Thread: How open are you with your family about your lifestyle?

I have seen some of you talk about the money and the free time you have now that you are no longer in a relationship.

How much information do you share with your family about your lifestyle? Are you more vague or more of an open book even if it gets others jealous?

For example, let's say you structure your schedule to where have a significant chunk of time to play video games. Would you share that information or pretend you're busy with other stuff when asked what you're doing?

It seems like everyone says they are busy all the time. Some discussions are like a competition as far as who is more busy.

My parents know I'm not married and don't bring anyone to family gatherings, so I think they're hip.

In my family no one talks about relationships outside of genetic lineage members, so it has literally never come up once.

Maybe they think I'm gay. No clue. We just don't talk about such things.

Originally Posted by DangZagnut

My parents know I'm not married and don't bring anyone to family gatherings, so I think they're hip.

In my family no one talks about relationships outside of genetic lineage members, so it has literally never come up once.

Pretty much the same with me tbh. I don't show up to family events with a girlfriend. Fortunately I have a couple of uncles in a similar boat. My grandmother on the other side of the family used to pester me about getting married and having kids but she later gave up when a couple of my cousins had kids. Other than her, nobody else really does.

I guess I'm thinking more along the lines of things like time and money. For example, because I'm not in a relationship, I get the impression my free time is not seen as important as someone else is who is in a relationship.

I'm a total open book. I live 5 mins from my parents, and see them at least once per week. The last time I took a girlfriend to their was nigh on two decades ago. I don't specifically mention MGTOW, but the way I live my life obviously screams that I'm a man going my own way in life. I'm always talking to my parents about my dream of escaping the rat race, my flirtations with wanting to live on a boat, or a motorhome, or buying myself a very small cheap house, and living off the proceeds of my artwork, or working just enough to pay the bills/food etc etc. If I've been idle and bored, I tell them I've been idle and bored, and how much I drank while idle and bored. If I've been flat out busy, I tell them that too. They know exactly how much I earn, how much I spend, what I spend my money on, and how much savings I have. I like them to know the intimate details of my life. I volunteer it all, and they take a healthy interest.

I'm not too close with my sister, so I don't really talk about my life with her too much. I can't be bothered engaging her in conversations like that, as I don't think she'd understand, and it's a waste of my energy. She's very conventional and serious about life. I'm the opposite, and think life is an absurdity that's not to be taken seriously at all.

My family has just come to accept over time the way I am. I’ve always been more of an introvert and a loner, so me not having a woman in my life isn’t earth-shattering news to them. They’re not even aware of the concept of MGTOW (as far as I know). They just know that I prefer to do my own thing. They gave up on the marriage and grandchildren talks years ago.

As for other family, aside from my grandmother and aunts, I don’t really keep in touch with anyone else. I don’t have Facebook, Instagram, or any of that bullshit.

Originally Posted by Spooky

I'm a total open book. I live 5 mins from my parents, and see them at least once per week. The last time I took a girlfriend to their was nigh on two decades ago. I don't specifically mention MGTOW, but the way I live my life obviously screams that I'm a man going my own way in life. I'm always talking to my parents about my dream of escaping the rat race, my flirtations with wanting to live on a boat, or a motorhome, or buying myself a very small cheap house, and living off the proceeds of my artwork, or working just enough to pay the bills/food etc etc. If I've been idle and bored, I tell them I've been idle and bored, and how much I drank while idle and bored. If I've been flat out busy, I tell them that too. They know exactly how much I earn, how much I spend, what I spend my money on, and how much savings I have. I like them to know the intimate details of my life. I volunteer it all, and they take a healthy interest.

Wow
You sound really close
Nothing wrong with that
If I told my mother I was idle and bored, she'd probably ask me to come over and do some yard work or something.

Originally Posted by Societysucksmyass

My family has just come to accept over time the way I am. I’ve always been more of an introvert and a loner, so me not having a woman in my life isn’t earth-shattering news to them. They’re not even aware of the concept of MGTOW (as far as I know). They just know that I prefer to do my own thing. They gave up on the marriage and grandchildren talks years ago.

As for other family, aside from my grandmother and aunts, I don’t really keep in touch with anyone else. I don’t have Facebook, Instagram, or any of that bullshit.

You almost have to have social media these days to keep up with most people. I don't do social media either, although the thought has occasionally crossed my mind.

I'm not 100% about my lifestyle with my mother and stepfather because if I tell them somethings about me they don't agree with, she will make me feel guilty and make me feel like I'm saying or doing something wrong and I should change into doing things her way. For example, if I don't shave my face every day, she bitches, but if I do, she thanks me. I am more open about my lifestyle to my best friend because he's just as MGTOW as I am and he won't judge me.

My parents know. My dad is red pilled - I found out after I started to analyze his actions, so he understands on a deeper level. We never have any conversations about it because he already knows. Nothing left to say.
My mom, well she is married to a red pilled man, so she knows what to expect from that type of man too.
She's also aware of what "modern women" are like so she understands why I don't want any. She fights a lot with my sister to try to prevent her from becoming a "modern woman" but it's too late, she's already in her early 20's. So she's aware that neither of her kids are going to have families - she isn't happy about it but she can't change it. She knows better than to argue with a red pilled man so she won't even bring up the topic with me.

As for the extended family, I never cared what those racist shits thought of me from the start. Despite their best efforts to put me down since I was born, I turned out to be very successful and I rub that shit in their face every time I meet one of them.

