
Originally Posted by
Gravel
1 ) PUA tactics only work, when they are so obviously helpful, that anyone with common sense would do it ... for example: not smelling like monkey butt and actually showering twice a day if you live in the south. Or how about knowing if a beard suits you, or not wearing raggy clothes with paint stains and holes. They act like these are revelations and secrets. They arent. The rest of it, is trying to teach men how to talk. That is a fools errand. Youre either Rodney Dangerfield, or you are quiet and timid in speech. No amount of this coaching does a damn thing. You are who you are. WOMEN are the ones who should be getting coached.
Quote: "Women weren't any different 100 years ago when it all worked." It never worked. It was different, but the grass wasnt greener. Not trying to be argumentative because youre right, women and men have the same genetics today, but the disposable male was still the status quo. So what changed? What caused the trouble between the sexes?
2) Modernity. Modern home appliances (refrigeration, washing machines, microwaves etc...all made women redundant and then they were utilized for labor and made tax slaves just like men in the workforce). It took 100 years but it just got worse and worse. Colttaine did plenty of work on this. Showing how Modernity: The Pill, Abortion, Cultural Feminism, Dating Apps <- all modern medicine or technology upgrades. All of it made Biological Imperatives, the blueprint for human sexual dimorphism which has worked for millions of years in the wild, all of it became worse than useless, its actually ripping us apart.
But the biological impulses (evolutionary psychology) cant just be turned off or rationalized away. Despite all the Modernity, men will still cast themselves gladly into the mouth of a lion, or kill another man, just to protect or gain access to a woman. It doesnt matter that women get a leg up in every legal sense now, men still sacrifice everything to safeguard women's illusionary peril. And women, despite record rates of depression and understanding that The Wall is a time bomb, they still monkey branch, they still waste all their years trying to find the apex male with the most resources despite the fact that most men they come across are completely suitable for longterm bonding. Hypergamy and White Knight chivalry, despite being completely destructive to men and women in the resource abundant modern world, remain compulsory instincts that can not be turned off.
All these modern luxuries nullify the advantages that evolutionary psychology once provided. We used to require these instinct to survive cataclysmic natural disasters. Take for instance, women's instinct to select men with ideal features. This was natural selection that safeguarded infant mortality rate -- obviously women stopped choosing men with diseases or physical disabilities etc.. They are scrupulous and narrow, trying to choose a mate that stands the best chance of producing healthy offspring. Its not a conscious choice, they just naturally try to select the best male. Now fast forward to modern dating apps where her selection pool has now increased 10,000 fold. Will this mean that more relationships in the whole population, or less? It means LESS, alot less. This is only one example of how evolutionary psychology is at odds with modernity. You start throwing in stuff like War Bride Syndrome or women's obvious attraction to violence, and you can see why the 80/20 rule is not a theory.
There is a clash, between Modernity and Biology. Biology is cemented into us over millions of years and cant be easily morphed, while modernity has outpaced everything in leaps and bounds. Our technology, medicine and culture has entirely removed us from our natural environment and the consequences are abounding.