Thread: Aging, insecure mom tries to find solace in childrens acceptance of her body.

Why I Want My Sons to See Me Naked*|*Rita Templeton

Between you and me, I'm dismayed, big time, by my post-baby body. But for the sake of my boys -- and my future daughters-in-law -- I lie through my teeth. When they ask about my stretch marks, I tell them proudly how growing a baby is hard work, and that they're like badges I've earned (gaming references always hit home with dudes, no matter what you're explaining). As much as I'd like to cringe and shrink away when they touch my squishy belly, I let them squeeze my flab between their curious fingers. Do I hate it? Yes. I want to wail, "Leave my fat alone!" and run for the nearest oversized T-shirt (or, like, the nearest liposuction clinic).
But I don't. Because for right now, for these few formative years, my flab is their one and only perception of the female body. And I want them to know that it's beautiful, even in its imperfection.

That's a way to instill healthy body issues in children.

ew.

I kind of get where she is coming from. Learning to accept one's body can be difficult in this hyper critical society we live in. That being said, because she is the one with the issues, she'll still pass it on to her sons. There is nothing that can stop the harmful effects of self-loathing affecting those who are dependent on you.

I kind of understand where she is coming from but she seems to be going off the deep end about herself, so it comes off as more like attention whoring to get validation and acceptance form others. Look at her trying to raise her kids with a body positive attitude. Isn't she amazing and special?

Being undressed isn't a big deal. Little ones open doors, and can barge in at the oddest moments, but there's a line between flaunting oneself overtly, and simply being casual and comfortable with oneself and not making a huge deal if private space does get invaded. Not blowing up in anger, or freaking out and overemphasizing those times are the perfect opportunity to discuss rules and borders for personal family space.

An understanding of the bodies of the average person, vs. a realistic ideal, vs. the unrealistic mass media ideals that are shown consistently is a good thing. Teaching kids how to think about and deconstruct advertising is also a good thing. But then, promoting something that would encourage critical thinking wouldn't be a good thing would it?...Nope.

They're gonna see porn, they're gonna go to beaches, and walk in public, and go to school and see for themselves that bodies are different and not everyone has some fantastic porn physique. They can make those connections for themselves, or (as demo said) she can use a moment where they happen to barge in on her as a learning moment, but running fingers along her stretch marks? No teen's gonna have those, so it's pretty clear what her intention is. Self validation.

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Emotional incest. She needs a husband to tell her she's still beautiful, but she doesn't have one, so she uses her boys.

Women should not be allowed to raise sons on their own for the same reasons that they should not be permitted to own little dogs. They abuse them.

When I was pretty young I've seen my step mom naked way too many times, the age was probably around 5. All I can say, it resulted in porn addiction down the road, when my cousin first showed me porn magazine at his father's store. My advice don't do what this woman does. It helped me get into porn addiction. This d woman mostly likely will be harming them not helping them. Trust me on that I know from experience.

Originally Posted by Mr Wombat

...for the same reasons that they should not be permitted to own little dogs. They abuse them.

Amen on that, brother!

Why isn't this woman being arrested? If this was the father exposing himself to his daughters he would be locked up straight away...

The promise of the Internet is access to the knowledge of the world. The reality of the Internet is that now all mental vomit is available for all to witness whereas in the past it would be confined to a personal diary.

Only a self centered ankle could believe that this is a good idea, they will go to any length to make themselves feel better about their messed up lives.

LMFAO.

Fatso woman: "Fellow adults, there is nothing wrong with women being obese. We are still gorgeous!"
Man: "Shut yer piehole, fattie."
Fatso woman to herself, "Oh...this normalizing obesity thing isn't working with self-possessed adults with fully developed brains. Who can I indoctrinate and also get validation from?! I know...."
Fatso woman to random children: "Hey kids, it's okay to be fat. Sure, obesity in women has tripled since the 1950s (source1, source2), so I guess the whole thing is very abnormal, but today it's a-ok. Don't you agree?"
Kids: (laughing and running away)
Fatso woman to herself "OK, the one people I can brainwash is my OWN kids"
Fatso woman (to her own kids): "Tell naked blubbery mommy that she's 'beautiful' and everyone gets ice cream!"

Unsurprisingly, it's easiest to brainwash children whether its for religion or normalizing obesity; when you do it to your own kids, it comes from an authority figure, someone responsible for your safety and food, the roof over your head, it's of questionable morality. Especially, when the prime motivator behind it in this woman's case is NOT to benefit her children in any way, we all know it's about HER getting emotional validation convincing SOMEONE to think she's not some fat, lazy piece of shit.

When mothers abuse their position of authority, and brainwash children into thinking positively about a serious health condition like obesity, when they erode their own authority to encourage the children to eat responsibly and live an active lifestyle, when they put their children at greater risk of diabetes and hypertension by psychologically abusing the children into seeing an unhealthy body type as desirous, their can be only one solution. Call Child Protection Services and have the children removed from her custody immediately. We do not sanction parents teaching their children drug usage, or normalizing meth addictions; it sets the WRONG example and jeopardizes the health of the child. There ought to be standards for being a parent; and one of those is putting the children's interests first. She is putting her own emotional gratification first, at the expense of her children.

Originally Posted by TheRecipe

Why isn't this woman being arrested? If this was the father exposing himself to his daughters he would be locked up straight away...

yup. this is absolutely 100% child abuse.

in fact, in order to match this level of sick fuckery, the father would have to be helicoptering in front of his captive daughters.

this woman will never be brought to justice. suck on that for awhile. she has just ruined the lives of these boys; she has dropped them in a pit from which they might never escape. instead of rejecting or punishing her, society is going to congratulate her and backpat her.

One good thing out of this, it might get them to think about the consequences of marriage and ending up with a gal just like dear old mom.

That's right boys, your mother has put on some tonnage over the years.

See what you have to look forward too!

I think the courts seriously need to rethink their beliefs that children are better off with women.

I've said it time and time again...

Thanks Adam.....thanks so much...

Originally Posted by Keep On

so it's pretty clear what her intention is. Self validation.

It never ceases to amaze me how women have such blatant disregard for the most vulnerable and innocent.
They'll use children for anything!
This is what disgusts me the most about them.

Originally Posted by WheelBarrow

The promise of the Internet is access to the knowledge of the world. The reality of the Internet is that now all mental vomit is available for all to witness whereas in the past it would be confined to a personal diary.

Man, you took the words right out of my mouth. I was sarcastically thinking, "Gee, I feel like scratching my balls. Maybe I'll write a long letter to the Huffington Post about it."

Originally Posted by CrazyCanuck

When I was pretty young I've seen my step mom naked way too many times, the age was probably around 5. All I can say, it resulted in porn addiction down the road, when my cousin first showed me porn magazine at his father's store. My advice don't do what this woman does. It helped me get into porn addiction. This d woman mostly likely will be harming them not helping them. Trust me on that I know from experience.

This is sad

YUCK! Nothing worse than a fat woman or a woman with flabby bodies. EW! I'm not attracted to fat women; in fact, I'm not attracted to too many of today's woman. Not to sound gay or anything like that, but I admire the male body because I want to look shredded and tough. I'm sick of the overweight lifestyle I did to myself over the past 20 years.