Thread: Am I right?

I have just been thinking and wondering if the person to truly cares end up worse off, I do hope I’m wrong but it’s looking like that to me, what do you guys think.

Originally Posted by Encrypted587

I have just been thinking and wondering if the person to truly cares end up worse off, I do hope I’m wrong but it’s looking like that to me, what do you guys think.

Truly cares about what? Ends up worse off when? You're leaving something out.

But, just guessing at two different meanings here...

It is an observed truism that the one who loves the least controls the relationship.

I can see that power dynamic also showing up in any of a number of situations occurring outside of male-female relationships.

If you are a caring person in life, you have to manage your place in the world with more agility than others, to advance across the mine field of life without blowing up, and realize your gains for having done this.

Everyone cares about something. Maybe it is meaningless to you but it is everything to them. In Australia we just had our version of the super bowl and I saw on the news people camping out all night hoping to get one of the remaining tickets. Now to me that is stupidity on so many levels. To them it is the meaning of life.

I guess the trick is find something that is worth caring about for you.

And if we are talking relationships than find someone who shares your beliefs. Not that MGTOW do relationships but as Unboxxed mentioned this thread is a bit vague.

Originally Posted by Encrypted587

I have just been thinking and wondering if the person to truly cares end up worse off, I do hope I’m wrong but it’s looking like that to me, what do you guys think.

I’ll try to fulfil your hopes.

As Unboxxed says, caring about what?

Caring is a good thing, that’s why each and every one of us are here, because we care.

From what I take from your statement you seem to be referring to caring about a partner? Am I wrong in this assumption?

Caring about a partner in this context seems to me to be the provision of the male. Yes the female also cares, but ultimately she cares about what is good for her.

In the blue pilled world the male also cares about what is good for the female in his life, often sacrificing his own happiness in the forlorn attempt to keep his woman happy.

In this I agree with you that “the person who truly cares ends up worse off”, but only in specific situations such as relationshits.

You can truly care about others without becoming overly invested in their choices in life.

So, what is caring?

To me it means sharing your thoughts and your insights on life and respecting the decisions of others whether or not to accept or reject them.

Should others choose to reject your insights, there’s no need to get butt-hurt over it. Let them live their lives as they see fit.

The person who cares shows attention and consideration to the welfare of someone or something. Does that person end up worse off than the person who does not care?

It really depends of the context of the situation. Caring about a my business, my health, my environment, my friends, and my community does not have me ending up worse off.

Going above and beyond, to the point of self sacrifice, a person may end up worse off.

The mistake I have made before is believing I was the person who ‘truly cared’ only to realize the care was not mutual. The values and goals I cared about were not in alignment with the values and goals of other entity. The beauty of freedom is everyone has a choice to care about their own goals and values.