Let me preface this with: There are two definitions for polygamy. One comes from social sciences and humanities and the other is from biology. The one from social sciences defines it as the practice of marrying multiple spouses. While in biology it means, any mating system where a female or a male mates with two or more members of the opposite sex. In the biological sense of the word, we are already polygamous. But, in the social sense, we are not there yet.
However, I'm fine with polygamy in the social sense. Here's why.
I'll be lazy a bit here and not bring specific info about what each manosphere creator thinks. But the message is generally:
- 20% of men will marry 80% women (1 man marries 4 women)
- 80% of men will have to settle for 20% (4 men marry 1 women)
- This can reduce # of single men and women
- In case, bottom 20% women still get selected by chad, or they refuse to marry bottom 80% men, there will be blood
I have a lot to say about this because all of this is wrong in my opinion.
First of all, these top 20% men already have access to all the beautiful women they want. Why would they sign a suicide contract to get the attention and care and sex from women then?
Also, if he marries 2 or 3 women, he's constrained to these 2 or 3 women. Since supposedly he's one of the best men and women are willing to share him, he obviously can get at least 9 different young women every month. So, why would he sacrifice the variety to slave his life away to 2 or 3 wives (who don't get any younger btw).
Also, these are wives he has to work and provide for. Why would he go that route when he can hook-up and not give the woman a dime in allowance?
Obviously, a top percenter man will never marry. So, no. "Chads" are not taking all the women. They are just sleeping with them and not putting a ring on it.
Second, 80% will settle for 20%?
Isn't 40% men against marriage in USA? That percentage goes as high as 80% in Denmark, 70% in Japan and Morocco. If laws stay the same, not that many men will change their mind about marriage.
Also, let's consider a woman marries 4 men. This will be difficult on her to juggle 4 relationships and keep them emotionally and sexually satisfied.
How many of them can she go out on dates with and sleep with? If we say, she has to spend at least 3 hours with her husbands and have sex at least 3 times with them a week. That's an entire day a week spent on her husbands and 12 times she's pleasing them sexually.
If she has a job, Sunday will be entirely taken up by fulfilling the emotional and sexual needs of her husbands. And so, it's highly unlikely she's keeping that many around.
If she doesn't, that's manageable but she will be reliant on them financially. If one of them slacks off and doesn't provide for her she's likely withholding sex and not caring about him or even divorcing him. (We know that finances are #1 reason women get a divorce (edit: I was wrong. It's like #8. top 10. #1 is marital infidelity.)) This is a low-key form of abuse for the men. She keeps them around just to use them and abuse them and dispose of them with she's done with them.
So, in both case (she works or not) her partners will very likely get reduced to who she can be content with and no more.
And so no. This will not create less single men. It will create more divorced men. I doubt singlehood among men will decrease much.
Lastly, about the increase of violence in polygamous societies. I must say this is fucking stupid. We are already polygamous. No hell is breaking loose. People are not burning cities down, and we don't see unprecedented levels of crimes.
We saw the sexlessness go up from 9% in 2010 to 29% in 2018. There wasn't a rebellion or a revolution of some sort. Life is as usual. And no. Incels are not violent. 7 attacks have been recorded since 2014, meaning we get a single incel attack every year. Hardly a problem.
Even in traditional societies that allow polygamy like Morocco, they don't have civil wars or violent protests or anything like that. They quiet support polygamy actually.
So now that we are done with myths. Let's talk about why I'm all for polygamy.
I think there's a small percentage of men and women who really want to share partners, and for those polygamy won't be a terrible idea.
I remember hearing an amusing story about a girl whose best friends was saddened she couldn't find a husband to have kids with and so she shared her husband with her. I thought that's nice.
On top of that social polygamy is actually better than biological polygamy. We'd definitely have less out-of-wedlock births, STDs, abortions, and fatherlessness and much more if having multiple dates required marriage.
I must warn of one thing though. If we are instituting polygamy to combat promiscuity or reduce singlehood, it ain't gonna ever work IMO.
So, that's all I have to say. What do you think of this? Did I miss something or there's something you want to expound upon. I'm interested in your opinion cuz it's a hot topic.