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    Don't be a dumb-ass with compliments toward women

    Here's a truth I've learned. You're better off never complimenting a woman. If for some reason you absolutely must do so, it's better that the compliment be about something other than her looks. Maybe she's a good singer or songwriter or something.

    I've hired a woman online to help me with my French. There's a web site where you can find a foreign language teacher who helps you via Skype or some other video conferencing program. This woman is very good and has helped me a lot. Plus, I feel completely comfortable talking with her. So it's totally win/win. She makes some money, and my French gets a lot better.

    At one point it came up in the conversation that some goobers had said some hit-on kind of crap to her. She said almost all her students are great and never do any goober "Hey, baby" crap with her. Out of something like 60 students, only 2 did lamer/goober talk with her like, "Oh, you're looking so hot today." I've long advised men not to do pathetic hit-on kind of compliments like that. Why the fuck do feminists hate my guts so much? I thought they agreed with me on gooberliments.

    Anyway, I've got a good business relationship with this woman. Her French lessons are worth every penny. I've improved to the point where talking in French is a lot more like talking in English in that I can usually say anything I need to say, and I'm understanding others a lot better now.

    When she let me know she had to drop a couple students for gooberlimenting her, I felt like rolling my eyes. If I had known those dudes, I could have advised them that it's just never worth it to do that. You won't get any long lectures from me about "objectification." To my mind, being attracted to a pretty woman is nothing to be ashamed of. It's normal. But to use an online language-lesson service to try to get a date with some woman in another country is ULTRA LAME! I can't think of a dumber thing to do.

    When you're MGTOW, you're free of all the boneheaded fantasies of your French teacher falling in love with you and running off with you. I'm learning more from this woman without those dumb fantasies. She actually is quite pretty, but I didn't hire her for that. I needed someone who could help me to improve my French. There will be no compliments from me like, "You're looking good, baby." I cringe just writing that. If there is any kind of compliment, it will be something like, "You've helped me to improve my French a lot."

    When in doubt, DON'T compliment a woman, especially if it's about her looks. I would be willing to bet that the goobers who hit on her may not even have been bad dudes. They may have just been clueless. They could have really benefitted from my advice if they had known me.

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    Re: Don't be a dumb-ass with compliments toward women

    Quote Originally Posted by TigPlaze View Post
    Here's a truth I've learned. You're better off never complimenting a woman. If for some reason you absolutely must do so, it's better that the compliment be about something other than her looks. Maybe she's a good singer or songwriter or something.

    I've hired a woman online to help me with my French. There's a web site where you can find a foreign language teacher who helps you via Skype or some other video conferencing program. This woman is very good and has helped me a lot. Plus, I feel completely comfortable talking with her. So it's totally win/win. She makes some money, and my French gets a lot better.

    At one point it came up in the conversation that some goobers had said some hit-on kind of crap to her. She said almost all her students are great and never do any goober "Hey, baby" crap with her. Out of something like 60 students, only 2 did lamer/goober talk with her like, "Oh, you're looking so hot today." I've long advised men not to do pathetic hit-on kind of compliments like that. Why the fuck do feminists hate my guts so much? I thought they agreed with me on gooberliments.

    Anyway, I've got a good business relationship with this woman. Her French lessons are worth every penny. I've improved to the point where talking in French is a lot more like talking in English in that I can usually say anything I need to say, and I'm understanding others a lot better now.

    When she let me know she had to drop a couple students for gooberlimenting her, I felt like rolling my eyes. If I had known those dudes, I could have advised them that it's just never worth it to do that. You won't get any long lectures from me about "objectification." To my mind, being attracted to a pretty woman is nothing to be ashamed of. It's normal. But to use an online language-lesson service to try to get a date with some woman in another country is ULTRA LAME! I can't think of a dumber thing to do.

    When you're MGTOW, you're free of all the boneheaded fantasies of your French teacher falling in love with you and running off with you. I'm learning more from this woman without those dumb fantasies. She actually is quite pretty, but I didn't hire her for that. I needed someone who could help me to improve my French. There will be no compliments from me like, "You're looking good, baby." I cringe just writing that. If there is any kind of compliment, it will be something like, "You've helped me to improve my French a lot."

    When in doubt, DON'T compliment a woman, especially if it's about her looks. I would be willing to bet that the goobers who hit on her may not even have been bad dudes. They may have just been clueless. They could have really benefitted from my advice if they had known me.
    Sincerely saying "have a great day" after interacting with women, or most anybody, has a much better effect than complementing them on their superficial looks.

