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    The Divorce Trap by Bill Sardi

    "If you are the primary wage earner in the middle of a divorce, you are likely the victim of a hidden trap that you may never become aware of even when the divorce is finally over.
    Having a divorce devour the past 3.5 years of my life and run up hundreds of thousands of dollars of legal bills before it would be finalized in the family court, and having to hire a succession of six different attorneys before I found some sort of legal relief, I learned a few things.
    The hidden “quid pro quo” (something that is given or taken in return for something else) in divorce is that the attorney who represents the party that earns the money in the family will be covertly doing things to transfer funds to the non-income earning party so they can pay their attorney. Essentially, your attorney is working for the other side.
    This hidden agreement in divorce proceedings changes sides depending upon which party an attorney represents. And if a divorce attorney doesn’t play along and gets ten clients in a row who aren’t the primary wage earner, he/she may have no way to get paid other than hoping they can file for a lien on community property, if it exists.
    After interviewing a number of men (who are usually the primary wage earner in divorce), I discovered this tacit agreement between divorce attorneys can result in attorneys agreeing to allow one party to even commit crimes with impunity, such as moving assets in the middle of a divorce, running up credit-card bills, which is forbidden in family court, even committing grand theft, credit card and banking fraud . . . "
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    This phenomenon is discussed by Raoul Felder, the famous divorce lawyer, who admitted in his book on negotiation that he and the other divorce attorney discussed having the husband pay the legal fees for the wife who filed for divorce . . . a usual practice for a "Frivorce".

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    Re: The Divorce Trap by Bill Sardi

    There is a book and a video (must buy not free) called "Divorce Incorporated", or "Divorce Corp", which details the self dealing and money siphon that is the divorce industry (including the courts). The government has a vested interest in making it cost as much as possible to the higher wage earner as they rake in a percentage of what ever flows though the system. It is all as corrupt as hell.

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    Re: The Divorce Trap by Bill Sardi

    It's standard in a divorce (or any suit before the court) to ask for the other side to pay your legal fees.

    With that in mind, why would it be unusual, or nefarious for Mr. Felder to discuss having the other party pay his client's fees?

    Discussion of one party paying all the fees doesn't mean it's going to happen. My ex-wife's lawyer asked me to pay her legal fees. I told him to pound sand.

    Of course, at the time, I had the advantage of poverty.
    Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity. --Seneca

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    Re: The Divorce Trap by Bill Sardi

    The reason Felder discusses it in his book is that NY was a fault state and the wife lost the divorce action, so she got nothing and so she refused to pay her divorce lawyer. Once the wife discovered that her lawyer wanted to be paid by her husband, she suspected her husband and Felder of bribing her lawyer to throw the case. Felder wasn't happy he was accused of "fixing" the divorce case for the rich developer husband in the NY newspapers . . .

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