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    Her: “I’m not looking for dating just casual…”. What is she really saying?

    Had a few girls with that in their profile on Tinder, after 2 hours (finally got 3 matches).

    Tried to ask them to hang out tonight or this weekend but they gave several answers as to why they couldn’t.

    So my thoughts on that are I don’t want to meet EVER and just want to waste my time with nonsense texting.

    I’m done with Tinder and all of it.

    They’re all just looking for rich, 6 pack guys. It’s a joke.

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    I’m just going to get a dog and live alone. There’s no ‘good ones’ anymore. Either date when you’re in your early or late 20s or you’re single forever.
    Last edited by NewLifeNewMe; November 26, 2021 at 6:50 AM. Reason: Changed an AN to an OR

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    Re: Her: “I’m not looking for dating just casual…”. What is she really saying?

    You are correct. It is really hard to fully grasp that this is reality until you see it for yourself multiple times. Tinder is the worst....no one is serious there, they are just boosting their self esteem at your expense. Tinder is getting rich off your "hope" to find the one unicorn.

    Match is a better place to get them to respond more than 1x...and maybe meet...but then you will find they all have so much baggage that you want to just run away and never look back.

    The most incredible thing I have found is if you do meet on the phone or in person, you really don't have to say anything. Just start the conversation by asking them a question about themselves....they will literally keep talking about themselves non-stop for HOURS until you finally are so bored you say "look at the time, I have to get up and go to work tomorrow, we should probably call it a night". 1 out of 10 might say, "oh my, I guess I did all the talking tonight" and the rest will be completely oblivious. I have actually tested this out multiple times over multiple years in the past.

    My last test subject did a text message thing with me 5 nights in a row....after starting the conversation with a question or 2 she would go for HOURS texting about herself. I was so intrigued I finally decided to do a phone call on night 6 to see if I asked 1 question at the start if the same thing would happen. 1 question to start and then she went for 2.5 hours straight and NEVER, not 1 single time asked me a question about myself...nor anything else. It is mind blowing to see it happen for real, over and over regardless of the woman. Mind blowing.

    I finally made an excuse that I had an early doc appointment and it still took me another 20 minutes to get off the phone...she just would not quit.

    All that to say, forget all the online hook up stuff. Get an account on seeking arrangements, make a business deal for what you want (if you need interaction with a real person) and move on.

    As you stated, there are no "good ones" at any age anywhere in the CONTUS. I have read accounts of better options in Asia or muslim countries, but those are not available to the common man nor advisable in the current world situation.

    I have found the hardest part of MGTOW is the honest realization that nothing I believed about women was true and their really is no such thing as a "good woman". We have all been lied to for decades to obtain our talents and abilities to serve as a utility to women.
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    Re: Her: “I’m not looking for dating just casual…”. What is she really saying?

    Thanks for the reply
    Great advice, sorry you had to go through with that. Now I don’t have to worry about even trying Match.

    Good to know I’m not the only one going through this. I completely can relate to the phone call.

    One girl a few years ago called me, wouldn’t let me speak unless it was for validation. She even cried and yelled at me because I didn’t say the right thing to her. I ditched her.

    I’ll try seeking arrangement.

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    Re: Her: “I’m not looking for dating just casual…”. What is she really saying?

    Unless you are the top 5% of men (the proverbial Chad Thundercock), Tinder and other forms of online dating is a complete waste of time for men.

    In online dating, it has been shown that women (on average) like only the top 5% of men while men (
    on average) tend to like close to 50% of women (source: https://old.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/mbf6wg/oc_despite_being_far_more_selective_women_still/).

    For men, unless one is in the top 5%, it is a time and money wasting exercise as exemplified by this guy who posted his stats of 2 years of using Tinder in 11 different countries: (https://old.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/cujf6g/oc_2_years_of_using_tinder_in_11_different/). Out of 15,300+ swipes, he had 4 who agreed to date him - however 2 ghosted, 1 turned out to be fatter in person and the other had herpes.

    Women use on-line dating for a variety of reasons, primarily validation (to feel good about themselves) and attention (checking their social currency). Don't be the ones who feed her attention and entertain her in long conversations but she knowingly places them into the 'will never meet up' category (https://old.reddit.com/r/dataisbeaut...der_usage_23f/).