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    Re: Don't be a dumb-ass with compliments toward women

    She was there to teach French, not to cavort with guys. These fellas were wrong to step outside their roles as students with her. She can't afford to allow disruption in her business.

    Not to defend these two guys, TigPlaze, but she seemed to step outside the role of teacher herself that she brings up with you the fact of other students hitting on her. Shouldn't she keep that stuff to herself? Makes you wonder if in her openness with you, she is similarly open with other students, added to what I assume is a requirement to be randomly conversational in a one-on-one language instruction, making for an unintentional formula for boundary-crossing, that this flirting is not surprising, even if improper.

    All done in French, I'm guessing.
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    Re: Don't be a dumb-ass with compliments toward women

    Quote Originally Posted by Unboxxed View Post
    She was there to teach French, not to cavort with guys. These fellas were wrong to step outside their roles as students with her. She can't afford to allow disruption in her business.

    Not to defend these two guys, TigPlaze, but she seemed to step outside the role of teacher herself that she brings up with you the fact of other students hitting on her. Shouldn't she keep that stuff to herself? Makes you wonder if in her openness with you, she is similarly open with other students, added to what I assume is a requirement to be randomly conversational in a one-on-one language instruction, making for an unintentional formula for boundary-crossing, that this flirting is not surprising, even if improper.

    All done in French, I'm guessing.
    I hadn't thought of that. I'm trying to remember how the conversation came up. I think it may have started with our conversation about spam and getting stupid and inappropriate phone calls and emails and it kind of morphed into that. I do suspect that the idiots who tried to "hey, baby" her are probably not evil, but are just unwise stupid punks who haven't learned much yet.

    She's a very likeable person, and I quickly felt at ease to talk about most things with her. Maybe they mistook that as a green light to get all fresh with her. It's hard to say. Even with her being easy to talk to, I've never taken that to mean I should go all sleazy and unprofessional on her. She also said that it's only a very few who have done that. That blows out of the water the feminist claim that almost all men are sleazy like that.

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    Re: Don't be a dumb-ass with compliments toward women

    I have a zero compliments policy. The last women I talked to complimented me about 3-4 times in the space of a few minutes. But the simp complimenting women all day gets nothing. I don't care, my zero compliments policy always stands and this girl was wearing a revealing top too.
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    Re: Don't be a dumb-ass with compliments toward women

    Compliment your mother, daughter, sister, and your wife...if you're one of the few guys that actually has a decent wife. To hell with the rest of them.

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    Re: Don't be a dumb-ass with compliments toward women

    I've gotten a considerable amount of mileage out of talking to women like they're five years old. A normal, healthy man will want to smack you if you talk to him that way. But a lot of women roll with being talked down to. It does a lot to reinforce the idea that women are mentally children, but with grown-up bodies.

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    I partially agree with you, OP. However sometimes I do make some sort of compliment in order to signal uncertainty towards women regarding sexual interaction. Staying completely stoic towards them could be a risk of drawing the wrong kind of attention from them. IMO signalling a certain level of uncertainty is an excellent thot repellent. It's part of my staying invisible in plain sight strategy. I don't want women to see me and especially: my wallet. I gladly leave women to be Chad and Tyrone's problem.

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    Re: Don't be a dumb-ass with compliments toward women

    Quote Originally Posted by TigPlaze View Post
    When in doubt, DON'T compliment a woman, especially if it's about her looks.
    Never compliment a woman. No compliments, no validation, no attention.

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    Re: Don't be a dumb-ass with compliments toward women

    No compliments. In the workplace, always be professional. If you must talk, keep it very superficial- "how was your weekend?," "have a good one," etc. Nothing more.

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    I just can't see myself doing this anymore and I have felt that way for quite a few years now. I don't think I would truly believe any compliment I gave and I think I would cringe and feel cheesy. I also think that would come through in my delivery and the woman would think I was just messing with her.

    I always felt like men were beggars when it came to women, always just hoping for whatever she decided to give, a smile, a kiss, more. I was never really part of that even when somewhat blue pilled let alone now.

    And in terms of the workplace they are as good as non entities to me let alone anything I see as attractive.

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    I will compliment a woman in person. How else do you get her to take her clothes off? Butter her up. Especially if she's not used to hearing it (online dating sites don't count).

