therapists/authorities/insurance companies handle risk, simply expressing the fact that you're dealing with suicidal thoughts could be enough to get you locked up in a hospital, have your rights taken away, and be branded as something you're not for the rest of your life. Also, with my ongoing custody battle against my evil demon cunt of an ex, any and all things I might share with a typical therapist can and will be used against my by the guardian ad litems and made known to my ex and family court. I can't do that.

Additionally, I feel like most therapists would simply try to get me to conform to the gynocentric norms of our current fucked up gynocentric psychotherapy industry, woke DSM, and try to re-indoctrinate me against the truths I've found through The Red Pill and through MGTOW. I have no interest in being their version of a "normal", "well-adjusted" man. I am, however, interested in further healing from the trauma I have been put through and learning to cope with our shit modern society so that I can be truly well-adjusted and reduce dependency on things like alcohol and/or drugs.

I have made quite a bit of progress and am way better off than I have been in the past. But I feel that having some outside help and someone to talk to regularly could be well worth the effort and money. Here are the issues I've learned that I am dealing with and would like to work on:

• C-PTSD / ongoing trauma recovery/treatment
• HSP (highly sensitive person)
• Introvert
• Red Pill counseling/guidance about making good decisions as a man
• ADD (potentially)
• Stress
• Family conflict, being raised by a crazy feminist mother and absent/weak father
• Distaste for life and occasional suicidal thoughts
• Coming to terms with issues of gradually leaving my previous religion (Christianity) and exploring more diverse spiritual views, anger at god.
• Life coaching

Here are the books that I have read that have been very helpful to me and that I am continuing to work through:

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Sean Pratt

Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David D. Burns

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma by Pete Walker

The Anxiety Toolkit: Strategies for Fine-Tuning Your Mind and Moving Past Your Stuck Points by Alice Boyes PhD

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy: Techniques for Retraining Your Brain by Jason Satterfield


I would like to explore the option of finding a non-standard, off the books, manosphere-friendly, non-gynocentric "therapist" that I can pay to continue to help me through remote sessions. I don't care if you have official therapist credentials and will simply gauge your qualifications based on your stated experience, knowledge and ability to help me. We could just take it a session at a time to see how it goes, and maybe we even refer to it as "coaching" rather than "therapy", although with the aim that you are able to assist me better than I could on my own or through most traditional therapists.

Sorry if this sounds kind of weird, but I'd like to do all I can to continue to help myself without dealing with the crapshow that is modern therapy. My demon cunt of an ex has become a therapist herself, and I would VERY MUCH like to avoid hiring someone like her to help me.

I'm also interested in thoughts and perspectives from other men in here, if you have any advice for me on these things or how I might proceed forward on this stuff in the best way.

Thanks all for taking the time to read this.

Originally Posted by micro_peanuts

Here are the books that I have read that have been very helpful to me and that I am continuing to work through:

Hi, I replaced the links to Amazon with the actual titles as I think it wouldn't matter to you if I did, plus then members don't have to click away from here 5 times each time, and importantly we don't like to link to advertisements.

Between a bad family, the great depression and a WW II prison camp, it's safe to say my father was never once normal or well adjusted. He worked hard to hide it, but he must have had every problem in the book. Mental help for working stiffs was not a thing back then, they only healed bodies. He'd a probably scorned their help if they had offered.

For him denial truly did become a river in Egypt. He didn't look back much, and you can't blame him. He got epilepsy in his forties, and the daily downers they made him take actually loosened him up some after a few years. The second half of his life was good.

I guess this is a long-winded way of saying you're on your own and it might suck, but you have a fighting chance. You don't say how old your kids are, my guess is you'll be a lot happier when their grown and no longer under your ex's thumb. And by the time that happens you should be in a better place. A lot of water will flow under the bridge till then, but that will likely help you more than the medical profession can. Even if they wanted to, which they probably don't.

Asking for a therapist is not a bad idea, but it's not likely we know somebody. Is there anybody in the business you trust, even a little? Maybe ask them if they know someone special? They might be honest if you approach them right. Or not. But if there is a therapist who could really help, it's people in the business who would know who it is.