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    Re: Ever think about packing up and starting over somewhere else?

    Quote Originally Posted by JustWannaRetireFk View Post
    From my view, if you own a house, you can sell it - invest that money and pretty much retire never having to work full-time again if not sticking to part-time work occasionally as needed.
    I wish I had a house worth that much lol. My thinking is that it would be a safety net if it is paid off. Not having that expense would mean I could possibly get by on part-time work. Rent is high, at least in the area that I live in.

    Quote Originally Posted by JustWannaRetireFk View Post
    Move INTO a city? No-no, move away from a city, far away from political correctness and mass retardation... Not necessary to commute to work, I've spent years job hopping to my remote work now and before that was jobs that were closer and closer to home - selling your house though, well when your job involves your money working to make more money a commute becomes a non-factor, or just get some part-time local work for extra sha-bang if you want.
    Part of me wants to live in a city because I've never experienced it before but you're probably right as times have changed in recent years. The ideal situation would be a remote gig.

    Quote Originally Posted by JustWannaRetireFk View Post
    Neither me or my family has owned a house, from my POV with sufficient income you can just rent at any location you so choose, don't like it? Move somewhere else, once you find somewhere nice and have a nice chunk of cash saved up you can consider buying a permanent property if it's a big need.
    That is definitely the way to go if one is not sure they want to own. Sometimes I think I bought a house at too young of an age. I like it but think I left a lot of money on the table by being stuck in a market without many jobs in my field, and there are the commuting expenses as well.

    Quote Originally Posted by JustWannaRetireFk View Post
    Only thing I'd need a is a goddamn garage to do basic maintenance on bikes, rest of the building can be made out of cardboard for all I care.
    It is nice to have a garage for those reasons and more!

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    Re: Ever think about packing up and starting over somewhere else?

    I think about it all the time. What i'm most tired of is the drudgery of work. I'm so tired of working and i'm only 35. The thought of working another 20 yrs fills me with dread unimaginable.

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    Re: Ever think about packing up and starting over somewhere else?

    Quote Originally Posted by Hedon View Post
    I think about it all the time. What i'm most tired of is the drudgery of work. I'm so tired of working and i'm only 35. The thought of working another 20 yrs fills me with dread unimaginable.
    When I get like this, I ask, what would my 90 year old self say to my (now) self?

    The answer is, if it's shit and you don't like it, change it. Of course there may be times where you can't just change quickly. But don't let years go by thinking the same.

    I kept this attitude and have found work I enjoy. Yes, it's still work and most work SUCKS.. but that's life!

    If shit gets really bad I could quit and go walking around the world. I reckon after not very long I'd be happy to return to the comfort of my work
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    Re: Ever think about packing up and starting over somewhere else?

    Quote Originally Posted by Hedon View Post
    I think about it all the time. What i'm most tired of is the drudgery of work. I'm so tired of working and i'm only 35. The thought of working another 20 yrs fills me with dread unimaginable.
    I have a slightly different take. I don't particularly love my job either, but I'm good at it and they largely leave me alone. I'm decently compensated and it allows me the time and money to pursue the things I do like. I use the stoic technique of memento mori to visualize my life. Basically, I have a grid where with rows and columns. Each row is one full year, each cell from the intersection of the columns is one week, so each row has 52 cells. A filled row shows a completed year of my life. I have an X marked on the chart in the future for my expected retirement. It really doesn't look that far away. What's more depressing is the fact that it seems like I'm filling in the chart so often. Each week just seems to fly by. The ancient stoics used such tools as reminders that time is precious and as motivators to to do the things they needed to do. But, it also serves as a great visualization of the totality of our lives. Basically, it looks like this: https://stoicreflections.com/product...r-poster-print

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    Re: Ever think about packing up and starting over somewhere else?

    Quote Originally Posted by frog View Post
    Years ago I could of got a promotion, but it would of required moving. In the end, I passed. My house was near paid off, and the parents were getting old. They didn't need me much, but I was all they had. My old man could be a dick, but as long as you didn't have to live with him it was OK. It turned out to be the right call, I eventually got promoted without moving.

    If the parents had been losers, I would of for sure considered leaving. But I didn't have to.
    There's always two sides (at least) to things.

    Hanging around was the right decision for you. Getting the fek outta dodge was the right decision for me.

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    Re: Ever think about packing up and starting over somewhere else?

