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    How long are they in your life for?

    I have a Facebook account with a good mix of male and female friends. A lot of these "friends" are people I went to school with and barely knew, but for some reason they're still there. Why that's important I'll get to in a minute.

    Lately I've been noticing I've been getting defriended by a lot of women. I don't say anything too crazy or political and I keep my MGTOW beliefs to myself, so I doubt I'm hurting their feeeewings. I won't even notice it until I see them commenting on a mutual friend's post and it says above their name that we have mutual friends (Something I've only noticed with people who de-friend you). So I'm wondering what the hell happened? Why does this person not want anything to do with me?

    But I suppose Facebook mirrors real life. Aside from family, relationships, and girls my friends are dating, the longest most females stay in my life is about 2 years. In college I'd associate with girls in my dorm or in my classes, but once the class was over they just disappeared and I'd never hear from them again. If I dated a girl and we split and decided to "be friends" we'd eventually just stop talking to each other, usually when one of us began seeing someone else. Among the girls who defriended me were a girl I knew from a bar in my hometown who I hadn't seen in a while because I moved, a girl who was roommates with a male friend who stopped talking to me after he moved out, and a single mother who I noticed de-friended me after I was "rude" to her single mother BFF.

    However, on FB I'm still friends with people from childhood, high school, and college who I haven't seen in years, mostly male. There's a guy I haven't talked to in over 7 years who saw I played online poker and sent me a request to play a game with him. I have another college friend who moved far away and I haven't seen him in about 5 years, but we can still talk about music. And I have a friend from high school who I haven't seen since graduation who will still comment on my posts about music or film or philosophy. Some of these people are complete strangers, but if we both find we like something similar we can get together and talk like we've known each other forever, or in the case of old friends we can talk like no time has passed.

    And this is because, contrary to popular belief, all interactions with females are conditional. If they see no use for you anymore then you're persona non grata. The bar girl I knew back home deleted me because I don't go to that bar anymore. Roommate girl deleted me because my friend doesn't live with her anymore, and since we're not really directly friends she has no purpose for me. And single mother girl deleted me because she saw I could be mean to single mothers, and it damaged her fragile ego. I also noticed that when I friend a girl on FB they start liking almost every thing I post. Then out of nowhere they just stop liking and commenting, even if it's a type of post I've made a million times before and they're always expressed interest in it.

    They live in the moment, and if you can't provide instant gratification or attention then you're of no use to them. I was a bit shocked at getting the cold shoulder from so many supposed female "friends" in the past, but honestly it's doesn't phase me. I still have male friends from kindergarten, but the female in my life right now who I've associated with the longest has probably only been 2 years at most. As for males, we can bond on common interests and hobbies. And as we all know, women almost never have hobbies besides gossiping and playing on their phones, so what can you really bond with them over? They make terrible friends, they're flaky, and they have no sense of honor. So I can safely say that if I'm not related to them, then any woman I meet will most likely not be in my life for any longer than a few years.

    Has anyone else noticed this?

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    Re: How long are they in your life for?

    In the UK I've found women are extremely fickle, one day they will be all friendly and flirting, the next they will be like they don't even know you, or ignore you all together. This happens about 90% of the time with women I talk to. The longest relationship I've had was with an unwesternized asian woman which lasted about 2 years. The rest have lasted from a few weeks to about 3 months - that's basically the cutoff point when the craziness starts and I don't really want to be around after that!

    I've never had any long term female friends either they are simply too unreliable and/or annoying to be called a true friend.

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    Re: How long are they in your life for?

    I keep it simple, no female 'friends' on my facebook. I use FB as an electronic scrapbook for
    quick reference to some music I like, tech articles, sports equipment and my other hobbies.
    Keep in touch and bounce ideas off of current friends and past acquaintances. The people I friend
    are people I actual know in real life, only have 15 or so and ad a handful a year at best.

    I did once accept a friend invite from one woman who is married to a buddy that is anti-facebook
    just to keep in touch with them, then quickly unfriended her when she deactivated her account for
    a couple weeks last year. I value both of them and realized I have no business friending
    any woman whoever being the MGTOW I am and valuing a drama free life.

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    Re: How long are they in your life for?

    FB is a metric of our / your society.
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    Re: How long are they in your life for?

    Ah Facebook, a lovely example of drama that we can delete from our lives, and do something better with our time.
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    Re: How long are they in your life for?

    Quote Originally Posted by flailer View Post
    FB is a metric of our / your society.
    --- I have little use for today's society & so called "culture."
    --- I have no use for FB
    Same here, brother. This society is rotten to the core. I stay as far away from the plantation as I can. Having no FB account was the first and easiest step towards that direction.





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    Re: How long are they in your life for?

    I no longer do the "friends" gig with women. Every time I did in the past, it backfired. How? They were only around when they needed to talk about THEIR problems. If I had a problem...they didn't have time to listen. Plus, once they got a serious boyfriend or got married...they were gone! Like a Ninja disappearing in a cloud of smoke. Never to be heard from again.

    So I finally got tired of being an emotional tampon and giving all of my time to people who were NEVER there for ME.





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    Re: How long are they in your life for?

    I was drugg into Facebook due to being a member of a Fire Department. Good way to pass info, etc. After I attended Firefighter I&II school, some of my fellow students "friended" me. All of these folks are younger than me 20s, 30, 40s. One gal, who her and her husband were very nice, just got in the middle of a range war between the females over some drama. None of the contents I would ever consider including in an "all hands" email let alone for the whole world to see.

    After three years of Facebook, this is the first time I have seen this kind of battle between anyone, and yup, it's the gals.

