CARLY'S STORY When I was about 15, I was beaten up by a younger girl and feared going back to school because of bullying. Soon afterwards I met a 20-year-old who was in a gang. He had money, a car, and said he was going to protect me, that no one was going to touch me and that if I needed anything he would give it to me. Instead of going to school, I began to just sit at his house with his friends smoking weed, becoming exposed to gang violence and becoming sexually active.
"My body and mind were breaking down. From the innocence that I had, my life was self-destructing day by day. He became so controlling; he had control of where I went, who I spoke to. Whatever he said, I did. He started hitting me, but when he did he would say sorry and bought me things to make it up to me. Two years later I was getting punched so hard that one time I was knocked out.
"At 17 I fell pregnant and at this point I realised that I was scared, that I didn't want to be with him and I didn't want to raise a baby with him. I woke up to who was in my life. The midwife asked me who the father was and when I told them they knew who he was because he was under the Mental Health Act with bipolar. The social services came in and that's how I got out.
"[A girl hoping to exit gang-association] will need a mentor because she needs to speak to somebody, to build up a relationship with someone she trusts. Young people are immature souls. If they have been broken in any way, they have to be fixed back.
"Housing was crucial because if I never got out of that area, even if I didn't see him, I would have seen his friends and the friends think they've got control over you. It can be a very, very dangerous situation when you're trying to get that person out of your life, but I got my escape."