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    Quote Originally Posted by BedroomBully View Post
    I will compliment a woman in person. How else do you get her to take her clothes off? Butter her up. Especially if she's not used to hearing it (online dating sites don't count).
    Many of us have reached the point of not pursuing relationships with women, sexual or otherwise. I don't hate women, and I certainly had my fun with them. It's just the drama and their BS isn't worth the effort. Sex simply isn't worth it to me. I don't have the time or patience to "butter" them up. I'd rather just do the things in life that make me happy. Sex feels decent in the moment but is a zero net gain to my life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Toolband89 View Post
    Many of us have reached the point of not pursuing relationships with women, sexual or otherwise. I don't hate women, and I certainly had my fun with them. It's just the drama and their BS isn't worth the effort. Sex simply isn't worth it to me. I don't have the time or patience to "butter" them up. I'd rather just do the things in life that make me happy. Sex feels decent in the moment but is a zero net gain to my life.
    I like going on dates and hooking up but don't want a relationship right now. It works out for everyone. I actually enjoy going out and having a good time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BedroomBully View Post
    I like going on dates and hooking up but don't want a relationship right now. It works out for everyone. I actually enjoy going out and having a good time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Neo View Post
    The things that used to feed me when I was younger, are the things that starve me when I'm older....
    What's wrong with having fun? I'm getting what I want out of it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BedroomBully View Post
    I like going on dates and hooking up but don't want a relationship right now. It works out for everyone. I actually enjoy going out and having a good time.
    If that's what works for you, cool. Like I said though, that isn't for all of us. It's literally torture to me to go to bars/clubs and hit on women. Or to hit on women in general. Having to pretend that I care about what they say or do just to eventually have sex is an dull exercise to me. It's just not something I want to spend time on, especially in my 30s. In my early 20s, it was ok for a few years. Using dating apps is another form of self torture to me. I couldn't care less about rejection, it's just the mindless numbers game that makes me want to do...almost anything else. It's all time I could be devoting to being outdoors, playing music, spending time with my dog and my friends, etc. Frankly, nothing a woman could provide me is worth that much time, effort or money to me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Toolband89 View Post
    If that's what works for you, cool. Like I said though, that isn't for all of us. It's literally torture to me to go to bars/clubs and hit on women. Or to hit on women in general. Having to pretend that I care about what they say or do just to eventually have sex is an dull exercise to me. It's just not something I want to spend time on, especially in my 30s. In my early 20s, it was ok for a few years. Using dating apps is another form of self torture to me. I couldn't care less about rejection, it's just the mindless numbers game that makes me want to do...almost anything else. It's all time I could be devoting to being outdoors, playing music, spending time with my dog and my friends, etc.
    I should have gave more info. I don't use online dating (dabble from time to time but its the same idiots every time, every site). The women I go on dates with are all women I've slept with before. More like a fwb netflix and chill to catch up every now and then. It's the typical "kid free weekend" and I will see her on the Friday night and she will be out with whoever the next night. I'm 40 so these are not 22 year old blonde goddesses. They've been around the block a few times and the body shows it. I'm not good enough to date them, but my body is good enough for bed.

    I also play music, and one of the women plays as well. So we jam at her place and hook up. Fun time. Smoke some bowls and order in some food. Not bad deal.

    Tinder hookups feel like prostitution, and I feel like I was the one used. Not good for mental health. Always feel like some guy is gonna pop out from a room at any moment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BedroomBully View Post
    I should have gave more info. I don't use online dating (dabble from time to time but its the same idiots every time, every site). The women I go on dates with are all women I've slept with before. More like a fwb netflix and chill to catch up every now and then. It's the typical "kid free weekend" and I will see her on the Friday night and she will be out with whoever the next night. I'm 40 so these are not 22 year old blonde goddesses. They've been around the block a few times and the body shows it. I'm not good enough to date them, but my body is good enough for bed.

    I also play music, and one of the women plays as well. So we jam at her place and hook up. Fun time. Smoke some bowls and order in some food. Not bad deal.

    Tinder hookups feel like prostitution, and I feel like I was the one used. Not good for mental health. Always feel like some guy is gonna pop out from a room at any moment.
    Yeah, that's a bit different. You're not really engaging in the slog of trying to woo a chick into bed. That's a major time sink, and not worth the chase. Even in your situation though, I'd still be leery of women. Could claim rape/assault at any time, get knocked up (even if they don't think they can or are honestly taking bc). They could also be hooking up with other dudes, could pass on an STD. Technically you could to for that matter, but still...best to be careful.

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    Re: Don't be a dumb-ass with compliments toward women

    Quote Originally Posted by BedroomBully View Post
    What's wrong with having fun? I'm getting what I want out of it.
    Absolutely nothing wrong with it. Whatever works for the individual. What I said is simply what I discovered as I got older. The irony is, now that I walked away, women spend time trying to convince me otherwise.
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