Thread: Please share tips on how to friend-zone new girl that my Asian Parent (& Auntie) keep introduce to me

Given some loonies pretend to be born in the wrong body, just tell them you were born in the wrong culture and they have to accept it.

Originally Posted by Smoking Wizard

Given some loonies pretend to be born in the wrong body, just tell them you were born in the wrong culture and they have to accept it.

All they need is an outer body experience like hitting a tree @80!

Originally Posted by mgtower

All they need is an outer body experience like hitting a tree @80!

Haha, yeah! Fun fact especially for you, mgtower: There is a dude in Germany. He somehow magically switched his sex and is now a politician in the German Bundestag. Now it comes, he occupies one of the various sex quota spots for women in higher offices.

Originally Posted by Smoking Wizard

Haha, yeah! Fun fact especially for you, mgtower: There is a dude in Germany. He somehow magically switched his sex and is now a politician in the German Bundestag. Now it comes, he occupies one of the various sex quota spots for women in higher offices.

In order to provide an 80 mph outer body experience for all of them, we're gonna need an entire forest! Maybe the Amazon?

Originally Posted by Smoking Wizard

Now it comes, he occupies one of the various sex quota spots for women in higher offices.

This is the reason why I approve the transsexual movement in sports and all women´s spaces. We need more trans to crowd out women from their quota spots.

Of course, their presence in schools are nefarious for children but have children in this world is very narcissistic to begin with.

just grey rock her - she will be dryer than sahara sand.

If the words "grey rock" sound boring to you, that's exactly the point. The grey rock method is basically about being the human equivalent of a grey rock, explains W. Keith Campbell, Ph.D., psychologist and author of The Handbook of Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
"It's simply being unresponsive," says somatic psychologist and licensed marriage and family therapist Holly Richmond, Ph.D., LMFT. "It's called 'grey rock' because you have that image in your mind of this grey, unmovable rock."

Now, i dont care about the letters one has before or behind the name. nor what their 'profession' or and who wrote this - but it works like a charm.

Originally Posted by FreeGhost

Chindo, from your intro over at the 'New Member Intro' thread, you mentioned that you are an Indonesian Chinese, right? From what I heard from some of my Asian friends, it seems that Indonesian Chinese are quite wealthy and successful ( at least compared to the native Indonesians), am I correct in assuming this?

The stereotype of Chinese Indonesia being quite wealthy is somehow true, but sometime overlook, because there are still many who are not fortunate (poor).

My family is middle class, parent have enough to retired, but not for their children.
Successful is quite subjective, if children fail, there is abuse in the family, can't manage wealth, i don't think that is successful.

Originally Posted by FreeGhost

This is probably why your auntie is adamant in making sure the girl she has picked gets her hands on you ( and by extension, your wealth & property). Another reason would be her ego & reputation. If she can't get you married to the girl she has picked for you, it means her social standing among the other aunties and her friends will be lowered.

My suggestion: just tell them you plan to retire early in Bali or some remote fishing village and open a small shop there selling coconut juice or something. Give off the impression that you are going to be a slacker and have no plans to inherit your parents' wealth. Then watch how fast your auntie & the girl lose interest.

Of course, I could be completely wrong about your background. But the general idea is to evaluate your family background (including your auntie's) and see how you can exploit it to your own advantage. Eg, poison your mum's image of your auntie by playing them against each other. The plan is to discredit your auntie. Dig up something from your auntie's past that really pissed off your mum and slowly use that.

Sounds cruel but the gender war is a real war.

Your freedom is priceless and worth fighting for. You are not some robot that does whatever your mum & auntie tell you to do.

Unfortunately, I can't pull the drama here.
Gender war is real, but I just want to move out from my country secretly without them notice it.

Originally Posted by 2_Time_Loser

4. Mention that a lot of women you've seen haven't been very understanding about your medical condition - micropenis.
5. Wonder aloud if women are capable of orgasm.
6. Act completely clueless about any current trends/shows/movies etc. (she will have nothing to talk to you about)
7. Talk about smart stuff - she will lose interest real quick.

I don't think I will use that number 4, because they won't care, and i don't think that is importatn.

I try to use no 7.
Thanks

Originally Posted by thenamelessone

Are you financially independent from your mother?

Unfortunately, no due to past academic failure, I am paralyzed by my ability to work other job. I had no choice but to work with my family business that I hate, with minimum wage payment

Originally Posted by thenamelessone

If you're financially independent, have your own place, and don't want to burn your bridges with her and your aunty, I would first just try calmly making your decision clear and then ending the conversation if they press you. Say "No, I'm not interested in getting married, now or ever." If they keep pressing you, tell them you aren't interested in discussing the topic any further. If they continue to press, start insulting/screaming at you, or escalate to violence, just end the conversation by hanging up the phone or walking away.

