Thread: Ways to Make Homies?

How do you guys make friends? All my friends are from high school and are in relationships/married. I try to avoid competitive sports, or hard-core physical activity, as I lift weights and I just don't have the energy for hardcore stuff. I've tried attending hiking groups, but they're littered with gays who try to get it in with me, lesbians, old ladies, or old-lady lesbians. What are some good activities to meet good ol' hetero dudes, ideally with few/no females attending?

I'm sure this has been asked before, but I couldn't really find anything. If you can link me that'd be nice. Thanks.

Originally Posted by Ididitmyway

but they're littered with gays who try to get it in with me, lesbians, old ladies, or old-lady lesbians.

LMAO. Where the hell do you live? No, let me guess, West Coast USA? L.A.?

But to give your question the seriousness it deserves:

How do you guys make friends?

By being friendly.

My apologies if this sounds like a glib answer but it’s the only one I’ve got.

As to where to meet “good ol’ hetero dudes , ideally with few/no females attending” dream on. Females have encroached to the point that male only spaces are virtually non-existent and oftentimes illegal whilst female only spaces are encouraged and endorsed.

Oh the hypocrisy!

You say that you try to avoid competitive sports. Does this mean participating or taking an interest? For me it’s both and this can make things difficult.

It’s my view, born from experience, that blue-pill hetero men have 2 main topics of conversation: sport and griping about current affairs.

It’s my belief that they feign interest in sport because it gives them a distraction from current affairs and their lives in general. It gives them a talking point with no real relevance to their lives, a kind of escape hatch and a chance to bond without the need to expose or explore their innermost thoughts. There’s nothing wrong with this. In fact it may even be healthy; a way of putting aside the burdens life puts on us.


So, just what kind of friend are you looking for? Someone you can bond with? Is this not akin to looking for a unicorn to marry?

Understand that friendships are transitory for the most part. Very few stand the test of time.

Take joy in the company of others wherever you find them, or not. The choice is yours.

Try Brazilian jiu jitsu, its hard as fuck the first few months. you literally have no clue how to move on the ground. the people who stick around are of a different breed. i can say that literally 90% wont get to their blue belt, and even if they get there, only few reach purple. hard time creates strong men and most of the time these are good friends. good luck.

Originally Posted by Jackoff

LMAO. Where the hell do you live? No, let me guess, West Coast USA? L.A.?

Yup, lol.

Originally Posted by Jackoff

But to give your question the seriousness it deserves:

By being friendly.

My apologies if this sounds like a glib answer but it’s the only one I’ve got.

As to where to meet “good ol’ hetero dudes , ideally with few/no females attending” dream on. Females have encroached to the point that male only spaces are virtually non-existent and oftentimes illegal whilst female only spaces are encouraged and endorsed.

Yeah, this is an unfortunate fact. People call all dude events "cock-fests" or "sausage-fests" in an attempt to shame men for all men gatherings, insinuating that it's gay for only dudes to congregate. Females are injected into pretty much any gathering these days.

You say that you try to avoid competitive sports. Does this mean participating or taking an interest? For me it’s both and this can make things difficult.

It’s my view, born from experience, that blue-pill hetero men have 2 main topics of conversation: sport and griping about current affairs.

To a degree both. I take a mild interest in the local basketball team. I believe interest in sports is also a strong indicator that you are not a gay man.

Originally Posted by TrackingPanda

Try Brazilian jiu jitsu, its hard as fuck the first few months. you literally have no clue how to move on the ground. the people who stick around are of a different breed. i can say that literally 90% wont get to their blue belt, and even if they get there, only few reach purple. hard time creates strong men and most of the time these are good friends. good luck.

I am definitely considering BJJ or attending some type of kickboxing class to just hit pads and stuff. However, my brother tore an ACL from BJJ, so the risk of injury concerns me. And there's also the steep learning curve, as you mentioned, which does not really appeal to me that much.

Originally Posted by Ididitmyway

. However, my brother tore an ACL from BJJ, so the risk of injury concerns me.

Just stay clear of competitions and you can always kindly decline to roll with certain people that make every match, a 7th gear deathmatch.

Very rarely it happens that someone tears an ACL in class, but yeah it can happen.

Most of the times its people not knowing what they have to do and instead of tapping, they try to jump out of fully locked in heel hook, to the wrong way turning their own knee inside out.

i did 6 years of kickboxing prior to BJJ, and its a whole other ballgame.

Snow skiing and street motorcycles were my big ones when young. If you ski hard it takes skill and some conditioning. If you were happy running the bunny hill, that wouldn't take much. I shudder to think how much it cost's anymore though, you'd have to like it a lot to be worth it. Besides all the money spent on travel and lift tickets, quality gear cost's the earth. We're not just talking skis and boots. Besides a nice parka and pants, you want the best gloves, goggles and hat you can find. Unless you like freezing your ass off, cause you're on top of a mountain.

