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    Beware of the dreaded Soft Suburban Dad Syndrome!

    I've just found an article about the "Soft Suburban Dad Syndrome" (SSDS) that would be hilarious if it wasn't so true.


    The writer went to his wife's 10-year high school reunion and found out that:


    "By and large, the women had kept themselves up; they still seemed vibrant, engaged, and in shape, even if they had had a few kids by that time. The years had not been as kind to the majority of dudes, however. Many were already overweight, out-of-shape, and looking pretty schlubby and dead behind the eyes."


    "With the passage of time, and the eroding of youth, the masses of [married] men fairly give up on life and lose their edge."


    That's what marriage does to men!

    Other bits of the article:


    "They stop learning; they start passively accepting ready-made answers from the media; they outsource their thinking to others."


    I'd say the wives' constant nagging and manipulative ways end up creating brainless, isolated individuals who say YES, DEAR to anything she says just to have a little peace. And the writer kind of acknowledges that:


    "Men tend to let friendships fall by the wayside, relying exclusively on their wives for social interaction and emotional support. Such a dynamic is fragile, unsatisfying, and contrary to the male make-up, which evolved to spend ample time in a “gang” of other men."


    I'd like to read an article about how single/divorced men compare against married ones.


    Here's the link:
    https://www.artofmanliness.com/healt...-dad-syndrome/

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    Re: Beware of the dreaded Soft Suburban Dad Syndrome!

    My signature line says it all.
    Stay away from women. They will only break your heart.

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    Re: Beware of the dreaded Soft Suburban Dad Syndrome!

    Perfect timing! I just pointed this out in another thread that it is highly fashionable, even encouraged in the media to demean men while praising women. Take any topic: Body positivity- "you go girl! Love yourself! BBW are queens!" vs "fat, lazy, losers, neckbeard/ incels, etc." Increase in the number of singles- "women are so brave, so courageous for choosing singledom over settling" vs "men are underachieving losers who simply don't measure up to women's standards!"

    Now, back to the matter at hand- soft bodied middle aged men. Yeah, marriage and family usually have that affect on people. It's hard to work full time, be a parent and find time to stay in shape. Many of the married people I know with kids rely on fast food quite a bit because it's fast, convenient and relatively cheap. Is it healthy? Hell no. But guess what-, it affects both men and women equally. Who hasn't seen their share of obese, middlge aged women? Ironically, when many of these couples do decide to start dieting/ exercising, it's the men who shed weight the easiest. Testosterone hates fat. I've seen many a woman complain about how fast their husbands lose weight just by giving up one thing like soda.

    As you kind of hit on, many middle aged men are just burnt out. They can't ride the emotional roller coaster with their wives anymore. We're just not built for that. Men love the status quo. Most men I know can easily settle into a job, even one they don't like and park themselves there for 20-30 years. Most women I know are job hopping every other year or even more often than that. My dad had 3 jobs in his life from teenage to retirement. My mom had 10 in a 15 year period. I've also had 3 jobs in my life so far. My sister had had at least 8 that I can remember.
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    Re: Beware of the dreaded Soft Suburban Dad Syndrome!

    May I suggest an alternative viewpoint?

    What a croc.

    Hey guy’s, stop being slobs and man up!

    For what exactly?

    What I see in this piece is shaming tactics.

    Women are cool. Women are strong. Women take care of their appearance but men put on weight and stop caring about their looks.

    Yeah right!



    (To find this image I had to google “obese women”. I first tried googling “fat” and the only images I seen were of overweight men and of women apparently trying to shed that extra pound or two.)

    But there is truth here I believe.

    By middle age, the blue-pilled man realises his mistake in chasing tale. He realises he has fucked up and ceases to care how he looks to women because he has experienced what it means to shack up with them, hence the dead look in their eyes. The thousand-yard stare of those that have seen too much and want no more of it.

    Women, on the other hand, often never give up. The reason: Hypergamy!

    I’m done with this one.

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    Re: Beware of the dreaded Soft Suburban Dad Syndrome!

    Quote Originally Posted by Jackoff View Post

    Thar she blows!!!

    Now we just need a little toilet bowl dye so her hair matches her tent...er, shirt.
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    Don't let yourself be assimilated and become a mindless zombie supporting and submitting to any woman.
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    Re: Beware of the dreaded Soft Suburban Dad Syndrome!

    Quote Originally Posted by Jackoff View Post

    By middle age, the blue-pilled man realises his mistake in chasing tale. He realises he has fucked up and ceases to care how he looks to women because he has experienced what it means to shack up with them, hence the dead look in their eyes. The thousand-yard stare of those that have seen too much and want no more of it.
    Married men stop caring about themselves as a form of slow suicide.

