Thread: I took another lap around the dating site - somehow it's gotten worse

Got the itch so I figured I'd scan the hookup site I was signed up for, it is even worse than 6 months ago. Fat hogs with a superiority complex, women who look so worn out I'd guess them at 65 when they claim to be 29, every guy simping and throwing likes to pictures of hogs I wouldn't touch with anyone else's dick, and 99% of women explicitly stating in their profile they want a a guy to "take care of them" or "spoil them". This hog checked out my profile so I checked hers back and was repulsed, I backed out of her profile quickly. She messaged me, 'don't like what you see'? I said she lived too far away, and she asked why I didn't 'ask permission' to see her private pics. She sent right away "not trying to twist your arm or anything" when I didn't respond. Thin skinned egomaniacs. She then went into telling me about the last 2 guys she fucked, and she's been texting another one who may get 'lucky' and get to fuck her too.

I'm far from a conservative when it comes to social issues, but WTF? Zero class with these broads. I think my day of changing my type to ghost is coming very soon....

At one stage I was actually having some decent chats, that was well over 10 years ago. Then it seemed the demands got greater on profiles, the women got uglier, fatter, more tattoos etc

Then the New Age sexualities and relationships crept in, open relationships became more common.

Then Tinder so it became all about photos. "No photo, no chat!" was written all over their profiles, even if they weren't attractive. Send a message, no matter how well written, all you'd get back (if anything at all) was "Pic?"

I wasn't far off from Red Pill at that stage and walked away. I can only imagine how shocking it is now.

Originally Posted by Kryptic

At one stage I was actually having some decent chats, that was well over 10 years ago. Then it seemed the demands got greater on profiles, the women got uglier, fatter, more tattoos etc

Then the New Age sexualities and relationships crept in, open relationships became more common.

Then Tinder so it became all about photos. "No photo, no chat!" was written all over their profiles, even if they weren't attractive. Send a message, no matter how well written, all you'd get back (if anything at all) was "Pic?"

I wasn't far off from Red Pill at that stage and walked away. I can only imagine how shocking it is now.

It is a shitshow, just like how they are in real time. All one can do is laugh and have contempt for how far the bar has fallen.

Yikes. That's a bad result. I know that every time I revisit a dating app (once a year, maybe?), just to see what's out there, I always return disappointed. And increasingly so, over time. I don't think I've ever had as lousy results as you did, but then, you said you visited a "hookup site," and you may be in a different part of the country, so that may account for some of the difference.

Originally Posted by Eddie Haskell

Yikes. That's a bad result. I know that every time I revisit a dating app (once a year, maybe?), just to see what's out there, I always return disappointed. And increasingly so, over time. I don't think I've ever had as lousy results as you did, but then, you said you visited a "hookup site," and you may be in a different part of the country, so that may account for some of the difference.

From what I noticed they all tend to be hook up sites now. Or you get women who want to get married, as in they want marriage before you even talk on the phone let alone meet!

Originally Posted by Kryptic

Or you get women who want to get married, as in they want marriage before you even talk on the phone let alone meet!

These ones are simply the worst. 40+ something year olds with multiple children from different fathers, talkin some shit about "I want a relationship before we hop into the sheets" like tha fuck? o_O Shouldn't you have said that BEFORE birthing a couple of cooch critters? You're practically useless now, body is wrecked and you're biologically tethered to some other man. Stay in your lane lol.

You shouldn't be shocked. What you did was take a huge dump in the middle of the desert during a heatwave and now you are shocked cause there is flies and maggots on it while it smells worse than before? C'mon brother.

Originally Posted by Kryptic

From what I noticed they all tend to be hook up sites now.

Well, I think there's still a continuum. On the one hand, you've got the more or less pure hookup sites, like Tinder. Then in the middle you've got sites like Match, which can be used for either. Then you've got more "serious" dating sites like eharmony, where the percentage of people looking only for a hookup is probably low.

But I agree that the overall field has definitely slid toward the hookup culture. I remember back in the day, people used to actually have meaningful conversations on dating sites (imagine that), rather than just judge people based on their photos and a few lines of banter.

Originally Posted by alphalpha

These ones are simply the worst. 40+ something year olds with multiple children from different fathers, talkin some shit about "I want a relationship before we hop into the sheets" like tha fuck? o_O Shouldn't you have said that BEFORE birthing a couple of cooch critters? You're practically useless now, body is wrecked and you're biologically tethered to some other man. Stay in your lane lol.

You then have the opposite. The 40+ woman who has never married, doesn't have any kids but still wants both. Now marriage can be done at any age but there are just some things that can't be changed like a 40 plus year old woman getting pregnant, not impossible but not ideal either. And they want marriage and they will talk about it before you even meet and it's like "Yeah ok, but shouldn't we at least meet first?!"