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    Re: How long are they in your life for?

    Quote Originally Posted by ng85 View Post
    Has anyone else noticed this?
    Just in case someone hasn't seen this: Briffault's Law

    The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place. — Robert Briffault

    I have found Briffault's Law to be unfailingly true. It's almost uncanny. In fact I've almost gotten to the point where I'd bet my life on it.

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    Re: How long are they in your life for?

    >And this is because, contrary to popular belief, all interactions with females are conditional.

    Yep, completely agree. It's amazing to me how fast a FWB shut me off as soon as she found a steady boyfriend. She immediately IM'd me about 4 years later when that relationship fell apart, as though I wouldn't notice she had frozen me out for that long. I see it too with male friends who date a girl; the girl is warm to me during that time, afterwards I don't exist. With women, it truly is opportunism taken to the extreme, utterly devoid of sincerity, goodness, actual warmth, or values you pointed out like honor. Men have morals, women have self-interested tactics that are completely dependent on circumstances. Doing the "right thing" to them simply means that which serves themselves. This shameless opportunism is extreme in carousel women 18-30.

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    Re: How long are they in your life for?

    Quote Originally Posted by TheRecipe View Post
    In the UK I've found women are extremely fickle, one day they will be all friendly and flirting, the next they will be like they don't even know you, or ignore you all together. This happens about 90% of the time with women I talk to. The longest relationship I've had was with an unwesternized asian woman which lasted about 2 years. The rest have lasted from a few weeks to about 3 months - that's basically the cutoff point when the craziness starts and I don't really want to be around after that!

    I've never had any long term female friends either they are simply too unreliable and/or annoying to be called a true friend.

    Here's a surprisingly accurate description of the modern western woman in all her glory: Parasitism - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
    Man, I've seen the hot/cold thing so many times it's not funny. A friend and I were at a bar and we were hanging out with some cute Argentinian girls we just randomly met. I recall being able to isolate one from the group to go outside to smoke and she was letting me touch her hair and was flirting with me. Then we went inside and must've done something to upset them, because suddenly they all started talking about their boyfriends and how it was wrong to hit on taken women. We ran into them again in the same bar about an hour later and they completely ignored us and looked through us like they had never met us before. Someone once referred to this as the "zero counter", where no matter what you do for a woman it could be completely forgotten on a whim (Which, as Agnotologist explained, is a part of Briffault's Law). In the relationship that lead me to the red pill my ex told me, right before we broke up, that I don't do anything for her. This was after I traveled 10 hours to visit her at her parents' place, took her out to lunch and dinner a few days in a row, and put up with her whining all weekend.


    Quote Originally Posted by jagrmeister View Post
    >And this is because, contrary to popular belief, all interactions with females are conditional.

    Yep, completely agree. It's amazing to me how fast a FWB shut me off as soon as she found a steady boyfriend. She immediately IM'd me about 4 years later when that relationship fell apart, as though I wouldn't notice she had frozen me out for that long. I see it too with male friends who date a girl; the girl is warm to me during that time, afterwards I don't exist. With women, it truly is opportunism taken to the extreme, utterly devoid of sincerity, goodness, actual warmth, or values you pointed out like honor. Men have morals, women have self-interested tactics that are completely dependent on circumstances. Doing the "right thing" to them simply means that which serves themselves. This shameless opportunism is extreme in carousel women 18-30.
    I had a similar experience with a girl. In college I lost my virginity to this girl who I fell head over heels for and we were sort of together for a while. Then out of the blue she just kind of went cold and we didn't talk as much. Not long after that I went to a party at her place and saw her holding hands with another guy. She introduced him to me like it was nothing, and then I heard people talking about that guy being her new boyfriend. I confronted her about it the next day and she called this dude her boyfriend, a term she never referred to me as. It just shocked me how chicken shit this girl could be, not having the guts to tell me it was over between us, and instead just seeing someone else and not talking to me as much. College was a huge red pill for me because it showed me how looney a woman could be when she was left to her own devices for the first time in her life. I never saw so many girls just get drunk with their "power", and at the time I had never seen so many guys get ruined by girls just being cruel. I was taught all my life that girls were sweet and innocent and boys were monsters, but when left to our own devices in a parent-free zone the roles just reversed themselves to a detrimental level.

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    Re: How long are they in your life for?

    if a person I converse with can't handle disagreement, they aren't a friend and I drop them ASAP.

    that's about 100% of all women.

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    Re: How long are they in your life for?

    Never really bothered with female friends like ever for all the common reasons but mostly I just cant stand the constant dribble that foams out of your average females mouth. Sure we all get a little boring from time to time but women take it to a fine art form. So zero female friends or acquaintances for me as I could care less what they want or want to talk about. Male friends same deal but I moved around a lot all my life so I don't even bother there either. Just deactivated my face book recently as I never use it and the fact that it's pretty lame when it comes right down to it for me personally.

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    Re: How long are they in your life for?

    Quote Originally Posted by jagrmeister View Post
    It's amazing to me how fast a FWB shut me off as soon as she found a steady boyfriend. She immediately IM'd me about 4 years later when that relationship fell apart, as though I wouldn't notice she had frozen me out for that long.
    This!!!





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    Re: How long are they in your life for?

    Women only come to you, talk to you, be nice to you and interact with you as long as they have a need for you. In the same way someone interacts with a toaster oven or a screwdriver. No such thing as friendship or deep bonds. Bleh.

    You, NG85, is the toaster oven that got tossed into the trash to be replaced with the new one. & you should be damn glad for it.

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    Re: How long are they in your life for?

    They were in my life long enough to make me realize that I didn't want them in my life anymore.


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