Thread: Permascowl

He was a successful singer and, as we toured the country, I thought I had finally found the excitement and love that I craved.

This is, again, uncannily like my ex-wife. And I hear this a LOT from women as a reason for leaving a devoted husband--the want "excitement."

Dear Ladies: It is not our job to provide you with excitement. If you life isn't exciting enough without having a man provide "excitement" for you, then that's honestly a personal problem and should not be taken out on us. Thank you.

Originally Posted by William Noy

Dear Ladies: It is not our job to provide you with excitement. If you life isn't exciting enough without having a man provide "excitement" for you, then that's honestly a personal problem and should not be taken out on us. Thank you.

^YES x1000

The problem that I think this lady has is the mismatch between what she wants for herself and what society has told her she wants.

She wanted an exciting relationship with a man who had higher social status than her. She wanted to feel like she married up, not down. I don't think this was some conscious decision on her part to be ungrateful for what she had - probably more biological. She had no control over how she felt about Matthew. Also she does not, did not and cannot love Matthew the way he loved her. I guarantee you, if she had found that alpha male that she wanted, and things had worked out and they had kids together, she would never have thought about him again. It is only because she hit the Wall without getting what she wanted that she laments losing Matthew.

She knows in her head that leaving Matthew was a bad idea. But if I had to guess, this is not so much that she regrets the love she lost, but the opportunities. Children most notably.

She misses the what but not the who.

Originally Posted by The_Joker

A while back jagrmeister created a thread about PERMASCOWL.

I have found a picture of a woman who fits that description perfectly. She has a permanently angry face weilded to her face.

She played chicken with the Wall and the Wall won.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2263518/I-left-love-life-I-thought-I-better-Now-Im-childless-42.html


　

Not only does the article elaborate on how empty and barren her life has been but the eyes tell it all. It is like looking into the void of darkness...nothing is left that you can say has exuberance. Just a blank, cold dark stare with a permascowl as the icing on the cake.

Walking around with a much younger woman generates what I like to call the autoscowl on twats over 30.

Originally Posted by MrBlue

I don't think this was some conscious decision on her part to be ungrateful for what she had - probably more biological.

I disagree, but only partially. Not about the biological part. Biology certainly does figure again, but, and hence my disagreement, part of being a functioning adult in society is being able to set aside biology to pursue rational interests and responsibilities.

This woman, in her description of how things went, is uncannily like my ex-wife. And like my ex-wife, I would accuse her of deliberately choosing to be unhappy. She chose to view him with contempt. She chose not to try to understand what was going on with his job prospects. She chose to see only the bad. But the thing is, the good stuff was still there.

You see, when they first got together, all she saw was the good, and her outlook was rosy. Then on some level, she made the decision that he did not fit into the life that she had planned. You see, she was never in it to build a life with someone, she only viewed him as an accessory. And like an older accessory that is now considered "dated," she started focusing on what was wrong with him. And she did not give one thought to how she felt when they first started dating, and how, at the end of the day, he really was the same person, just in different circumstances. She started seeing only the bad and ignoring the good. She chose to do this--either deliberately, or by omission. And when she saw only the bad, she was miserable. Her miserableness was her choice.

She can blame biology all she wants, but I hold adult humans responsible for their choices. And she chose to simply listen to her biology. She worked very hard to make sure she no longer felt "love" for Matthew so she could leave him. I say "love," because how can one really love what one views as an accessory?

I'm just glad Matthew didn't have children with this selfish lowlife. She has neither the fortitude, nor the integrity to build a family.

Honestly, I was chuckling grimly as I read the article. She made her own bed, and now has to lie in it all alone. She should be a cautionary tale for young women on how they need to think of the future when associating with men. Unfortunately, they probably won't listen.

Originally Posted by TheRecipe

Walking around with a much younger woman generates what I like to call the autoscowl on twats over 30.

I just want to tell them, "hey, if you'd actually gotten married instead of slutting around in your 20s, you'd actually be with someone." (of course, I'm living proof that's not true at all. They leave their husbands and STILL eventually end up alone lol)

Originally Posted by Daniel11

The irony is that Matthews career probably took off after she left him, due to the huge weight of stress lifting from his shoulders.

Since I dumped my ex and moved out of our flat earlier this year my career has skyrocketed. So I am proof that this is true.

Me too. I often lamented that my so-called "wife" was really more like a rebellious teenage daughter. And that is unacceptable when you have two small children to care for.

I saw one of these last year while walking towards an ATM. Woman turns around to leave after using the ATM adjacent to the one I'm headed for: permascowl that deserved a nice shoulder check.

I might have outweighed her, I only had an inch or two on her in height, if that.

"I began to wish he was more sophisticated and earned more. I felt envious of friends with better-off partners, who were able to support them as they started their families."

Yeah, this definitely the true face of Permascowl. Face like a slapped ass.

Good find on your part, Parker, resurrecting this thread.

She fought the Wall, and the Wall won ...

(That brings back memories of The Clash, and their song "I fought the Law and the Law won!" Maybe some of our musically-minded brothers, here, could come up with "She Fought The Wall" lyrics that would fit it....)