    Quote Originally Posted by Jackoff View Post
    There's always two sides (at least) to things.

    Hanging around was the right decision for you. Getting the fek outta dodge was the right decision for me.
    Though I didn't have to move, I was uprooted at age 35 when wood products tanked. New career, starting at the bottom of the ladder. Worked my ass off to survive, while being ten years behind everyone my age. All the while, the 25 year old's were crying "I'm too old for this shit."

    It sucked for a long time, but was the right call. Though I might of survived in wood products, the odds weren't good. Half the mills went down, never to reopen.
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    Re: Ever think about packing up and starting over somewhere else?

    Quote Originally Posted by Toolband89 View Post
    I have a slightly different take. I don't particularly love my job either, but I'm good at it and they largely leave me alone. I'm decently compensated and it allows me the time and money to pursue the things I do like. I use the stoic technique of memento mori to visualize my life. Basically, I have a grid where with rows and columns. Each row is one full year, each cell from the intersection of the columns is one week, so each row has 52 cells. A filled row shows a completed year of my life. I have an X marked on the chart in the future for my expected retirement. It really doesn't look that far away. What's more depressing is the fact that it seems like I'm filling in the chart so often. Each week just seems to fly by. The ancient stoics used such tools as reminders that time is precious and as motivators to to do the things they needed to do. But, it also serves as a great visualization of the totality of our lives. Basically, it looks like this: https://stoicreflections.com/product...r-poster-print
    Oh man, that's the most depressing thing I've read all week.
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    Re: Ever think about packing up and starting over somewhere else?

    I've put some more thought into this and have thought that it doesn't really matter where I live, for the most part. I can do most of my hobbies and pursue interests from anywhere. I made a list of cities that I'd be willing to move to. Each city has its own pros and cons, so one doesn't really stand out above the other. It makes me question whether I really want to move to a city. No matter where I live, I'd be working full time time and spending most of my hours grinding anyway. Weeknights would be pretty much the same as well. I haven't abandoned the thought of moving elsewhere but have questioned whether the grass really is greener on the other side.

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    Re: Ever think about packing up and starting over somewhere else?

    Quote Originally Posted by Brock View Post
    I've put some more thought into this and have thought that it doesn't really matter where I live, for the most part. I can do most of my hobbies and pursue interests from anywhere. I made a list of cities that I'd be willing to move to. Each city has its own pros and cons, so one doesn't really stand out above the other. It makes me question whether I really want to move to a city. No matter where I live, I'd be working full time time and spending most of my hours grinding anyway. Weeknights would be pretty much the same as well. I haven't abandoned the thought of moving elsewhere but have questioned whether the grass really is greener on the other side.
    If you had a job offer in the city, that would be different. But to move and start over cold, that sounds both hard and risky. I wouldn't rule it out, but it kind of makes a long shot out of it.

    Weeknights wouldn't be any different for me either. In fact, I'd probably pass on a lot of weekend stuff as well.
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    Re: Ever think about packing up and starting over somewhere else?

    Quote Originally Posted by Hedon View Post
    I think about it all the time. What i'm most tired of is the drudgery of work. I'm so tired of working and i'm only 35. The thought of working another 20 yrs fills me with dread unimaginable.
    Your 30’s can be a rough time alright.

    For many of us our minds start to wander and think about what could have been “if only…”, and wonder if it’s too late to change tack.

    Only you can decide if you should, but my advice is that these feelings will pass. Keeping your financial future secure as far as possible should be highest on your agenda. The rest will come.

    I say this because I fucked that side of it up. Everyone seemed to be having a better life than me and foolishly I let it get to me. What I forgot (or didn’t realise) was that people lie their asses off and are only too happy to tell you what you’re missing out on while their own lives could do with a bit of introspection.

    It seems to me that most people are full of shit. Their lives are shit and it pains them to see a focused person. They have to pull you down.

    Ignore them. Set your own goals and fek the begrudgers.

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    Re: Ever think about packing up and starting over somewhere else?

