Thread: Mothers Explain Why They Regret Having Kids

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I’m not a good mother. I care about them but I don’t know how to raise them. They are raising themselves with me trying beside them. Generational trauma, insane pedofile bio dad/ex husband. I was too young and groomed.
I traumatized my kids by my ignorance and I can keep trying to learn and grow. And help them. But damage is done. And I wish I could go back and fix me so I could help them but I cant.


My mental health, all my coping energy is spent on kids so my mh takes a back burner. I'm in therapy but I had them before I found out my struggles are asd/adhd related and will be lifelong.



I thought my kids would save my life. You hear those stories where your kids “give you a reason to love.” I love them whole heartedly and they are incredible. But I still wake up every morning wishing I didn’t wake up. No amount of therapy or medicine has ever changed my desire to no longer exist



There’s not a day that goes by where I don’t say “I hate my life” at least once. The really sucky part is I’m about to go back to work, so on top of being the primary caregiver/homemaker, I’m going to work 40 hours a week. I’m 42 so I’ll be in my 50s before this one is truly independent. I’m trapped and there’s nothing I can do but grin and bear it, and hope I don’t have a nervous breakdown.



I really do sometimes enjoy my son.

But, having him has tied me to an abuser for the next 14.5 years. He still gets to abuse me.


But I regret having him because I like sleep too much


When my daughter turned 17 and stopped speaking to me I regretted putting her first her entire life. I


I didn't realize that a maternal instinct is not universal. You know how you see parents in the delivery room and they are crying tears of joy? I felt nothing. Honestly, I could have left them at the hospital and it wouldn't have bothered me. I usually have no desire to spend time with them at all.


Because kids aren't the life completer we believe they are. Actually they take away from your quality of life daily. My kids are 13 and 11 and they STILL mess up my daily life


All you need is a special needs kid to think something along the lines of "I wouldn't want him to die or anything, but if I could go back to before he was conceived I'd do things differently."


I regret having my son more than I don’t. I love him. I want to not regret having him. However, I have anxiety, depression and ADHD.


Honestly, I'm not a good mother. I'm not as abusive as my own, but I still didn't have the tools and knowledge needed to be a good parent. I was 16, and though I tried, I simply fell very short and became an alcoholic.

I bet they don't regret having kids when they are using them as leverage and as bait to get free stuff!

Originally Posted by MGTOWFOREVER

I bet they don't regret having kids when they are using them as leverage and as bait to get free stuff!

BINGO! The man earns another cheroot!

Regret can be quite articulate.

Oh boo-hoo! Maybe if they didn't fuck Chad without knowing what they were in for, they wouldn't regret their poor choices.

And yes, MGTOWFOREVER, women don't regret having kids when exploiting them for child support from their ex husband or government assistance, including people who have NO right to that money like immigrants.

Originally Posted by ResidentEvil7

Oh boo-hoo! Maybe if they didn't fuck Chad without knowing what they were for, they wouldn't regret their poor choices.

And yes, MGTOWFOREVER, women don't regret having kids when exploiting them for child support from their ex husband or government assistance, including people who have NO right to that money like immigrants.

Would they enjoy some cheese with that whine?

Boo-hoo! Cry me a river.

Originally Posted by The Captain

BINGO! The man earns another cheroot!

Thanks but I quit smoking.

Have a drink on me. Cheers!

They keep spreading their legs and fucking their Chads (or whoever will "trip their trigger"/"tickle their tingle") and they'll keep on popping out the babies.

My heart bleeds for them... ​NOT!

Originally Posted by MGTOWFOREVER

Thanks but I quit smoking.

Have a drink on me. Cheers!

I don't drink, nor do I smoke. (Back in the day I enjoyed a decent Cohiba Robusto while at the bullfights).

There's nothing quite like the roar of the crowd at the Plaza de Toros Monumental in Tijuana on a warm spring afternoon watching six bouts between man and beast!

I hear a Wambulance!

Having kids sucks, it takes a special kind of Flanders to enjoy it.

I have a friend who wanted kids his whole life and married his high school sweetheart. He has a great job, well behaved kids, a decent wife, basically as good as family life gets, and he still warned me: "Unless you really, really want children, don't have them." You can do everything right but the expense, stress, lack of sleep and sheer amount of work is still not worth it, and that's before we start talking about divorce court.

Other parents I know either dejectedly laugh at how much their lives suck after a few beers or fondly reminisce about the olden days when they could, I don't know, get up and go eat a steak without planning for it two weeks ahead. One guy admitted he debated leaving the country and disappearing when the reality of living with an infant hit him. A few do seem to enjoy it but there are already signs of the wife getting bored so we'll see for how long.

Originally Posted by The Captain

I don't drink, nor do I smoke. (Back in the day I enjoyed a decent Cohiba Robusto while at the bullfights).

I will never give up drinking scotch or smoking cigars. Nothing like a beautiful Tabak Especial Toro Negra on a quiet night with a glass of Johnny Green on ice.

Originally Posted by Chris007

I will never give up drinking scotch or smoking cigars. Nothing like a beautiful Tabak Especial Toro Negra on a quiet night with a glass of Johnny Green on ice.

We all have a couple things we're not letting go.

There's somethings I won't give up, such as my cold refreshing Coors Light. Coors Light are my babies.

Originally Posted by Slow Handf

I hear a Wambulance!

And its getting closer by the second!

The really scary part is that there's a sizeable subclass of American society that's exactly like her, chooses the same mates she did, and lives with just as much daily regret. In other words, it's not just a few hundred, or a few thousand, or even a few hundreds of thousands. It's literally millions. I see them all the time around here. They don't look like bums or homeless or anything, but there's this aura of sadness and resignation that surrounds them. You can see it in their expressionless eyes. Furthermore, with the middle class quickly disappearing, we're going to see a lot more cases like this.

This is a big reason why I almost never speak to strangers, even though I'm an extrovert to the Nth degree. Because just about anything can trigger an eruption. Like seeing other people leading normal, reasonably happy lives. You see it in the news every day -- "Woman stabs McDonalds employee because [insert lame reason]." You know some dark energy was building up for a while, long before a volcano like that blows its top.

Originally Posted by kru-kut

The really scary part is that there's a sizeable subclass of American society that's exactly like her, chooses the same mates she did, and lives with just as much daily regret. In other words, it's not just a few hundred, or a few thousand, or even a few hundreds of thousands. It's literally millions. I see them all the time around here. They don't look like bums or homeless or anything, but there's this aura of sadness and resignation that surrounds them. You can see it in their expressionless eyes. Furthermore, with the middle class quickly disappearing, we're going to see a lot more cases like this.

This is a big reason why I almost never speak to strangers, even though I'm an extrovert to the Nth degree. Because just about anything can trigger an eruption. Like seeing other people leading normal, reasonably happy lives. You see it in the news every day -- "Woman stabs McDonalds employee because [insert lame reason]." You know some dark energy was building up for a while, long before a volcano like that blows its top.

You mean you don't play scratch'n'sniff with blasting caps?