Originally Posted by Eddie Haskell

Well, I think there's still a continuum. On the one hand, you've got the more or less pure hookup sites, like Tinder. Then in the middle you've got sites like Match, which can be used for either. Then you've got more "serious" dating sites like eharmony, where the percentage of people looking only for a hookup is probably low.

But I agree that the overall field has definitely slid toward the hookup culture. I remember back in the day, people used to actually have meaningful conversations on dating sites (imagine that), rather than just judge people based on their photos and a few lines of banter.

Yep. Back in the day the bar for what was considered a dubious profile was what Tinder is now. The profile with nothing filled out and just had a few pics. Now that has become the norm! Photos back then were optional and it was fun to chat a little before exchanging pics and see that she is actually attractive as well as decent to converse with.

Now it is very rushed and just about meeting ASAP, that is of course if the photos qualify.

What you are seeing online seems to be mirroring what's going on "IRL". A couple of weeks ago I started noticing the weight issue among women. Then I read the thread here on tattoos. I invented a game to entertain myself while traveling around the shitshow. How many adult women could I spot with the following characteristics: Not overweight, no visible tattoos, no piercings, no weird unnatural hair color, no cell phone viewing every 30 seconds (or worse, propped in front of their face constantly).

What I've seen so far is astounding. I didn't realize how bad it had gotten until I started purposely looking. At best maybe 1% of the women I've seen qualify. Most women are overweight/obese. Tattoos and piercings are typical. Most are looking at cell phones 2000 times a day.

It gets comical. I saw one in a National Park Service uniform. Healthy weight, appeared to be in good shape, attractive even. Wasn't looking at a phone. Does she qualify? Then she stood up. Nope, there's the huge tattoos on her legs. And then there's many I wish I could unsee. 400 lb. women with tattoos.

As was mentioned in the tattoo thread, it doesn't take going to the circus these days to see a freakshow.

Originally Posted by BeenThereDoneThat

What you are seeing online seems to be mirroring what's going on "IRL". A couple of weeks ago I started noticing the weight issue among women. Then I read the thread here on tattoos. I invented a game to entertain myself while traveling around the shitshow. How many adult women could I spot with the following characteristics: Not overweight, no visible tattoos, no piercings, no weird unnatural hair color, no cell phone viewing every 30 seconds (or worse, propped in front of their face constantly).

What I've seen so far is astounding. I didn't realize how bad it had gotten until I started purposely looking. At best maybe 1% of the women I've seen qualify. Most women are overweight/obese. Tattoos and piercings are typical. Most are looking at cell phones 2000 times a day.

It gets comical. I saw one in a National Park Service uniform. Healthy weight, appeared to be in good shape, attractive even. Wasn't looking at a phone. Does she qualify? Then she stood up. Nope, there's the huge tattoos on her legs. And then there's many I wish I could unsee. 400 lb. women with tattoos.

As was mentioned in the tattoo thread, it doesn't take going to the circus these days to see a freakshow.

Back in the 70's women showed of their bodies! The most they did was paint flowers on their faces, then punk rock came in and the freak show got started!

Soon there will be a time where animal shelters can't keep cats in stock.

Originally Posted by alphalpha

These ones are simply the worst. 40+ something year olds with multiple children from different fathers, talkin some shit about "I want a relationship before we hop into the sheets" like tha fuck? o_O Shouldn't you have said that BEFORE birthing a couple of cooch critters? You're practically useless now, body is wrecked and you're biologically tethered to some other man. Stay in your lane lol.

Exactly! Fuck this nonsense about a relationship. It's like I thought they were good at maintaining a relationship, until otherwise, they're losing it, because their pussy is totally wrecked or destroyed. WTF. Women should not have children if they cannot keep it in their skirt/pants. Nowadays, women wear the pants. Once again, WTF!

Originally Posted by mgtower

Back in the 70's women showed of their bodies! The most they did was paint flowers on their faces, then punk rock came in and the freak show got started!

I hear the '80s were the worst of its time. And even after the '90s, women are fucking every dick that meets in punk rock concerts. And they say they don't go to rock concerts after their pussy has been destroyed, and they found a "beta"??? Color me unconvinced!

Originally Posted by BeenThereDoneThat

What you are seeing online seems to be mirroring what's going on "IRL". A couple of weeks ago I started noticing the weight issue among women. Then I read the thread here on tattoos. I invented a game to entertain myself while traveling around the shitshow. How many adult women could I spot with the following characteristics: Not overweight, no visible tattoos, no piercings, no weird unnatural hair color, no cell phone viewing every 30 seconds (or worse, propped in front of their face constantly).