    Quote Originally Posted by Hedon View Post
    I think about it all the time. What i'm most tired of is the drudgery of work. I'm so tired of working and i'm only 35. The thought of working another 20 yrs fills me with dread unimaginable.
    You might be better off than you think. The last ten years seemed to pass quicker than ten years would of when I was younger. I guess it depends on your job, maybe I had it better by then. Was still sick of it though, you'd a never saw me wondering if I should of stayed longer.
    Being a broken down geezer is far more fun than being a middle aged wage slave. Hang on, your times coming.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Brock View Post
    I've put some more thought into this and have thought that it doesn't really matter where I live, for the most part. I can do most of my hobbies and pursue interests from anywhere. I made a list of cities that I'd be willing to move to. Each city has its own pros and cons, so one doesn't really stand out above the other. It makes me question whether I really want to move to a city. No matter where I live, I'd be working full time time and spending most of my hours grinding anyway. Weeknights would be pretty much the same as well. I haven't abandoned the thought of moving elsewhere but have questioned whether the grass really is greener on the other side.
    It looks like a good place to be. You could move, but don't have to. Maybe the job situation or other things in the environment change, making another place obviously preferable. But believing a move in itself will have enormous psychological benefit can be a trap. Here's what the AA people have to say:

    "On the other hand, constant travel can be an escape mechanism. Alcoholics Anonymous speaks of "Pulling a Geographic"... the deluded belief that you can solve entrenched life problems by simply moving to a different location. A
    review of American Nomads (the book referenced above) calls it "a meditation on the urge to be elsewhere." This makes the nomadic life sound like the antithesis of Buddhism, which would teach us to attend to the Truth right in front of us, rather than cultivate fantasies of greener grass."



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    Re: Ever think about packing up and starting over somewhere else?

    Quote Originally Posted by frog View Post
    If you had a job offer in the city, that would be different. But to move and start over cold, that sounds both hard and risky. I wouldn't rule it out, but it kind of makes a long shot out of it.

    Weeknights wouldn't be any different for me either. In fact, I'd probably pass on a lot of weekend stuff as well.
    I would definitely make sure that I had a job offer before moving. No way would I consider it otherwise.

    And yes I know what you mean about weekend stuff. Sometimes, after a hectic week, I don't want to get out much on the weekend. Maybe I could find a job to where I'm not drained by the end of the week. Then again, most office jobs are draining for an introvert like myself.

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    Re: Ever think about packing up and starting over somewhere else?

    Quote Originally Posted by BeenThereDoneThat View Post
    It looks like a good place to be. You could move, but don't have to. Maybe the job situation or other things in the environment change, making another place obviously preferable. But believing a move in itself will have enormous psychological benefit can be a trap. Here's what the AA people have to say:

    "On the other hand, constant travel can be an escape mechanism. Alcoholics Anonymous speaks of "Pulling a Geographic"... the deluded belief that you can solve entrenched life problems by simply moving to a different location. A
    review of American Nomads (the book referenced above) calls it "a meditation on the urge to be elsewhere." This makes the nomadic life sound like the antithesis of Buddhism, which would teach us to attend to the Truth right in front of us, rather than cultivate fantasies of greener grass."
    Interesting. It may just be a temporary "benefit". It's kinda like when they say that people are happy when they win the lotto but their happiness later goes back to where it was.

    I am going through all of these different cities and doing research. but perhaps I'd just be happier in a small town/rural area. Of course most of the jobs in my field are in cities. There is remote but remote jobs are more difficult to find. I will say that I wouldn't mind living someplace warmer. Winters just seem to drag on where I am at.

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    Quote Originally Posted by happybachelor View Post
    Oh man, that's the most depressing thing I've read all week.
    Depressing in what sense? Is the thought of mortality depressing? I guess I've studied too much stoicism. Death is meant to be a motivator, not a point of sadness. It's a hard fact that our lives are finite. Coming to terms with that, even visualizing it in the form of a pseudo-calendar, or a token (there are coins produced to also serve as reminders) are meant to motivate you to do the things you have to do in life because when it's over, that's it. Some people are even using apps that serve up daily, weekly, monthly, etc reminders of your eventual death. I wouldn't use it, but some people like that little kick in the ass when their phone chirps with a note saying- "Hey you! You're going to die someday. Better get moving"

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    Quote Originally Posted by frog View Post
    You might be better off than you think. The last ten years seemed to pass quicker than ten years would of when I was younger. I guess it depends on your job, maybe I had it better by then. Was still sick of it though, you'd a never saw me wondering if I should of stayed longer.
    Being a broken down geezer is far more fun than being a middle aged wage slave. Hang on, your times coming.
    Thanks, frog. You too, Jackoff.


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