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    How do deal with loneliness?

    How did you guys deal with loneliness? Not often, but I get pangs of loneliness. I know, the standard answer is hobbies, career, etc. We aren't supposed to show weakness. We don't need women. I know. And a woman won't help so I'm not going there.

    I just don't. Its not just mgtow. Loneliness is epidemic in America these days. Maybe I need a pet. Idk. What do you guys think.

    No disrespect , thank you for having this here, but I liked the other website. I thought I had friends. The phone calls, zoom meeting, email chains.

    I mean I've been a loner, introvert my whole life. But as I get older...

    Anyway, I ain't a mangina and I'm not going back to the plantation but I feel low sometimes.

    Its not sex. Its love, someone who care if I live or die. Someone who calls me for once instead of me always having to call them.


    Enough of my whining. Am I they only one?
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    Re: How do deal with loneliness?

    Quote Originally Posted by Jan View Post
    How did you guys deal with loneliness? Not often, but I get pangs of loneliness. I know, the standard answer is hobbies, career, etc. We aren't supposed to show weakness. We don't need women. I know. And a woman won't help so I'm not going there.

    I just don't. Its not just mgtow. Loneliness is epidemic in America these days. Maybe I need a pet. Idk. What do you guys think.

    No disrespect , thank you for having this here, but I liked the other website. I thought I had friends. The phone calls, zoom meeting, email chains.

    I mean I've been a loner, introvert my whole life. But as I get older...

    Anyway, I ain't a mangina and I'm not going back to the plantation but I feel low sometimes.

    Its not sex. Its love, someone who care if I live or die. Someone who calls me for once instead of me always having to call them.


    Enough of my whining. Am I they only one?
    I just look at it this way, I came into this world by myself, and I'm gonna leave by myself, live for the experience of life and cherish it. Contentment and gratitude for life keeps loneliness at bay, faith carries me through whatever I cannot bear.
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    Re: How do deal with loneliness?

    Queue Robin Williams quote...

    You can be alone when you are with someone.
    Its just that married men are so miserable that it covers loneliness, like having an ich can be covered by burning your skin raw...

    Meaning, purpose...

    That is the main issue. We usually cover it with distractions, like drama with women, or drama with life.

    But what does it all mean? What is the purpose of it all?

    It is not a question that anyone can answer us, not for lack of trying (queue the thread about control), but because any answer that we dont arive ourselves is meaningless. Its just a piece of knowledge, not a realization.

    I dont know if this is your beach, but the other day I found this interesting story: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=z9GXI_9DXF0

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    Re: How do deal with loneliness?

    Quote Originally Posted by Jan View Post
    I get pangs of loneliness. I know, the standard answer is hobbies, career, etc.
    Hobbies can be isolating. Careers can be isolating. It sounds like you want people to talk to you, get to know you, get to like you, and think about you when you are not physically there, etc. Yes?

    What "people things" can you think of that might get you around other people regularly, forgetting covid as a factor?

    Its not sex. Its love, someone who care if I live or die.
    And you say that you got this from phone calls, zoom meetings, and email chains? If so, then I think I can gauge the type/depth of love you are meaning.

    (Deletes a paragraph of friendly query.)

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    Re: How do deal with loneliness?

    Definitely not the only one, i was actually thinking about this today. I've been feeling like this since my teenage years and I'm now in my early forties. I've discovered women can ease it temporarily, although at some point the misery sets in and the relationship will end one way or the other and you will be feeling even worse than before. Until time heals.

    Even at my age i still haven't found the answer. I guess it's best to try and not think about it. And always remember, no one gives a shit about you. You have to look after yourself.

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    Re: How do deal with loneliness?

    Each person deals with being lonely differently.

    For me personally I can fly solo no problems and don't feel that type of anxiety for the last decade or so.. I guess I have so much to do and jam pack my days with just enjoying life each day with every step.

    The men that do feel lonely from time to time I understand that it is a hard, cold reality. I went through that phase in my early 20s which is the hardest point for most men in my opinion. Women"s SMV is the highest at that point in life, and that is where they have all the attention while you are basically invisible as a man.

    I find that if you are passionate with your hobbies you need to branch out to clubs or groups that discuss such hobbies IMO. Branching out to encounter new ideas may even fuel your hobbies to go the next level of rekindle that fire and passion for the pursuit of contentment and happiness.

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    Re: How do deal with loneliness?

    Valid question
    iMO- we have been programmed by our culture to think there is something wrong if we are alone. Not to mention the government schools programming you, because the govt would rather you pay for a woman than having her on the public dole. Then we get programmed by Movie Stars, Nick Cage just got married for the 5th time! Im his age with three marriages under my belt, these last 3.5 years are the first years I have been alone. The first year I was lonely, but it got much better. I have developed friends with similar interests, tennis, golf and travel. I get enough social interaction with them and my adult kids to not feel lonely.

    I dont think this was the case in centuries past. I think guys would be elated not to have a woman around. Example, when I was a kid I had a friend whose Grandpa would leave the city and go the cabin to get away. Grandma called his Dad yelling and screaming. Im like "Wow, she doesnt want to be alone" My friend said, " No because Grandpa took the goat this time" LOL
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    Re: How do deal with loneliness?

    Maybe it is the result of society programming. Maybe its just unhappiness manifest it's self as loneliness. I was single 20 through 33 and really never felt this way. Idk.

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    Re: How do deal with loneliness?

    Quote Originally Posted by Jan View Post
    Maybe it is the result of society programming. Maybe its just unhappiness manifest it's self as loneliness. I was single 20 through 33 and really never felt this way. Idk.
    We come into this life and gain everything we gain, then loose everything we gained when we depart. With all gain comes loss, we need to learn to let go of our losses the moment we loose them, then move on to gain and loose some more. We need to recognize we are only visitors for a while, that life is short, and life is sweet.
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    Re: How do deal with loneliness?