Street bikes are more stamina, little strength is needed, unless you get a really big bike. But it is often hot or cold, and always very dirty (all that crud you find on your car, on a bike it lands on you). And potentially very dangerous. There are women in the motorcycle world but can usually be easily avoided.

In fact, most women don't care much for any activity that has anything to do with work or dirt. I'm surprised the hiking scene where you live is what you describe. People who love the outdoors enough to hike where I live are usually cool.

Most of my friends I met at the various job's I've had or were fellow townies. Sometimes in a small town, allowances have to be made. Others were fellow bikers, though I don't see them much anymore.

What's just as important is keeping the friends you got. That means being there when times are tough. If they honestly need help with a rotten job, you need to give it to them, and nothing else will cut it. That's what real friends do.

Originally Posted by Ididitmyway

I believe interest in sports is also a strong indicator that you are not a gay man.

Hmm.

And gay men have no interest in fit, athletic men? They don’t enjoy watching fitness fanatics running around in shorts? They don’t get the horn watching dudes in combat?

Think again.

I mostly hang out with my friends from highschool/college. All of them are either married or in relationships, but I do manage to see them on a one-on-one basis without their missus fairly often.

I think it's impossible to find male-only group nowadays. My suggestion is to get as comfortable as possible spending time by yourself and pursuing hobbies just for the sake of it. I go to dance classes for instance. There are both women, couples and solo men in class, but I do it solely because I enjoy dancing.

I quit watching/following/caring about (US) sports after they went woke and I can relate to what happens when you tell a normie that you don't follow sports.......it gets really silent!

I would also like to give my backing to the idea of taking up martial arts. I have many friends who train in BJJ and MMA, and it's easy to meet other men who are strong physically and mentally.

This might crazy, but I've met plenty of red-pilled individuals in the world of nerd fandom (video games, 40k, etc.). Granted, they're not red-pilled in the relationship sense, but politically, they see the Matrix for what it is.

It is hard for a red-pilled man to meet potential friends in this day and age. First you have to find some possible friends, then start to build a friendship, then take the difficult and risky step of introducing red-pill talking points to see how similar your beliefs are.

That said, I think that it is possible for a red-pilled man to be genuine friends with a blue-piller, with one important note. They have to have more personal loyalty than loyalty to their ideology. Some blue-pillers are good people but misguided, some are just bad. Some red-pillers are good, some are bad. The question with a blue-pilled man is would he throw you under the bus the instant he knew of your beliefs or what that be outweighed by his intention to be fair to you personally.

In terms of finding friends, as others have said male spaces are at least officially dead. However there are some spaces that are effectively male. These are getting fewer in number as women are obsessed with taking over male spaces (latest victim is gyms which are now full of camera-clutching barely-dressed thots desperate to upload videos accusing men of harassing them). You'll have to either find spaces that haven't been targeted yet or be willing to work around the cac that women bring whilst trying to make friends - that's a skill to be learnt and its hard work. In terms of the former, try chess clubs if you like chess. Its not "cool" enough yet for women to have started infiltrating them.

Originally Posted by suspiciouscrow

(latest victim is gyms which are now full of camera-clutching barely-dressed thots desperate to upload videos accusing men of harassing them)

I’ve never set foot in a gym so I’ll take you at your word.

The thing that strikes me about your comment though is women taking camera footage in the gym seems to be considered protectionism.

Men doing likewise would be considered an infringement of women’s rights and even perverse voyeurism.

You can go out and make friends with anybody. It doesn't matter who.
All you need is common interest.

I like guns. I knew nobody that liked guns. The first time I visited a gun range, solely to find out about the process, I met a few people who were willing to vouch for me and sign a "goodness of character" document so that I could get my own firearm (We don't have 2nd amendment rights where I live). Random persons back then that are now people I'd consider friends. We even played paintball together in a tournament a few months ago.

The gyms where I'm from are still good places to meet people as well since video and picture-taking on the floor is banned in the two gyms I used to go to. Not that I care, I built my own gym so I don't even go to the gym anymore.

I don't know what it's like in the US, but making friends after high school is difficult where I live. I have made some though, primarily people from my old job that I catch up with for a drink.

Best way I've personally found is meetup, not the silver bullet but the best way to meet people with common groups. I've been to a couple of single events that I've met girls and chatted to here and there, but isn't really what I'm looking for at these places.

I know you already workout, but consider strongly looking into a sport. I quite like boxing, as you're usually training with someone else rather than a team sport like soccer for example. Just my $0.02.