    You're done with Tinder? Congrats, join the 50% of men realise its a waste of time and uninstall the dating app within a week (https://old.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/mh9g73/oc_feeling_desperate_most_males_uninstall_dating/).

    If you want to know how the top 5% of men feel like, for the ultimate role-reversal experience, join those sites for sugar babies who are looking for a sugar daddy and put in your net worth as a few hundred million (say you're an heir to a multi-million dollar company) and target monthly allowance as something ridiculous (like $10,000-20,000/month). You'll find women (let's be honest, if they're on a sugar baby site, they're gold-diggers) will be messaging you non-stop, and you'll be on the receiving end of attention and even some racy pictures.

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    Re: Her: “I’m not looking for dating just casual…”. What is she really saying?

    Quote Originally Posted by NewLifeNewMe View Post
    Had a few girls with that in their profile on Tinder, after 2 hours (finally got 3 matches).

    Tried to ask them to hang out tonight or this weekend but they gave several answers as to why they couldn’t.

    So my thoughts on that are I don’t want to meet EVER and just want to waste my time with nonsense texting.

    I’m done with Tinder and all of it.

    They’re all just looking for rich, 6 pack guys. It’s a joke.

    Last edit.
    I’m just going to get a dog and live alone. There’s no ‘good ones’ anymore. Either date when you’re in your early or late 20s or you’re single forever.
    If you knew the tinder gender ratio, you'd see how futile it is. Dating is a waste of time anyway, but Tinder is one of the worst ways to go about it. Of the few women actually on it, a good chunk are just using it for an ego boost. Even a 2 ton Tessie will get some attention on there.

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    Re: Her: “I’m not looking for dating just casual…”. What is she really saying?

    They want diyyhuck, just not yours.

    She likes the attention from you but someone she's more into came along.

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    Re: Her: “I’m not looking for dating just casual…”. What is she really saying?

    “I’m not looking for dating just casual…”. What is she really saying?


    Translation: "I'm hitting the wall and am being pushed off the CC. I'm ready to settle down now."

    edit: typo

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    Re: Her: “I’m not looking for dating just casual…”. What is she really saying?

    "I’m not looking for dating just casual" = "I'm looking for a really rich dude to leech off of to pay all my bills and debts, and you're not him."

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    Re: Her: “I’m not looking for dating just casual…”. What is she really saying?

    Quote Originally Posted by NewLifeNewMe View Post
    Had a few girls with that in their profile on Tinder, after 2 hours (finally got 3 matches).

    Tried to ask them to hang out tonight or this weekend but they gave several answers as to why they couldn’t.

    So my thoughts on that are I don’t want to meet EVER and just want to waste my time with nonsense texting.

    I’m done with Tinder and all of it.

    They’re all just looking for rich, 6 pack guys. It’s a joke.

    Last edit.
    I’m just going to get a dog and live alone. There’s no ‘good ones’ anymore.
    Thanks for the reminder to stay away form online dating. I was thinking of getting back on match, even though it was a total waste of time the last time I was on there. It seems that my response ratio gets lower every time I sign up. It's not that I've changed but something is up with the algorithms.

    Quote Originally Posted by NewLifeNewMe View Post
    Either date when you’re in your early or late 20s or you’re single forever.
    I think you're onto something there. The dating scene is a train wreck by the time you hit your 40s (if not sooner).

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    Re: Her: “I’m not looking for dating just casual…”. What is she really saying?

    Quote Originally Posted by flying View Post
    You are correct. It is really hard to fully grasp that this is reality until you see it for yourself multiple times. Tinder is the worst....no one is serious there, they are just boosting their self esteem at your expense. Tinder is getting rich off your "hope" to find the one unicorn.
    That is the impression that I've gotten. The women are trolling for attention and the site owners have no intention of allowing you to find the unicorn as it would just take away form their revenue stream.

    Quote Originally Posted by flying View Post
    Match is a better place to get them to respond more than 1x...and maybe meet...but then you will find they all have so much baggage that you want to just run away and never look back.