What I've seen so far is astounding. I didn't realize how bad it had gotten until I started purposely looking. At best maybe 1% of the women I've seen qualify. Most women are overweight/obese. Tattoos and piercings are typical. Most are looking at cell phones 2000 times a day.

It gets comical. I saw one in a National Park Service uniform. Healthy weight, appeared to be in good shape, attractive even. Wasn't looking at a phone. Does she qualify? Then she stood up. Nope, there's the huge tattoos on her legs. And then there's many I wish I could unsee. 400 lb. women with tattoos.

As was mentioned in the tattoo thread, it doesn't take going to the circus these days to see a freakshow.

There's too many women with tattoos! If a woman has tattoos, that means she has her share of bad boys, and couple diseases. That's a major red flag! I even wrote about tattoos in a tattoos threads! Women with tattoos shouldn't be trusted.

The last time I was on dating sites I was amazed at how political they were. A lot of "If you voted for Trump, don't even think of swiping right" kind of garbage. And there were some real chubsters with those tag lines...you'd think they'd want to benefit from the largest potential suitor pool possible by not excluding a major portion of the population but I guess they get enough action.

Women are best avoided if you want to achieve maximum happiness.

Originally Posted by UnKnownSurviving

I hear the '80s were the worst of its time. And even after the '90s, women are fucking every dick that meets in punk rock concerts. And they say they don't go to rock concerts after their pussy has been destroyed, and they found a "beta"??? Color me unconvinced!

I'm into 70's and 80's rock and have read a few books by the guys who played that stuff as well as interviews etc. The women were full on sluts, they would get it on with the road crew, security whoever so they could make it out the back to then get it on with the band! What a prize for the band huh?!

A lot of the women truly believed they would end up marrying one of these millionaire rock stars, of course only a miniscule proportion ever did.

One story from Van Halen's road manager was when he was walking to the back stage area hours before a concert, he was with his wife. There was a queue of roadies and other men and his wife asked what was going on. He told her not to worry about it, he knew what was happening. She pushed him to tell her so he explained that there were two women who said they would give head to all the guys if they could meet the band. And so they were doing just that!

Jumping through all the hoops for the women of online dating is insane. Those that come in sorta decent rack up a huge body count of Chads before they are ready to settle down…and at that point you don’t want them. I also think sleeping with so many dudes makes them totally incapable of having a relationship. I feel sorry for the simps who give their life to some whore that comes back down to earth and decides she wants to settle down.

Like I’ve said before — marrying a religious person (preferably young or always religious…dedicated) that’s totally outside of modern society is the best shot at finding a woman that could pass for normal in any other time period. And even that is a huge gamble because plenty of those women change in time.

When I got divorced after a few years I thought well I'll at least check it out. I was so turned off by all the woman who clearly hit the wall years ago! Demanding profiles read like a fucking prison guard wrote it wanting everything served up for them offering nothing in return but mebbe some pussy... Fuck that! And that my friends is what brought me here so it wasn’t all a waste..

At the risk of coming off as a deranged terrorist incel, I must say: There is a LOT of wisdom in this thread!

Having been on the no-pussy wagon for about three years now, I am being lured right off the freaking thing by the same thing that got me here to begin with. I mean what the fuck!

Been chatting with a chick I haven’t seen in 25 years, she’s come back to her hometown after her marriage was nuked, she fb messages me out of the blue, and we’re going out for margaritas Thursday.

Lots of red flags, lots of me wanting to ignore them, instead I take control of the conversation, another red flag lol. I pop on my POF account where, when I’m feeling down and too lazy to go to Walmart, I go to look at all of the train wrecks and dodged bullets to get a little chemical tingle in my brain.

I just had a hunch, and yep, she’s there…Perfect looking waif-fixer upper…My Lord, she probably has 50 suitors lined up for the three weeks she’s gonna b in town…

I kinda miss the thrill of seeing train wrecks in real life, she’s actually very attractive, has one grown son, and she probably thinks I’m kidding when I say I’d rather get sleep for work than come over n drink wine with her…

I challenged her rather than caving in, prolly gonna rub one out like Something About Mary before margs on Thursday just so I don’t fall victim to my raging hormones from breathing her pheromones…

She wants to ride bitch on my bike and roll me joints, every man’s slutty dream, or just me projecting?

I change all of my dating profile pics to memes when I’m not on there, and I get more hits than your typical male Glamour Shot…

This world is so f’d up…

Sorry for the ramble, not trying to kill the wisdom vibe