Thread: "Are you OKAY?"

Depends if it's sincere or not. If it's not, I will ignore it. Just treat it like they're saying hi. You don't have to answer, to fall into their frame.

It does irk me that people have replaced how you doing with are you ok? It's patronising.

I like simple yeah. are you? and give them a really concerned look. Haha.

Next time, cut through the chase and ask her if she want's to fuck, then, either you're getting laid, or you'll never hear from her again.

Fucking hell that's funny!

You have to use a little Verbal Judo. If the other person doesn't care, or is merely on a fishing expedition, turn it around on them. They should leave, not targeting you, not coming up with any 'dirt' they can use on you, but worried about their own position in office hierarchy. You come off as concerned for them, they walk away wondering what the office gossip mongers are saying about them, or whether they are in danger of being laid off/maid redundant.


"aRe yUo oK?"

"I'm great. Thanks for asking.

(Putting on concerned face. Make eye contact. Squint the eyes. Bite the lips for just a few seconds. Nod head for a few seconds until you have their complete attention.)

But, tell me.....how are you doing?


I've heard you are going through some real..(purse lips and roll eyes like you are imagining all the water cooler talk you have heard about them)....challenges.

Let me tell you something, you are sooo brave.

You are handling these set backs sooo well.

Just understand, the good Lord doesn't send you anything you can't handle.

You don't have to bear all these burdens on your own. Any time you want to talk....or just need a few minutes to pray...I am here for you."

Originally Posted by Mad Max

I have no idea how to respond. What is this "OKAY," how is it defined?

Duh. Lie to 'em. Lie. "Naah, I'm good mate, just had a night on the piss is all." Job done. No need to over-analyse. No need to treat this like a real question deserving of a real answer.

I'm a bit 'spergy myself. It took me years to realise that most of the things people say in social interactions are not true, not meant to be true, and not meant to be understood as conveying actual information. The purpose of conversation is to entertain one another.

Originally Posted by Mad Max

determined that a violation of of my personal sovereignty was justified

Jeez, dude, just because someone does what the government-mandated workplace health propaganda tells them to do, does not mean you need to overreact. You don't need to go on alert like they are busting down your front door at midnight, guns drawn.

"Personal sovereignty" fuck me. Is someone supposed to call your lawyer first, before they dare to address you? Before they have the goddamn temerity to look in your direction with an expression on their face?

I think you are missing that it isn't really about you. Most things aren't about you. Relax. Chill.

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Alternatively, your can have a little fun with it. Next time you get the government-mandated faux concern, just go "Yeah, I'm a bit short of cash this month and its affecting my mental health. Could I borrow fifteen hundred bucks off you?"

The point being: just exactly how real is this "mate, mate, R U OK?" - would they put money on the line, or is it just to make themselves feel good?

Originally Posted by sam luis obispo

"aRe yUo oK?"

"I'm great. Thanks for asking.

(Putting on concerned face. Make eye contact. Squint the eyes. Bite the lips for just a few seconds. Nod head for a few seconds until you have their complete attention.)

But, tell me.....how are you doing?


I've heard you are going through some real..(purse lips and roll eyes like you are imagining all the office gossip you have heard about them)....challenges.

Let me tell you something, you are sooo brave.

You are handling these challenges sooo well.

Just understand, the good Lord doesn't send you anything you can't handle.

You don't have to bear all these burdens on your own. Any time you want to talk....or just need a few minutes to pray...I am here for you."

You must get ALLOT of "weak moment pussy", huh?

Aren't you the author of "The adventures of Dick Diving".

Please, tell the studio audience how Dick goes diving into weak moments like fresh breakups, one night flings, drunk ass bitches, tell us, we want to know...

Originally Posted by mgtower

Lets target "are you okay" with its sister "what's wrong".

Gold. Fucking gold.

I'm a bit 'spergy myself. It took me years to realise that most of the things people say in social interactions are not true, not meant to be true, and not meant to be understood as conveying actual information. The purpose of conversation is to entertain one another.

Truth. Took me way too long to understand this. In a convo, especially with a woeman, you're looking for the subtext. It's bullshit, cos I prefer people to say what they mean and vice versa. But 'tis what it is.

Originally Posted by Mr Wombat

Gold. Fucking gold.

The sister, "what's wrong" usually comes around about the time you're smelling a shit test!

Originally Posted by mgtower

You must get ALLOT of "weak moment pussy", huh?

Aren't you the author of "The adventures of Dick Diving".

Please, tell the studio audience how Dick goes diving into weak moments like fresh breakups, one night flings, drunk ass bitches, tell us, we want to know...

"Dick Diving?"

Oh, well, it's not as good as "Rick Ramrod" or "Mark Thrust," but it will do.

Unfortunately, I know very little about diving into weak moments.

As others have pointed out the probing questions are often just to dig information or to see how compliant you are to what they are asking for you to reveal. Any time a man shows defiance in any way shape or form he will be challenged by those that cling to their daily despair. At this point I expect it and most often I just let it roll off my back because they are telegraphing their intent as it is so laughable.

Vulnerability is the endgame with these probing questions and this often works against men when it comes to work, relationships, and any other social interactions. It is not about being a tough guy or a stoic necessarily or landing more pussy. It just being left alone to pursue your dreams as a man and to take care of business. My time is precious. I am a young man but I value my time more now than I did ten years ago fresh out of HS.

But if you take the time to try to explain this to them they will not understand and will have a glazed look over their eyes like you are some type of therapist. I do not dispense red pill nuggets to those that ask probing questions about me as it is futile. However to those that ask questions about systems designed to work against men I am willing to pass out red pill nuggets.

You could just give the other person a look like this and put a quick end to the conversation. (As well as snuff the possibility of any future ones.)