Originally Posted by ResidentEvil7

I'm not 100% about my lifestyle with my mother and stepfather because if I tell them somethings about me they don't agree with, she will make me feel guilty and make me feel like I'm saying or doing something wrong and I should change into doing things her way. For example, if I don't shave my face every day, she bitches, but if I do, she thanks me. I am more open about my lifestyle to my best friend because he's just as MGTOW as I am and he won't judge me.

Guilt is a powerful thing. My dad can be like that sometimes. He likes to do things his way.

That's crazy your mom is so hung up on whether you are clean shaven or not. You are a grown adult!

Originally Posted by Juggernaut

My parents know. My dad is red pilled - I found out after I started to analyze his actions, so he understands on a deeper level. We never have any conversations about it because he already knows. Nothing left to say.

I think I have a similar understanding with my dad although I do think he will sometimes be jealous that I don't deal with some of the stuff he did. Every once in a great while, he'll lament not having grandkids, but my sibling doesn't have kids so it's not all me.

Originally Posted by Juggernaut

My mom, well she is married to a red pilled man, so she knows what to expect from that type of man too.
She's also aware of what "modern women" are like so she understands why I don't want any. She fights a lot with my sister to try to prevent her from becoming a "modern woman" but it's too late, she's already in her early 20's. So she's aware that neither of her kids are going to have families - she isn't happy about it but she can't change it. She knows better than to argue with a red pilled man so she won't even bring up the topic with me.

I think my mom has a similar mentality. It was my grandmother that would bug me about settling down and all that before she finally gave up.

Originally Posted by Juggernaut

As for the extended family, I never cared what those racist shits thought of me from the start. Despite their best efforts to put me down since I was born, I turned out to be very successful and I rub that shit in their face every time I meet one of them.

That can be a difficult thing to deal with. I don't really have a problem with mine, at least not currenly, but am not all that close to them either. I pretty much just see them at family gatherings and just leave it at that. I suppose there could be more of a relationship if I were on Facebook but I haven't signed up for that or any social media site.

Open book here! ALL my family members know how much I'm worth. ALL of them know that I am an international whore monger although they don’t know how many cunts I have slain. They ALL know I drink every night.

They still can’t comprehend how I retired so early tho. They sometimes call me genius but they are NOT happy with the choices I am making/have been making with my earnings/time/lifestyle and they make it a point to let me know that from time to time. So they DO NOT believe that I’m genius! It’s like I’m more of an enigma for them.

Every time they start an argument about my life, they LOSE big time. I think they’ve given up on me now that I am 44, but still SECRETLY desire that I take the plantation route.

The parents are long dead but were they still alive I wouldn't have a problem saying anything. Personal freedom rated very high with them. Being blue pill, they wouldn't have agreed with my stance, but they wouldn't have tried to stop me either. My brother and I are not that close.

I am thick as thieves with my favorite cousin and her husband. We don't talk about it, but they've known for a long time there's not going to be a Mrs. frog in the picture.

Originally Posted by Brock

I think I have a similar understanding with my dad although I do think he will sometimes be jealous that I don't deal with some of the stuff he did. Every once in a great while, he'll lament not having grandkids, but my sibling doesn't have kids so it's not all me.

My dad secretly thinks the same thing tbh. He doesn't have to take care of us anymore but he still thinks about it.

Originally Posted by Brock

I think my mom has a similar mentality. It was my grandmother that would bug me about settling down and all that before she finally gave up.

I think how they handle it when approaching you is important. Because with too much pressure, she could force you to go non-contact with her so its better to accept your son as MGTOW than lose him.

Originally Posted by Brock

That can be a difficult thing to deal with. I don't really have a problem with mine, at least not currenly, but am not all that close to them either. I pretty much just see them at family gatherings and just leave it at that. I suppose there could be more of a relationship if I were on Facebook but I haven't signed up for that or any social media site.

I faced complete vitriol from those people. They hated us because my father married out of his own race.
I achieved much more than anyone ever expected I did it without a victimhood complex. Can't say that about most people who blame race for everything they can't have.

I don't bother trying to be open about my lifestyle nor my beliefs to anyone even my own family. They would never truly understand why I think the way I do.

Originally Posted by frog

I am thick as thieves with my favorite cousin and her husband. We don't talk about it, but they've known for a long time there's not going to be a Mrs. frog in the picture.

Women know... They know when you have spat the BP and swallowed the RP truths. They don't argue, they know you know, and they want you to shut up and not spoil more men...

Originally Posted by RustyNuts

Women know... They know when you have spat the BP and swallowed the RP truths. They don't argue, they know you know, and they want you to shut up and not spoil more men...

If someone's gonna hate you just to hate you, the least you can do is give them a reason, and MGTOW is that reason! A match made in heaven!

Originally Posted by Brock

That's crazy your mom is so hung up on whether you are clean shaven or not. You are a grown adult!

I only shave and do what she wants just to shut her up, because I can't stand a bitchy, angry, woman. Unfortunately, with my dad passed, I lost my house and have to live in her coach house behind her main house, since my dad passed, I kind of have no choice, but deal with her. After I get my driver's license updated, I'm going to start applying to jobs nearby so I and my best friend can save money to invest in a house back in the neighborhood I recently left. Luckily, I'll have a head start because of the money I'm getting from inheritance and what my aunt sells my dad's house for.

My family knows my opinions and lifestyle. Some of them understand, some don't. Doesn't matter to me; they have their lives, I have mine.

Most of my family never ask with the exception of my dads elderly and traditional / religious cousin. I have a lot of single never settled friends which probably helps a lot.