Thread: Accepting isolation

So I have a mental disability and was always isolated growing up, what are some tips to enjoy solitude and the fact I'll always be isolated?

Not enough info to give sound advice, ask god, he reads minds, we read words.

-Stop listenning, watching movies, music and any midia that have friendship or romance in it;
-Realize that most friendship is fake or temporary anyway;
-Realize that if people don´t tolerate your mental issues, then they are not soo good to have around anyway (this is the most important).

Also have a hobbie and fill your time, then you will realize that you don´t really have time for others. Life is really too short to spend with undesirable people.

Tough for me to say, because I've always gravitated toward solitude and it doesn't bother me (rather, I prefer it). I like peace and solitude to work on my own interests, at my pace, without explicit or implicit pressure to hurry up so that "we" can go do something else.

I appreciate these posts and would welcome more. Having a bit of a time after the GF moved out even though she was driving me nuts. I work from home now and see people on video every day, but never see anyone in person. I order everything online, they drop it at my door. Pickup groceries from the curb. Still hard to accept there are actually no good women out there in this country, but I have proved it to myself over and over.

Now with the vax that will kill and/or disable and/or ruin your immune system (if you get the real thing not a placebo) you can't even get satisfaction at a legal outlet because they will lie about that too...whatever it takes to get your $ they will do it. Pump and dump is too dangerous for the same reason. How can you trust anyone to tell you their true status?

I digress, but could use some thoughts on how to live now.

Originally Posted by flying

Still hard to accept there are actually no good women out there in this country, but I have proved it to myself over and over.

Does this really matter? It´s like say "there is someone with perfect genes". Yeah, maybe. So what? Can you even see these genes?

So basically was upset I never had the "college experience" cause I started working after hs and am now almost 25. I realize now it wouldnt have happened anyway since I have a mental disability and was rejected all the time through school anyway so that was kind of reassuring but how can I completely learn to enjoy my solitude and not feel any longing?

Originally Posted by Mantow

So I have a mental disability and was always isolated growing up, what are some tips to enjoy solitude and the fact I'll always be isolated?

Originally Posted by Mantow

So basically was upset I never had the "college experience" cause I started working after hs and am now almost 25. I realize now it wouldnt have happened anyway since I have a mental disability and was rejected all the time through school anyway so that was kind of reassuring but how can I completely learn to enjoy my solitude and not feel any longing?

Hi Mantow,

You had made two separate threads, basically the same, so I've now merged them here.

Originally Posted by Mantow

So basically was upset I never had the "college experience" cause I started working after hs and am now almost 25. I realize now it wouldnt have happened anyway since I have a mental disability and was rejected all the time through school anyway so that was kind of reassuring but how can I completely learn to enjoy my solitude and not feel any longing?

Look into the practice of meditation. You may not be able to get to where you never feel any longing, but you can better at not identifying with it. Then it's more like a passing cloud going through the mind. Longing comes up. Like all thoughts or sensations it can fade away, if you allow it.

First of all forget about your mental illness! About 70% of the time all psychiatrist get it wrong, so odds are good you don't even have a problem, or at least not the problem you think. And from a person who has the what is the most feared mental illness trust me, I would know. And you would be surprised at what I have accomplished in my life as I am.

Second, you will never be happy, its literly impossible for 99% of all humans that have ever lived. Buddhism explains why this is pretty good. So once you understand this all the sudden accepting the Ghost lifestyle becomes much more possible.

And Third of all, you will never get over her... Until you find something you like more to replace her in your mind. I have seen friends dumped so hard by girls they were crying so badly they coudln't even talk. All of them immediatly got over it once they found another girl of equal or more value to replace them. So find something you love more then girls. For me its pool, I placed 8th in America for pool, I also love my guitar, and my private research. MGTOW is about investing in yourself, so find something you like enough to invest into for your own sake.

Good luck m8

As Hello-World said, hobbies are good. There're a million of them out there. I do leatherwork, collect the odd knife or two and read a lot.

If you can swing it though, a pet is the best recipe for fighting isolation. Dogs are good, they naturally want to be part of your "pack." I happen to be a cat person and would be lost without the little shit. She helps a lot.

I found what helps for me is to build a relationship with myself and treat myself as close friend.

I use rational emotive behavior therapy with myself to better understand and accept and work on if possible any emotional problems I might facing or even to cheer my self up.

