Thread: Any Monk?

I ask, because I'm curious as to the reasons people have.

I'm monk by choice, in the sense that I don't chase pussy. As I don't chase pussy, therefore I have no relationships.

But also, if pussy chased me, which was the case in the past, I'd make a determination at that time, but now, not any more.

I've thought about it for some time, and my standards have gone so stratospheric that even the options I have no longer are of any interest to me.

I think I burned out on putting up with such nonsense. Sex just isn't worth even driving over to a sure thing. I have a high sex drive, but the targets just aren't worth the headache.

It's not due to anger or hatred or anything, more just the annoyance of my time being spent for...what. Casual sex? Even with women who actually like me?

A super model comes to the door, and I'd just not care. It's not worth the effort. I put in effort to drive across the country. Go to Vegas. Go fishing. Whatever. But pussy? Why?

Maybe it's something a 16 year old might do, but I'm on a tight schedule. I have drinking and binge watching to do.

Anyone else monk just cuz? Or are there other reasons? Avoiding legal issues? Ex-wife fucked you over with the courts?

Monk here. Buy mostly because the years have caught up with me; 77 of them, to be exact.

Originally Posted by ThatOldGuy

Monk here. Buy mostly because the years have caught up with me; 77 of them, to be exact.

You wouldn't want your twighlight years to be filled with drama and annoyance.

Full monk. Mostly same reasons as you listed.
No desire to even bother. Couldn't care less about it, even if one were to come on strong, wouldn't phase me.

Easy to get un-aroused when I look at a fine lookin' woman
and realize what all is going on in that hamster brain,
plus knowing that no matter how hot she is, there's some dude who's sick of her BS.

Going further on this: even easier to stay out of relationshits when one realizes that
if you marry some gurl, you also marry her family, and given the dysfunction of ALL families, I say: no thanks.

Side note: ALL families have some sort of dysfunction; and if one claims his/her family isn't,
odds are that individual IS the dysfunctional one.

Another side note: if a fella is dating some gurl, and she has a great family...guess what?
Need I say more?

Originally Posted by ThatOldGuy

Monk here. Buy mostly because the years have caught up with me; 77 of them, to be exact.

I can state with authority any women looking at a geezer is going to be a gold digger.

Originally Posted by frog

Any women looking at a geezer is going to be a gold digger.

Ha, perhaps you had better let him know that you are a geezer too, as am I, or he might take offense! LOL.

He's new and he doesn't know us!

Originally Posted by Unboxxed

Ha, perhaps you had better let him know that you are a geezer too, as am I, or he might take offense! LOL.

He's new and he doesn't know us!

You god damned geezer.

The worst part is now you're a boomer if you're over 25, which I guess is now early-onset geezering.

A gold digger is a geezer pleaser.

I've gone monk for the same reasons as the OP listed. The fuck-with factor is just too much. I have the added incentive of having two daughters that live with me. Ever heard of a girlfriend making things better with your kids? I haven't. Way too much risk of having some harpy slide into my life and fuck everything up. Like throwing a grenade in a school bus. I can't let a wolf in the door but with how unattractive women are these days, it's not like there's much in the way of temptation.

My ex-brother in law is going through that garbage right now. His kids hate his new wife and she hates them. He saw this coming from a long way off but still stepped in the bear trap. He's perpetually caught in the middle and I'm pretty sure, miserable. Trust me, he deserves it but it's a cautionary tale that I get to watch play out and shake my head.

Originally Posted by Skywarp

My ex-brother in law is going through that garbage right now. His kids hate his new wife and she hates them. He saw this coming from a long way off but still stepped in the bear trap. He's perpetually caught in the middle and I'm pretty sure, miserable. Trust me, he deserves it but it's a cautionary tale that I get to watch play out and shake my head.

Aren't blended families great?

I would class myself as accidental monk. I haven't had sex since 2019 but have had some happy ending massages over that time but not many. I have never chased pussy but luckily I live in a country with legalized prostitution so all I ever need to do if I really want it is go to a brothel or hire an escort.

The thing with Red Pill is it makes you want even that form of sex/interaction with women less too.

Monk since 97, threw away all expectations I had for society, and dropped all expectations society had for me, it was/is the most equal relationship I ever had in my life, long lasting too! Until then it was all mucking about in misery and disappointment, since then all profit with innumerable advantages.

I am Pseudo monk, I don't bother with real women anymore because like many of you have realized it just ain't worth it. It so much bullshit for so little reward.

The pseudo part come into the fact that I am enjoyer of pocket pussy and porn. I am still sorta of young guy(in my early 30's). So the the drive is there but it no where near my teens and twentys so when the need arises I rub one out and go on about my business. In a few years I might actually become a full on monk. I am already at the point where half of a given week I am not horny at all.

I will enjoy where I am at, until it time for me to fully enter monk mode

Originally Posted by FangBlade

I am Pseudo monk, I don't bother with real women anymore because like many of you have realized it just ain't worth it. It so much bullshit for so little reward.