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    Re: Beware of the dreaded Soft Suburban Dad Syndrome!

    Quote Originally Posted by Manfred View Post
    Married men stop caring about themselves as a form of slow suicide.
    Woman have banished their families, blacklisted their friends, and nagged them out of any sports, hobby's or interests they might have had. All they got left is pulling the plough. These men should leave but won't and have decided for whatever reason to ride it out. It's a wonder the poor bastards don't look even deader than they do.
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    Re: Beware of the dreaded Soft Suburban Dad Syndrome!

    This article is about the women and men observed at a 10 year reunion? At 28 years old, coming to these conclusions is like assuming the leader of a marathon after 5 miles will win. I bet most of those broads hadn't had kids yet. There's your equalizer. Report back after the 20 year reunion and I may listen.

    Suburban dads get hammered from all angles. I've lived it and it's exhausting. Busting your ass at work to come home to someone who says you don't do enough around the house, you don't make enough money, etc. Something has to give and it's usually working out and eating well. The best weight loss program is a divorce because you get rid of ALL of the dead weight.

    Beta male author writes article about beta males. Next.

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    Re: Beware of the dreaded Soft Suburban Dad Syndrome!

    Quote Originally Posted by Skywarp View Post
    The best weight loss program is a divorce
    So true! I lost 180 lbs overnight, without changing my diet.

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    Re: Beware of the dreaded Soft Suburban Dad Syndrome!

    Quote Originally Posted by gtrFreak View Post
    "By and large, the women had kept themselves up; they still seemed vibrant, engaged, and in shape, even if they had had a few kids by that time.
    By in shape, they mean anything under 250 pounds.

    Oh, and 3/4 of them would have been littered in ugly tattoos.

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    Re: Beware of the dreaded Soft Suburban Dad Syndrome!

    Quote Originally Posted by Skywarp View Post
    This article is about the women and men observed at a 10 year reunion? At 28 years old, coming to these conclusions is like assuming the leader of a marathon after 5 miles will win. I bet most of those broads hadn't had kids yet. There's your equalizer. Report back after the 20 year reunion and I may listen.

    ^^^ This right here.

    I know some men let themselves go but women getting (and staying) fat is by FAR the norm, but it often starts a little later than the AVFM article/author states.

    /Tired.

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    Re: Beware of the dreaded Soft Suburban Dad Syndrome!

    Quote Originally Posted by Jackoff View Post
    Women, on the other hand, often never give up. The reason: Hypergamy!

    I’m done with this one.

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    Why would women give up? They know there is another blue pilled sucker that will put up with their shit just for a whiff. See thats one of the reasons I have a problem with people saying "MGTOW is a political movement". No it's not. Never will it be. There will always be some blue pilled simp ready to sell out his fellow man in order to please a woman. If you don't kiss woman ass then you are called gay and / or shamed.
    Stay away from women. They will only break your heart.

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    Re: Beware of the dreaded Soft Suburban Dad Syndrome!

    My 10 and 15 year reunions were the opposite. Men mostly looked the same as always, though some fathers had a worn out, tired look in their eyes. Women had slammed into the wall hard. It was fun seeing all the former hotties giving attention to previously invisible nerds who were now making good money and presented themselves well. It's both funny and sad how the power dynamic predicts intersex communication so accurately.

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    Re: Beware of the dreaded Soft Suburban Dad Syndrome!

    Quote Originally Posted by I'm Gone View Post
    My 10 and 15 year reunions were the opposite. Men mostly looked the same as always, though some fathers had a worn out, tired look in their eyes. Women had slammed into the wall hard. It was fun seeing all the former hotties giving attention to previously invisible nerds who were now making good money and presented themselves well. It's both funny and sad how the power dynamic predicts intersex communication so accurately.
    It's true, women are like mushrooms, feed them shit and keep them in the dark!

    Just put on a nice suit and step from an expensive exotic sports car, especially roadsters. They get so obviously excited and wet that you can stick them to your refrigerator like a snail!

    This fact alone (because I lived it) was one of the easiest RP's I had to swallow. It sours a man to see such hypergamy in action. Being an analytical thinker I put myself in the dude's shoes they so willingly jump ship from. It's good to look at life's experiences from every angle, especially the angles outside yourself with other's vantage point while sidelining your own ego and advantages.

    The point is "don't be that guy", be the guy that's not in a position to be compromised by hypergamy, watching all you invested hop in a roadster with a guy wearing a tailored suit.

    Hypergamy is the international western world's deal breaker and single most motivator for men to walk away from commitment never to be seen nor heard again.

    My monkey-branch tree is now a greased aluminum parking light pole, with a pile of dead monkeys covering the station!


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