Check it out when you get the chance

The older I get the less tolerant I get of people. I am sick of their criticisms(insults in disguise) and being told "Hey it's my opinion and I'm entitled to it" and all the gaslighting shit. No I don't have to be tolerant of you or your views. As you guys know I am a blunt smart ass especially when pissed off. When someone tells me I have to respect and tolerate their opinion I leave them literally shitting bricks in their pants. I say "There are people that think it's ok to burn crosses on people's lawns. I don't tolerate their views so fuck them and you".

I stay to myself. Less drama, orders, stress, being used, etc. There is nothing like sitting in your favorite chair on a nice spring day with a cold beer and nobody telling you what to do and when to do it and if you don't do as they say then here come the threats of I'll throw you out of my life. I say to them Hit the bricks Beyonce.

I handle isolation through comedic talent, mimicry, and travel. Professionally, I am an announcer/comedian/mimic. I like visiting Tijuana and chatting up my favorite shopkeepers as well as eating delicious seafood.

These are my "releases".

Originally Posted by MGTOWFOREVER

The older I get the less tolerant I get of people. I am sick of their criticisms(insults in disguise) and being told "Hey it's my opinion and I'm entitled to it" and all the gaslighting shit. No I don't have to be tolerant of you or your views. As you guys know I am a blunt smart ass especially when pissed off. When someone tells me I have to respect and tolerant their opinion I leave them literally shitting bricks in their pants. I say "There are people that think it's ok to burn crosses on people's lawns. I don't tolerant their views so fuck them and you".

I stay to myself. Less drama, orders, stress, being used, etc. There is nothing like sitting in your favorite chair on a nice spring day with a cold beer and nobody telling you what to do and when to do it and if you don't do as they say then here come the threats of I'll throw you out of my life. I say to them Hit the bricks Beyonce.

Never fuck with old people.

Back in the early 80's an old Italian man up the street from our shop was robbed by 3 black youths, the next day he walked to the package store (liquor store) where they hung around and shot all three in the face point blank, then waited for the cops to come. None survived.

The older I get the more I can see myself in his shoes.

Originally Posted by mgtower

Never fuck with old people.

Back in the early 80's an old Italian man up the street from our shop was robbed by 3 black youths, the next day he walked to the package store (liquor store) where they hung around and shot all three in the face point blank, then waited for the cops to come. None survived.

The older I get the more I can see myself in his shoes.

I wonder if the old man said this when he was robbed.

Originally Posted by MGTOWFOREVER

I wonder if the old man said this when he was robbed.

He not only disabled 3 thieves forever, he saved the county a fortune in future trials and incarcerations! One old dude spends a couple years in jail and croaks vs. 3 dudes in and out of jail for decades to come!

We should recruit old dudes instead of paying for police, courts, and jails! Just hand them a list of who should be terminated.

Originally Posted by mgtower

He not only disabled 3 thieves forever, he saved the county a fortune in future trials and incarcerations! One old dude spends a couple years in jail and croaks vs. 3 dudes in and out of jail for decades to come!

We should recruit old dudes instead of paying for police, courts, and jails! Just hand them a list of who should be terminated.

The old timers weren't soy boy feminized losers. You fucked with them in anyway then you can better your bottom dollar that hell is on the way.

Nowadays if that story happened then the robbers would be memorialized and have streets named after them! A bunch of assholes would also burn down the town and riot.

Find a hobby, I'd suggest read books. Be careful who you trust. I agree that "friends" are not real, eventually everyone will breaks your trust.
Especially women. Find happiness from inward going outward. Accept the past, accept that you cant change it. Accept yourself, try to find peace.

Read books. Read books to better your mental health.

I suggest the ghost lifestyle. Leave everyone alone, they leave you alone. Their problems stay on their side of the fence.

Find solutions for yourself. Fix problems for yourself. Dont depend on others for help.

I'm simpathetic that you have a mental disability. However, that dosent mean you have to give up easily or have a defeatist attitude.

I suggest you read the book "Old man and the sea" by Hemingway. Its about an old man, who hooks, and struggles, to reel-in a fish(a Marlyn).

The meaning behind it. The old man, has a disadvantage, his age. The symbolism is we all have disadvantages. His struggle to catch the Marlyn, is symbolism for us to relate to the old man; that the old man is you, me or us. That everyone has their personal marlyn their fighting.

I want you to realize, that the struggle your going through, is symbolically represented by the Marlyn. The book is 120pgs, if you want find out what happens in the end read the book.

Great book. Every male should read it.