    "It is not good that the man should be alone." (Gen 2:18)

    It's in our wiring. The designer said so himself. So, what you feel is normal. I think it's crucial you accept that, rather than see yourself as some oddball statistical outlier.

    I always tell people, whether they're lonely or not, "Identify your strengths and skills, and then put them to work to make a positive difference around you." It's not friends and family and hobbies that take away loneliness; it's giving that takes away loneliness.

    Even if you just volunteer at a soup kitchen or work some low-end job just to keep busy, that's something.

    There's also the Internet -- the world's biggest shit hole. But there's some good stuff out there as well. Forums you can contribute to and help other people. Just stay away from the porn. That stuff's poison and it'll make you even lonelier. Same with television. Poison and brainwashing. If you have television service, cancel it today. My dad watched TV for the last few years of his life. It was always on, always blasting. He died a lonely, psychological wreck.

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    Re: How do deal with loneliness?

    Don't forget that the isolation of covid is causing all sorts of things to surface in people. Loneliness is high on that list.
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    Re: How do deal with loneliness?

    Quote Originally Posted by Jan View Post
    How did you guys deal with loneliness? Not often, but I get pangs of loneliness. I know, the standard answer is hobbies, career, etc. We aren't supposed to show weakness. We don't need women. I know. And a woman won't help so I'm not going there.

    I just don't. Its not just mgtow. Loneliness is epidemic in America these days. Maybe I need a pet. Idk. What do you guys think.

    No disrespect , thank you for having this here, but I liked the other website. I thought I had friends. The phone calls, zoom meeting, email chains.

    I mean I've been a loner, introvert my whole life. But as I get older...

    Anyway, I ain't a mangina and I'm not going back to the plantation but I feel low sometimes.

    Its not sex. Its love, someone who care if I live or die. Someone who calls me for once instead of me always having to call them.


    Enough of my whining. Am I they only one?
    Its a miracle of human endeavour that everyone wishes themselves part of a love-in (in the agapic or fraternal sense) when in reality nobody is and when it comes down to it, nobody really cares to be since its not the recieving thats the problem but the giving.

    This is why gods and heavens needed to be a part of the human equation....delayed gratification re: ones desire to be loved.

    Anyway, MGTOW covers it. Its in the "Be attractive, don't be unattractive". Also its in the self realisation and improvement whereby one learns to be comfortable within oneself and focus upon improving ones self-opinion and resources since its a big ask of anyone to 'love' you if you don't even 'like' yourself.
    Cheerful and relaxed is attractive but it cannot be faked.

    The best I've ever managed is friendly aquaintances, few outright enemies (although the ones I've made have wierdly been accidentally better friends than the friends ever could be) but quite a few fleeting and temporary good 'clicks' with a range of folks and plenty women included.

    I'll die in ditch unmourned...and I'm comfortable with that...and cheerful.

    Loneliness mourns whilst solitude rejoices.
    Flow with whatever may happen and let your mind be free. Stay centered by accepting whatever you are doing. This is the ultimate. Zhuangzi

    someone asked the poet Sophocles: "How are you in regard to sex, Sophocles? Can you still make love to a woman?" Hush man, the poet replied, I am very glad to have escaped from this, like a slave who has escaped from a mad and cruel master."

    Dont worry about me. Worry about why you're worried about me.

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    Re: How do deal with loneliness?

    Enough of my whining. Am I they only one?
    Nah bro. I wouldn't trust any man who didn't feel this way.
    Loneliness doesn't hit in the same way it used to. I think this is cos I realised that I don't want anything to do with 99.9% of people, so there's no longing to be with others or feeling like I'm missing out. But I try to maintain a handful of people I can call up whenever I need to and just be me.
    I fill the time with things I like doing. Even if that sometimes means sitting on my ass, reading, watching a cool movie - I just rewatched some old cheesy action flicks, you know Jean Claude Van Damme and the like. Whatever lifts my spirits and shifts my focus off of existential type problems that have no real answer.
    I just look at it this way, I came into this world by myself, and I'm gonna leave by myself, live for the experience of life and cherish it. Contentment and gratitude for life keeps loneliness at bay, faith carries me through whatever I cannot bear.

    And this. After so much moping or being pissed off, I always come back to this. And my vigour is renewed.


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    Re: How do deal with loneliness?

    Quote Originally Posted by Jan View Post
    Maybe it is the result of society programming. Maybe its just unhappiness manifest it's self as loneliness. I was single 20 through 33 and really never felt this way. Idk.
    Maybe you're right. But then again...


    I've lived through periods of my life when no-one seemed to be around. I couldn't talk to anyone. And other periods where there were too many around and couldn't talk to any of them.

    Loneliness is not about being alone, it's about being alone with your thoughts that you believe others can't understand.

    Luckily for you, you have here.

    We may argue.

    We may debate.

    But we understand!
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    Re: How do deal with loneliness?

    Quote Originally Posted by AdTheBad View Post
    few outright enemies (although the ones I've made have wierdly been accidentally better friends than the friends ever could be)
    This is something I have also come across. But I don't think it's accidental.

    When a man fights another man, whether physically or otherwise, it often serves as a bonding process. You gain the measure of each other and go forward from there (of course this is a generality).

    I am unaware of this phenomenon amongst females. Grudges weigh heavily upon them.

    But back to loneliness. Because of the lockdowns I'm feeling this very strongly.

    Amongst other things, when you go online you read all about the disparity in the world.

    Then you go outside and talk to people and you realise things aren't quite so bad.

    But you can't associate with people anymore so your view becomes skewed.

    I don't know the answer, I'm struggling myself.

    So no, you aren't alone Jan.
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