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    Nominate books for personal development

    I am in need of books that would help me to:
    - increase my self-esteem.
    - improve my conversation skills.
    - develop charisma.
    - lose weight.
    - deal with depression.
    - use techniques and tips that psychologists give in their sessions.
    - understand human nature.
    - avoid committing a mistake.
    - understand investing and personal finance.
    - excel at work.

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    Re: Nominate books for personal development

    Develop charisma? Good luck with that. Let Hollywood know when you figure it out. You could become what the west calls a "character". It's similar, but not anywhere near the same. James Dean had charisma. Jim Morrison had charisma. James and Jim are dead, so much for charisma. It's not for you and me.

    Understand human nature? Read the lounge when you get the chance, not just some, plough through the whole god damned thing. I learned more there than my whole life before this place. Oh I knew what had happened to me alright, but till 2014, I didn't know why.

    After that, read all the banned member's story's, so you'll see how not to do things. A lot a funny shit in there.

    Excelling at work for the average slob is trying hard more than anything else. Don't try to get out of something that stinks just cause you have an excuse. Everybody will know you weaseled out, and that's not a reputation you want. Least not in the west.
    Last edited by frog; November 19, 2021 at 6:42 PM.
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    Re: Nominate books for personal development

    Most self help books are worthless. I'd say read How to Win Friends and Influence People, Meditations, research CBT, find a YouTube fitness channel, take Sam-E for depression, meditate regularly and just start listening to Stoicism podcasts (Stoic Meditations is good)
    Last edited by Toolband89; November 20, 2021 at 6:17 PM.

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    Re: Nominate books for personal development

    Maximum Achievement by Brian Tracey. He also has a very good book named Goals.

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    Re: Nominate books for personal development

    The power of your subconscious mind, By Dr. Joseph Murphy.. That book changed my whole outlook..

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    Re: Nominate books for personal development

    Just a few things off the top of my head.

    It's a tall order, and so I'd suggest the first thing to do is back up and avoid trying to eat the entire elephant at once. A self help perspective is good, because it's a huge trap to think these things can be solved by throwing a lot of money at counseling, courses, diet pills, anti-depressants etc. But don't get stuck in endless reading.

    Work on the list first. Some of this is easy. To excel at work: Show up every day. Take the work seriously but don't get obsessed with it. Follow through on your promises. Don't bitch and moan. I'll add for the modern age, don't look at your phone every 10 seconds. Done. You'll have to fine tune this, because if you follow through employers will be begging you to take promotions.

    I second everything frog mentioned about charisma. Consider crossing that one off the list.

    It's impossible to be at all active in the world and avoid possibility of mistakes. And sitting at home trying to avoid mistakes doesn't end well either. Think about dispensing with this restriction.

    There's plenty of good reading opportunities right here. Check out the background resources. For one, Member Eddie Haskell is writing some good articles on self esteem and other aspects of bachelor life.

    The biggest trap: "I will be happy when......fill in the blank" It's what nearly everybody does and is the driver of blue pill life. "When I retire, get a spouse, get rid of my spouse, get a new car, buy a boat, get rid of my boat, my kids are out of college." It never ends. It's now or never. Get to work, and be happy today doing it.
    Last edited by BeenThereDoneThat; November 20, 2021 at 2:57 PM.


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