Thread: "You'll die alone"

Anyone with common sense can understand the fallacies of that statement, so I won't get into that. Women love to project their own fears and insecurities onto others. Whenever I hear a woman use 'dying alone' as a scare tactic in an attempt to sell me on marriage, it always throws me off a little. Not only because 'dying alone' has nothing to do with getting married or having kids, but also because it's thrown onto the table like it's the absolute worst outcome an individual can experience. Almost as if it's worse than a going through brutal, torturous death. "Good luck dying alone!" I think this is obvious projection. I wanted to ask you guys, where does 'dying alone' rank on the average female's list of fears?

We all die alone.

'You'll die alone' is projection. The threat is an over-compensation for a fear experienced by the women using those words.

As to the 'ranking' of the fear - any guess would be based in opinion and/or anecdotally.

Looking forward to it. If I don't die alone that means I'm surrounded by some tragedy.

It's funny, because I saw some bullshit on my Facebook feed (I know I should probably get off Facebook, but that's another story) about a man remarrying his wife because she got amnesia or some nonsense of the sort. I posted a short, one sentence comment declaring that the dude is whipped, and I immediately got women telling me "Have fun dying alone!"

My gut tells me a woman's top fears would be

.5 Fear of taking responsibility

1. Dying without having kids
2. Being socially stigmatized/unpopular/"that" girl among friends/family (or not getting attention)
3. Dying alone
4. "Boring" husband/life

It's funny you brought up a horrendous, torturous death. Being tortured is absolutely my biggest fear.

Originally Posted by KingofWisdom

"Have fun dying alone!"

My only response to this is that I've come close to this on more than one occasion and my only regret then has been that I couldn't be taking anyone that really peeved me along for the ride. I really couldn't care if no one was there to hold me. I don't want clamminess on my skin as I prep to kick the bucket.

Cap285 absolutely NAILED it here:

http://www.goingyourownway.com/mgtow...rum/fear-2250/

'This is a female fear. All that "well you'll die alone", it's total projection. You can't threaten a man with peace and quiet.'

Sometimes I question what exactly do they mean, do they mean with no friends, or no children? I mean if i died next week I'd still have my brothers & sister and mother .... and so on. But who's to say your (dare I say it) Wife won't die first anyway, I mean you both can't die simultaneously. Everyone expecting to live a ripe old age and it just doesn't always work that way.
I do find irony in the people that consider children based on this exact fear, then when they get older the children are just waiting for the money and rarely visit ill parents, it's a gamble throwing all your time money and resources and a good 20 years bringing up a human being expecting the return later in life but they can't be arsed because by then they are concentrating on repeating the same process. Hell you could have had a wail of a time with all that time and money.

Buddhist monks die alone but don't seem to care much about the whole thing but death is way up there on the agenda and not put in the back of their mind, it's a poignant part of the buddha dharma.

Dying alone sounds not so bad. No 'female tinnitus' (blablabla) anymore.

But I imagine the female fear of loneliness. No real hobbies (besides Facebook, shopping, smartphone). Always the need for entertainment by man (directly with the man/indirectly with his money).

if you die with your eyes closed, you won't know the difference. - ancient buddhist proverb. j/k

Originally Posted by Hesiod

Sometimes I question what exactly do they mean, do they mean with no friends, or no children?

Yeah. Does anybody ever ask women to explain when they say these things? If it's just about dying unmarried, since women historically live longer than men, seems to me they have the higher probability of outlasting their spouse and "dying alone". So what is behind their altruism here? I bet if a woman was asked to think it out in front of you, her idea would fall apart right then and there. It's probably like a lot of BS sayings that go around, though. You delve just a little into it, and discover people are just parroting what they hear.

"You'll die alone." I hope. Drama free.

This reminds me of the time I had a medical episode that was thought to be a TIA, but ended up being anything but that.

Spouse shows up at the ER with the youngest child. Boy was she wound tight. I had to beg her to cool her jets so my vitals would not spike.

Her main concern was money, I kid you not. I always provided for the family with a safety net. Plenty of life insurance, etc. I would have had fewer credit card debts and more cash in the bank, but she did her best to prevent that.

I'd rather die alone in the woods sitting up against a tree than face the circling of "loved ones" around the death bed.

One other gem. I was in the hospital when the wife was dieing. In the other bed in the semi-private room was some old gal. It was a constant parade of family members, but there was one gal that planted her loud fat ass in a chair, on the other side of the curtain, and proceeded to bitch about every aspect of her life.

I think this stems from a woman's inability to find happiness and fulfillment in themselves. The fear comes from their dependency on others {external}, and then like others have said, is projected onto everyone around them. If women were'nt so opposed to LEARNING, they might actually get something out of buddism.

I would rank this one as 1st or 2nd greatest fear.

Originally Posted by toolate

I'd rather die alone in the woods sitting up against a tree than face the circling of "loved ones" around the death bed.

Heaven.

Originally Posted by toolate

One other gem. I was in the hospital when the wife was dieing. In the other bed in the semi-private room was some old gal. It was a constant parade of family members, but there was one gal that planted her loud fat ass in a chair, on the other side of the curtain, and proceeded to bitch about every aspect of her life.

Hell.


The choices we make in life to get us to these points. Right?

Better to be alone, than to be with bad company.

Every man dies... But some men never live...



THAT, fella's is where women keep finding themselves in modern times.



Why do you think travel is always mentioned?
Why is their degree and carrier so prominent?
Why is the social status gained from that massive wedding and marriage so important?
What is it about hooking the buff athlete, shrewd lawyer or rich doctor?
Why do they play the born again virgin card and keep their notch count hidden?

Because women NEVER live, they always ride the coattails of the men they can catch.

Translation: "I hope you die alone, asshole!"

Meh. As everyone has pointed out, this is mainly something that bothers women.

Originally Posted by xcom

Dying alone sounds not so bad. No 'female tinnitus' (blablabla) anymore.

But I imagine the female fear of loneliness. No real hobbies (besides Facebook, shopping, smartphone). Always the need for entertainment by man (directly with the man/indirectly with his money).

once upon a time a married man was driving through the mountains on a twisting turning road. Suddenly a cop pulls up along side and directs him to pull over. He stops on the shoulder of the road. the cop comes up to the window of his car and says, "Do you realize that your passenger side door sprung open 6 miles back and your wife fell out of the car?" the man replied, "Thank god, I thought I had gone deaf."

I agree that most of us die alone. I want to die the way my father did, peacefully in his sleep; not screaming in terror like the passengers in his car.