Thread: How open are you with your family about your lifestyle?

Originally Posted by Brock

How much information do you share with your family about your lifestyle? Are you more vague or more of an open book even if it gets others jealous?

I’m not sure I understand the question.

Do I try to hide my lifestyle? No. What’s the point? If they’re interested then they’re going to see anyway.

Do I hide my motivations?

Somewhat.

I’ll tell them openly why I don’t want a relationshit should they ask and they can take or leave my reasons.

That said, I don’t push my views onto them. If they wish to broach the subject then I’ll tell them straight what my views are but I’ll never be the one to bring the subject up.

If they should (rarely) expound on the benefits of married life I just let them. TBH I see it more that they’re trying to convince themselves rather than me and if that’s what they need I’m not going to shoot them down.

Originally Posted by RustyNuts

Women know... They know when you have spat the BP and swallowed the RP truths. They don't argue, they know you know, and they want you to shut up and not spoil more men...

Usually, you'd be right, but not this time. Most of the women in mom's family have class. Mom was even 100% honest, which is not something you normally see much of. Her sister could be a bitch at times but was uncommonly generous as well. How many guys aunts give them a new car for finishing High School? Mine did. I have no idea where they got these qualities, but they did.

Originally Posted by frog

Usually, you'd be right, but not this time. Most of the women in mom's family have class. Mom was even 100% honest, which is not something you normally see much of. Her sister could be a bitch at times but was uncommonly generous as well. How many guys aunts give them a new car for finishing High School? Mine did. I have no idea where they got these qualities, but they did.

Sorry for the misunderstanding, I meant women that would be interested in you sexually or as a "partner". Even your cousin could be judging you as a prospective mate (more likely for a friend if you were interested).

Family etc. don't look at you that way. A mother's or Aunt's social "radar" is not tuned into you like a woman that's looking to harness you onto her plantation...

I'm not bragging about it, but not hiding either.
When asked, my message was: one more episode like this [divorce] would destroy me. I'm not trying to whine - it's the simple truth.
Q: But what about prenups ?
A: No agreement would help you when the system and judge are corrupt.

And that was that.

Originally Posted by OldTyrion

I'm not bragging about it, but not hiding either.
When asked, my message was: one more episode like this [divorce] would destroy me. I'm not trying to whine - it's the simple truth.
Q: But what about prenups ?
A: No agreement would help you when the system and judge are corrupt.

And that was that,

This reads like a fish in the Ohio river that swam into some vinylchloride from a trainwreck!

Originally Posted by ResidentEvil7

I only shave and do what she wants just to shut her up, because I can't stand a bitchy, angry, woman. Unfortunately, with my dad passed, I lost my house and have to live in her coach house behind her main house, since my dad passed, I kind of have no choice, but deal with her. After I get my driver's license updated, I'm going to start applying to jobs nearby so I and my best friend can save money to invest in a house back in the neighborhood I recently left. Luckily, I'll have a head start because of the money I'm getting from inheritance and what my aunt sells my dad's house for.

Jeez dude, no wonder you have autism and anxiety if you were raised by a mother who still demands you shave every day despite being in your thirties. Sort of reminds me of Billy Bibbit from One Flew Over the Cuckoo Nest. He was a perfectly normal guy, but his overbearing mother and Nurse Ratched turned him into a stuttering mess because they treated him like a two year old.

But yeah, keep the peace until you are out on your own, and then it might be worth freezing her out for a bit. Do you have anyone sensible to talk to about your life choices? Because you moving in with your best friend and investing in real estate sounds a bit sketch.

Honestly, if I were you I'd seriously consider moving far away from your mother to where there is plentiful employment and living close to work. You are approaching the perfect time to do it: You no longer own property, you're about to get paid a big lump sum from inheritance which can help finance your move and first few months rent, and your driver's license is coming through.

Originally Posted by RustyNuts

Family etc. don't look at you that way. A mother's or Aunt's social "radar" is not tuned into you like a woman that's looking to harness you onto her plantation...

Too right you are, though I never thought of it that way.

Mom's family was different. Two of my uncles were drunken rednecks, though that was pretty normal for the 1940's and 50's. both died in wrecks, cars and roads wasn't so safe back then. My cousin's father wasn't redneck, though he did his share of drinking. Mom's older sister was a looker and married a guy who would eventually become a very successful businessman. My aunt took full advantage and lived on easy street till hubby died thirty years later. She was still rich but unable to run her own life very well. Fell in with some bad people and was dead in a few years. Anyway, my cousin, her father, my mother and my aunt, they were all special. So was my aunt's husband. The cousin and I are all that's left now.