    The most incredible thing I have found is if you do meet on the phone or in person, you really don't have to say anything. Just start the conversation by asking them a question about themselves....they will literally keep talking about themselves non-stop for HOURS until you finally are so bored you say "look at the time, I have to get up and go to work tomorrow, we should probably call it a night". 1 out of 10 might say, "oh my, I guess I did all the talking tonight" and the rest will be completely oblivious. I have actually tested this out multiple times over multiple years in the past.

    My last test subject did a text message thing with me 5 nights in a row....after starting the conversation with a question or 2 she would go for HOURS texting about herself. I was so intrigued I finally decided to do a phone call on night 6 to see if I asked 1 question at the start if the same thing would happen. 1 question to start and then she went for 2.5 hours straight and NEVER, not 1 single time asked me a question about myself...nor anything else. It is mind blowing to see it happen for real, over and over regardless of the woman. Mind blowing.

    I finally made an excuse that I had an early doc appointment and it still took me another 20 minutes to get off the phone...she just would not quit.
    Wow! Sounds like my new female co-worker, who loves to talk about herself. It's amazing how they lack self awareness.

    Quote Originally Posted by flying View Post
    All that to say, forget all the online hook up stuff. Get an account on seeking arrangements, make a business deal for what you want (if you need interaction with a real person) and move on.

    As you stated, there are no "good ones" at any age anywhere in the CONTUS. I have read accounts of better options in Asia or muslim countries, but those are not available to the common man nor advisable in the current world situation.

    I have found the hardest part of MGTOW is the honest realization that nothing I believed about women was true and their really is no such thing as a "good woman". We have all been lied to for decades to obtain our talents and abilities to serve as a utility to women.
    I wouldn't say there are no good ones but they are rare.

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    Re: Her: “I’m not looking for dating just casual…”. What is she really saying?

    Always ignore anything a woman writes under "I want". (apart from the obvious red flags)

    Read about plenty of women who are "not looking for anything serious" but then want man to move in with them after a couple of months.
    and the opposite...."no one night stands" but bang on the first date.
    Men are becoming MGTOW by the millions, most without ever having heard the term. They are simply doing what all living organisms finding themselves in a toxic environment do. They adapt to it or remove themselves from it. Females are not liking either the adaptations or the removal.

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    Re: Her: “I’m not looking for dating just casual…”. What is she really saying?

    Yeah that always made me start thinking too. Casual dating for a woman = Free drinks and meals, free entertainment and sex if she feels like it. That said my mind also boggles when I see women write "Looking for marriage" I mean, do they just want marriage without even caring about what comes before that? Seems awfully simple to me.

    On a related note it also reminds me of when a woman says "I'm seeing someone right now" that right now part. It's like the joke "Just remember, she isn't yours, it's just your turn!"

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    Re: Her: “I’m not looking for dating just casual…”. What is she really saying?

    Pay attention not to what she says, but to what she does.

    It's no B.S. to state that actions speak louder than words.

    If women could be trusted on their spoken word, divorce statistics would not be so shocking.

    When a woman verbally agrees to support her husband for richer or poorer, in sickness and health, she is smiling because she knows that it's all out the window during the first hardship.

    I read an article recently where a simp was hospitalized on the day of HER wedding. She went to the wedding without him! They put a picture of the grooms face on a mannequin so that she could carry on with HER special day. Puke.
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    Re: Her: “I’m not looking for dating just casual…”. What is she really saying?

    The only thing you'll find on dating apps and sites are used up hoes that have gotten their hole stuffed dozens of times, if they look even remotely decent.

    All the women with even remotely decent values are your grandma's age at this point.

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    Re: Her: “I’m not looking for dating just casual…”. What is she really saying?

    Quote Originally Posted by JustWannaRetireFk View Post
    The only thing you'll find on dating apps and sites are used up hoes that have gotten their hole stuffed dozens of times, if they look even remotely decent.

    All the women with even remotely decent values are your grandma's age at this point.
    I'm into the grannies

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    Re: Her: “I’m not looking for dating just casual…”. What is she really saying?

    Don't forget they now have something else to lie about in addition to how many partners, STDs and B control is whether or not they got the clot shot....which according to many reports can be passed along just like an STD.

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    Re: Her: “I’m not looking for dating just casual…”. What is she really saying?

    "I'm looking to sleep with as many men as possible and then ditch them all for the richest one."


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