The pseudo part come into the fact that I am enjoyer of pocket pussy and porn. I am still sorta of young guy(in my early 30's). So the the drive is there but it no where near my teens and twentys so when the need arises I rub one out and go on about my business. In a few years I might actually become a full on monk. I am already at the point where half of a given week I am not horny at all.

I will enjoy where I am at, until it time for me to fully enter monk mode

Last time I checked, you're in Monk mode! Monk means actively riding out a decision to abandon live sex and the relationships that require it. When a man goes solo as the master plan of his life made under stout eternal resolve never to visit that realm again, he makes plans to the contrary, fulfillment of other wants and desires automatically take its place, giving no time or space for seeking and finding pussy or relationships, freeing that time and effort on things better earned and spent.

Monk is like touring America and avoiding all the slums and pitfalls, only seeing the national parks and rural settings far from all the insanity. Another thing, you're not driving, you're a bush pilot and you're flying from scene to scene seeing the things everyone else never sees in places they just can't go.

A Monk is free to go and come as he pleases, he's only obligated to himself, the bargaining table of give/take/share, was used for firewood long long ago.

Full monk for about 20 years now and have never looked back.

I find it interesting though (and believe it to be a healthy practice) to question my own path from time to time, you know with all the “what ifs…” and that includes relationships.

When I think of where I would be today if I hadn’t gone full monk all those years ago it’s usually accompanied by a shudder, then the laughter of relief of having escaped all the soul-destroying turmoil.

As to why I went full on monk, much like yourself and some others have stated it was a slow revelation, a kind of burn-out of jumping through hoops.

Combine this with the fact that sex for the sake of it means little to me.

Add in an an epiphany along the way that no matter how good a relationship may be on balance, you simply cannot be yourself.

I value my independence much more than anything any relationship can offer.

I'm old now, but I gave up chasing in my 40s. Never regretted it.

Originally Posted by Jackoff

Add in an an epiphany along the way that no matter how good a relationship may be on balance, you simply cannot be yourself.

Excellent point. Giving away or sacrificing even the tiniest portion of yourself might deprive you of the one aspect of your being that could lead you to living your fullest life.
Fuck relationshits, pure and simple.

30 year old monk here. Learned years ago that there wasn't any value in fucking a lot of women and that the majority of women are just distractions and liabilities.

History has shown that many men's downfall has been cause of a bitch.

They're only getting worse as time moves forward, I just sit back and watch the fuckery unfold while staying clear of them.

Also I have never had a desire to get married or have kids. Learned about alimony at like 17 and said fuck a marriage.

Also discovering semen retention while in the navy in 2019 and using my sexual energy for better things other than getting my dick wet changed my life for the better.

The freedom that goes with going monk is priceless. Becoming greater mentally, physically, financially, and spiritually everyday until death > dating, relationships, and all that other bullshit with women. Women really do hold us men back from reaching our potential and greatest version of ourselves.

Also enjoying life to the fullest with no nagging bitch in my ear is amazing too.

Originally Posted by DogEatDog

30 year old monk here. Learned years ago that there wasn't any value in fucking a lot of women and that the majority of women are just distractions and liabilities.

History has shown that many men's downfall has been cause of a bitch.

They're only getting worse as time moves forward, I just sit back and watch the fuckery unfold while staying clear of them.

Also I have never had a desire to get married or have kids. Learned about alimony at like 17 and said fuck a marriage.

Also discovering semen retention while in the navy in 2019 and using my sexual energy for better things other than getting my dick wet changed my life for the better.

The freedom that goes with going monk is priceless. Becoming greater mentally, physically, financially, and spiritually everyday until death > dating, relationships, and all that other bullshit with women. Women really do hold us men back from reaching our potential and greatest version of ourselves.

Also enjoying life to the fullest with no nagging bitch in my ear is amazing too.

Brother you're talking all wise and stuff. Most pussy isn't worth the price of a date and none of it will do anything for your life overall. I've considered banging this older woman in her 40s (texted for a week...will see if she puts out 1st or 2nd day then I'm done) and get this...she wants to go to a barber shop with me on the 2nd day of our "date" to get my beard trimmed. WTF. The beard will not be trimmed and she will never see me again after day 2...possibly after day 1 if there's any talk indicating no pussy.

Originally Posted by Edwardhaskell

Brother you're talking all wise and stuff. Most pussy isn't worth the price of a date and none of it will do anything for your life overall. I've considered banging this older woman in her 40s (texted for a week...will see if she puts out 1st or 2nd day then I'm done) and get this...she wants to go to a barber shop with me on the 2nd day of our "date" to get my beard trimmed. WTF. The beard will not be trimmed and she will never see me again after day 2...possibly after day 1 if there's any talk indicating no pussy.

I had to read the barbershop part like 3 times lol she can't be serious. Brother if I was you I'd abort that mission cause she doesn't even sound like she's in her right mind.