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    Lightbulb Perhaps this is just a Canada thing..

    But has anyone else experienced, or rather, been under the impression that more women are holding the door open for you? And worse, they almost loiter around the door afterwards waiting for you to 'thank' them for holding it open for you. This one time in university, this woman held the door open for me and I walked through it without saying anything, to which she loudly exclaimed "YOU'RE WELCOME!!" afterwards. It was obnoxious and rude.

    Prior to becoming Redpilled, I would ALWAYS go out of my way to hold the door open for a woman. I try to make a habit of not doing it anymore. I feel like an asshole, but I truly feel like chivalry IS dead and they're the ones who shot it. And I don't wanna be that asshole who's the lone person to show up to do something no one else is doing.

    But has anyone else noticed women trying to be 'chivalrous?'

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    I have noticed women sometimes opening the door for me. I just say "thank you." This is one that's not worth making a big deal over IMO.

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    Re: Perhaps this is just a Canada thing..

    Nope (not Canadian). As it is university maybe some professor pitched in this dumb idea as to 'fight traditional gender stereotypes'. It's Canada after all.
    I find it funny that they expect gratitiude. How do they even imagine that? "Wow thanks! That door is so heavy. If were not you I wouldn't be able to open it and I would certainly fail my course"

    Woman or women though? Opening door for everyone or just for you? Women are terrible at pickup. In another thread somebody metioned a woman that literally crashed her cart into his in supermarket and then tried to get his number or sth. Such a behaviour is rather common (atleast internet stories say so, I always kept my distance from people so I've had only one situation when woman was hitting on me. It was also VERY obnoxious so i find these stories believable.)
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    Re: Perhaps this is just a Canada thing..

    Quote Originally Posted by alphalpha View Post
    But has anyone else noticed women trying to be 'chivalrous?'
    I don't, and never have. I've always held the door open for whoever was immediately behind me and they almost always give a nod or say a quiet "Thanks", as I do when the door is held for me. So this is one situation where I have missed out on the drama that I read about.

    But now that I am a senior citizen, I think I see a slight uptick from people in general, a politeness for my age. Occasionally. Hard to know, really, since I can't know how differently they would treat me if I was their age.
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    Re: Perhaps this is just a Canada thing..

    I've noticed it a little but not to the point of hanging around a door to open it. More a case of if they are already passing through it they will hold it open for someone behind them etc. I kind of close myself off from everyone, male or female so I notice a whole lot lol.

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    Re: Perhaps this is just a Canada thing..

    Quote Originally Posted by alphalpha View Post
    But has anyone else experienced, or rather, been under the impression that more women are holding the door open for you? And worse, they almost loiter around the door afterwards waiting for you to 'thank' them for holding it open for you. This one time in university, this woman held the door open for me and I walked through it without saying anything, to which she loudly exclaimed "YOU'RE WELCOME!!" afterwards. It was obnoxious and rude.

    Prior to becoming Redpilled, I would ALWAYS go out of my way to hold the door open for a woman. I try to make a habit of not doing it anymore. I feel like an asshole, but I truly feel like chivalry IS dead and they're the ones who shot it. And I don't wanna be that asshole who's the lone person to show up to do something no one else is doing.

    But has anyone else noticed women trying to be 'chivalrous?'
    Eh, Iím sure Iím gonna come in for some criticism for this, but yeah Iíve noticed this too.

    Iím in Ireland so itís not just a Canadian thing.

    And it isnít all the time, but there does seem to be an upsurge especially amongst the under 40ís.

    As to why, now thatís the question isnít it? Could it be that they are the social media users?

    Sites like this have been calling out womenís poor behaviour for years and maybe the message is beginning to get through Ė but before anyone calls me out let me explain my reasoning:

    It isnít that they are learning that earlier methods were morally wrong Ė we all know that their morals revolve around their wants in ever increasing hamster thinking.

    No, itís more likely their practical side (yes, they do have one) knows theyíve been called out and this is their response. Itís just more manipulation on their part to try to hook you in that they are actually the unicorn youíre looking for Ė and if not you, youíll tell your mate thatís interested in her that sheís one of the good ones. (Insert sounds of upchucking here!)

    Women have ALWAYS presented themselves as something other than they are until they catch their fish then, and only then do they reveal their true colours.

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    Kindness is a staple of humanity, loose your kindness and you loose your humanity. I'm not mean, spiteful, vengeful, or nasty to anyone! I've watched too many people become sour and bitter to want anything with following them in their footsteps. I don't hate women and I don't allow them any reason to cause me to hate them. I'm Stoic in many ways, like a stream that naturally flows around the rocks to get to where I'm going.

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    Re: Perhaps this is just a Canada thing..

    Can't say I have. TBH I'm not noticing women very much at all anymore. A distracted look from my side to nice curves during 1 second at best.
    Regarding the whole "holding the door" issue: I'll hold the door if someone (M/F) is right behind me wanting to get in/ out the same door as I am going now. I see that as a general act of courtesy rather than simping.

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    Re: Perhaps this is just a Canada thing..

    IRL, I'm a very polite, quiet, introverted, reclusive and reserved person. I always hold the door for the person behind me, mostly as I'm walking through it, but in the case of the elderly, I stand aside and let them go first. As I've gotten older, it seems that people are holding the door for me more often, but that might just be my imagination. I'm with those that think, unless they give you an immediate reason to act otherwise, it's always best to be polite to others. There's few things I disdain more than people who are rude and inconsiderate in public for no reason.
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    Re: Perhaps this is just a Canada thing..

    Quote Originally Posted by MannSplainer View Post
    IRL, I'm a very polite, quiet, introverted, reclusive and reserved person. I always hold the door for the person behind me, mostly as I'm walking through it, but in the case of the elderly, I stand aside and let them go first. As I've gotten older, it seems that people are holding the door for me more often, but that might just be my imagination. I'm with those that think, unless they give you an immediate reason to act otherwise, it's always best to be polite to others. There's few things I disdain more than people who are rude and inconsiderate in public for no reason.
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    Re: Perhaps this is just a Canada thing..

    Say “Thank you.”, and spend less time observing what people do after they hold the door open for you.


    Loitering is an indicator that she is presenting an opportunity to begin a conversation. Instead of being direct and risking rejection, ‘opportunities will be granted’ for you to humble yourself and flatter her with worship and praise.


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    Re: Perhaps this is just a Canada thing..

    More people are holding doors open. They stop in parking lots to let me walk by too. Mostly it's cause I'm obviously a geezer.

    But the pandemic has changed people. Some got meaner, and some seem to have gotten nicer. It's just a theory, but I think something's changed.
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