Thread: Men who encourage other men not to open up to women, why?

Men who encourage other men not to open up to women, why?

Hilarious thread on reddit about men not opening up.

archive: https://archive.ph/azoID

They tried to remove it, but it remains. The text part was:

I've been seeing this a lot on reddit and other social media, especially since lockdown, and although I ask genuinely, sometimes it really frustrates me. I think it's because a lot of the time the men who get given this advice also struggle with talking to other men about their issues, so who are they meant to talk to?
I realised it was an issue with my last boyfriend and although it wasn't a very serious relationship, it makes it hard to feel respected or valued as a person when men you are seemingly close to only let you see a certain side of them, because you're a woman. He acknowledged me as an empathetic person and I never told anyone about the issues he had with stuff like ed and never even thought to use them to belittle him, but he eventually admitted that stuff that random guys had said made him not want to open up to me.

If it wasn't a serious relationship, then why would he open up to her and feed into her drama?
I hate to say it girl, but you're merely a pump-and-dump.
Say hi to your cats!

it makes it hard to feel respected or valued as a person when men you are seemingly close to only let you see a certain side of them, because you're a woman.

Whose fault is that though? It's bad enough society treats men like robots so don't be surprised the norm is like that.

He acknowledged me as an empathetic person and I never told anyone about the issues he had with stuff like ed and never even thought to use them to belittle him

I can barely trust people enough to keep shit private because the next I know the whole crowd knows about my business. You can talk about how you're so "empathetic" and shit like that but will it mean anything when you run off to your friends and tell them how much of a wimp he is and laugh it up with them about it? Remember actions > words.

Originally Posted by FireBird

I can barely trust people enough to keep shit private because the next I know the whole crowd knows about my business.

Speaking of people who can't keep shit private:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6n-AsrNEQSI

I learned a long time ago that communicating with a woman should be approached as if you were in a court of law. Anything you say however innocent you think it is can and will be held against you at any point that suits the woman.

Originally Posted by Kryptic

I learned a long time ago that communicating with a woman should be approached as if you were in a court of law. Anything you say however innocent you think it is can and will be held against you at any point that suits the woman.

Whatever you say can and will be used against you.

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/hw7rh84DKHA

When the relationship is new:
"Ours is an open-book relationship. We tell each other everything. You're safe opening up with me. You can be yourself at all times."

So you open up about your struggles, your deepest fears.

At the first argument:
Everything you opened up about comes back weaponized against you. Either that or: everything you said immediately turns her off, she sees you as weak, and dumps you.

That or ....
You're well versed in PUA techniques, so you never open up, hiding your private thoughts and fears at all times. In other words, the relationship is never an intimate one. You have to keep up an act indefinitely.

Originally Posted by TigPlaze

You're well versed in PUA techniques, so you never open up, hiding your private thoughts and fears at all times. In other words, the relationship is never an intimate one. You have to keep up an act indefinitely.

Yes, a man is to wear a suit of armor, never exposing a sliver of skin where her arrow may find flesh to cause a wound.... WTF??? Easier to leave the battlefield intact than to die a noble death trying to prove worthiness to a town bike...