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    Reddit: DivorcedDads - "Boy was I stupid"

    Saw this. Man, a horror story, posted in Reddit 5 months ago, repeated here in its original form:


    Boy was I stupid

    My wife of 33 yrs called on my birthday and asked for divorce , I thought I knew her... we did our own divorce after living together two years , I received a small inheritance and paid off my bills car and a nosebleed rate loan we had to help my son and daughter have cars for college. Everything went well my ex telling me I’d have a relationship with my kids after the divorce. Boy did that not happen my ex let my kids have it and tho I’m not a saint , that I was evil incarnate . My kids had food clothes played sports were popular smart and good people . I haven’t spoken to either of them in months . Two years ago it was bad .. I averaged 70-100 hrs a week over the last 6 yrs due to a burst colon and my daughter was hospitalized with anorexia at the same time. I was off 6 months then with two surgeries losing 4 ft of colon and sporting a 3 ft abdominal scar. Needless to say we were broke ..the moment I could work I worked 3 jobs to dig us out .. this went on until 2018 when my colon was lock by all the scar tissue and they thought I would die ... I guilted my son to come see me so whatever I had done to be ignored since the divorce he could get off his chest so I would hear my sins.
    I really didn’t know him his issues with me were aslot of not being around this list is two long (6 years 70-100 hrs a week digging is out financially ) so yeah I’m a bad guy but now he can feel better he said it. My daughter (oh god that’s a book ) called occasionally after the divorce mostly to tell me she hates me and she wanted to stab me lol. It’s just banter and at least I knew she was breathing. My ex and I had been helping my daughter with expenses at the time she worked and had finished her masters . He new man was older and sold to me as stable and working . He beat herunconcious , fractured her skull and neck , bruised a kidney And choked her unconscious and smoked a joint while she was out possibly dead . My ex knew everthing , my daughter called me drunk and told it all that’s why I was giving her money . My ex knew it all and hid it from me for a year ...33 yrs I really didn’t know my ex at all . Screw this sam my daughter was all but murdered by this guy and until Sam told me herself . I was in the dark omg I confronted her and said yes it was good she didn’t tell me I might have done something about it. She was speechless I knew it all about it , who was she , the mom the one the kids worship while I’m the devil for doing what I had to to help give them a good life without wanting for anything . Again I’m not a saint and I grew up with my 2 brothers and sister very poor . We all know how to go to work. My god this is a soap opera sorry.. believe me this is the tip of the iceberg only. Recently I met and live with a wonderful woman who is younger than me . My daughter found out and was calling asking questions to which I said my personal life is my own . They don’t want me they don’t get to participate in my one joy. But she was able to get my girlfriend on the phone and tell her things that broke my heart , trying to sabotage my relationship , it almost worked . My kids are both super Mensa smart , my daughter is a therapist helping homeless people . She should have her doctorate soon. What my daughter said to Tab my girlfriend was cold and calculated to hurt me ... why I’ve finally stopped trying to have a relationship with my kids , it’s what they want .. but it just doesn’t end . Maybe I should of let them know more hardship as kids . They both treat others with care and kindness bordering on saints but to me it’s awful .. I just get up each day so far and go on .. I don’t know why I took this time to write this , but I guess it’s some therapy to talk ...
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    Re: Reddit: DivorcedDads - "Boy was I stupid"

    The Ramones wish to comment:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2OXjVge2mBY

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    Re: Reddit: DivorcedDads - "Boy was I stupid"

    Bad things don't happen when you're societies bastard man that refuses commitment that leads to wreckage, suffering, and hardships, no sir, bastard man slides through life on a well oiled machine!

    While other men are getting pounded by family court gavels, bastard man is pounding moguls on some far off mountain!
    Last edited by mgtower; March 3, 2021 at 12:29 PM.
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    Re: Reddit: DivorcedDads - "Boy was I stupid"

    As tragic as this story is for this man he seems to not understand how to undo the brainwashing his children went through from his ex. Step 1: Distance. Step 2: Children will come to him in time.

    The fact that his children still want to communicate with him indicates they were turning that corner on the ex's brainwashing. And once that is done he needed to establish firm boundaries for his personal life and lines his children should have not crossed as adults. Re-training adults raised by a psycho single mom is like herding cats but it can be done if they are as smart as he says they are.

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    Re: Reddit: DivorcedDads - "Boy was I stupid"

    Quote Originally Posted by Azure Nomad View Post
    As tragic as this story is for this man he seems to not understand how to undo the brainwashing his children went through from his ex. Step 1: Distance. Step 2: Children will come to him in time.

    The fact that his children still want to communicate with him indicates they were turning that corner on the ex's brainwashing. And once that is done he needed to establish firm boundaries for his personal life and lines his children should have not crossed as adults. Re-training adults raised by a psycho single mom is like herding cats but it can be done if they are as smart as he says they are.
    Shattered, smashed, bastardized family's are no family at all.

    We have a choice; we can be orphan bastard fathers of bastardized families or we can cut the chase and be this new irreversible culture's "BASTARD MAN", the man that does nothing, gives nothing, evades everything, and drops the ball over a cliff, all in counter response to the cultural molestation we've endured and now escaped.

    Bastard men know better and have crystal clear vision with precision decisiveness. We don't wobble, waffle, wave, and flutter, we're the armor piercing rounds needed to end this culture once and for all.

    I'm free of them, they've been canceled, that site is contaminated with depleted uranium.
    United we stand, divided we are.

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    Re: Reddit: DivorcedDads - "Boy was I stupid"

    Quote Originally Posted by Azure Nomad View Post
    As tragic as this story is for this man he seems to not understand how to undo the brainwashing his children went through from his ex. Step 1: Distance. Step 2: Children will come to him in time.

    The fact that his children still want to communicate with him indicates they were turning that corner on the ex's brainwashing. And once that is done he needed to establish firm boundaries for his personal life and lines his children should have not crossed as adults. Re-training adults raised by a psycho single mom is like herding cats but it can be done if they are as smart as he says they are.
    I am not a parent and have never been in this position, so I can only surmise - please forgive my ignorance.

    I would think that a dad, having been separated from his kids and seeing those kids being turned against him would be devastated.

    He may well take solace in years to come that his kids have seen through the lies and manipulations of the mother, but until that time???

    This can take many, many years if it even happens at all.

    And during this time the guy is doing his best to win back his kids favour.

    But he's out-bidden and beaten out by the law. He has less access and therefore less influence.

    So his kids berate him and all he can do is live it out and hope that 'one day...'.

    This is not done by the woman out believing that they are right (although they do), nor is it about the law (which is on their side).

    No, this is about vengeance and punishment.

    As for the reason - They're women; make a list and pick any or all.
    "Those who would give up essential Liberty, to purchase a little temporary Safety, deserve neither Liberty nor Safety." - Benjamin Franklin


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