I did tell them, I am not interested in getting married, I told them I prefer my own self, I can do thing on my own.

Originally Posted by thenamelessone

Putting people on ice if they don't respect your boundaries is a fantastic technique. Every time they try to pressure you on marriage you say "I don't want to talk about that" and then leave/hang up, you train them to avoid the topic. If they get real bad you might need to tell them you aren't going to accept their calls for a while (essentially giving them a 'time out').

I am now powerless, I need to keep my cool to device a plan to move, and acquire skills to F.I.R.E.

Originally Posted by thenamelessone

If you're financially dependent on them you might need to string them along. Since you're a man you can have kids real late in life, just tell them you want to make sure you're settled and financially well off before you get with a woman and risk having an accidental pregnancy.

I do not want children, if my life already in hell, suffering, I better focus on my energy and attention to get out of my situation, and move out from my country to re-pursue my education and career rather than repeat what AP do to their children that is projection what they cannot achieve unto their children.

Originally Posted by thenamelessone

Just out of curiosity, you don't mention your father. Is he still around? If so, what's his opinion on all this?

He is still around, he still insist on me needing a wife or companion, by telling me bullshit on dying alone. When you die, you die alone, you cannot die together.

Originally Posted by Hello_World

Ever body loves fell responsible for someone success but nobody want to admit that they ruin someone´s else life

@ChindoRedpilled Believe me, if your marriage become successful in their minds* they will brag about how they help you. If your marriage fail, even if you obey ever thing they told you, obey ever thing they command you to do, even in that situation it will be your fault in their minds.

I saw this type of shit happens over and over. They command you, they control you but they are not responsible for you, if ever thing fail you are on your on.

Fight for your freedom is not really a choice.

*For a marriage to be "successful" it´s usually only a matter of not get divorced. If you are miserable nobody cares.

thanks for saying this, I am thinking to go find a therapy to deal with the mental damage that they have cause me, I just need to be free from their haunting guilt feeling.
and by going F.I.R.E, particularly lean F.I.R.E and becoming trader and mostly value investor, I hope I can have financial freedom, and then re pursue my career again.

Originally Posted by ChindoRedpilled

I try to use no 7.

do you 'need' to talk to her? i was about to suggest Math but with her being Asian, you would probably be in for a ride lol. Maybe even literally.

I would do the bare freaking minimum in any conversation, and reach back to my grey-rock theory. if anything, speak about investments that you did that went totally wrong, wallstreetbets yolo style. but if you dont need to talk to her, that's the preferable way to go imo, if you do need to .. than you might aswell enjoy yourself and see how much bullshit you can push without her knowing it.

Originally Posted by ChindoRedpilled

by telling me bullshit on dying alone. When you die, you die alone, you cannot die together

It is possible to die with your family when you* die of cancer or an equally debilitating disease. What most seem to forget is that this is one of the worst if not the worst way to die and only a mentally retarded person will want to die like this. I speak from experience, my mother died of cancer in 2014 in a hospital bed with several family and friends coming to visit. As she was sedated so as not to feel pain, we have no way of knowing what she heard or did not hear. Bad way to die, I wish it on my worst enemies.

*Not you, you, people in general

There is also the fact that whoever is with you at the fatal moment will also suffer. At least it is assumed that this person will empathize with you, maybe not and she commemorate your death. What I'm sure is that it's best to avoid both scenarios by dying alone.

Originally Posted by ChindoRedpilled

Unfortunately, no due to past academic failure, I am paralyzed by my ability to work other job.
I had no choice but to work with my family business that I hate, with minimum wage payment

Ah, that's unfortunate. If you're not financially independent you can't really draw any firm boundaries with them in regards to your personal life, since they can just threaten to kick you out and/or fire you.

I would say your biggest goal is to move out and become financially independent. A poor academic history doesn't necessarily preclude you from a decent paying job, it just means you will have to move to where the decent paying jobs are. Alternatively you could study while working. The feasibility of this may vary depending on what country you live in, it sounds like you live in East Asian or India? In the meantime...

I do not want children, if my life already in hell, suffering, I better focus on my energy and attention to get out of my situation, and move out from my country to re-pursue my education and career rather than repeat what AP do to their children that is projection what they cannot achieve unto their children.

Despite your failure to launch it sounds like you have a mature mindset. If I were you I'd tell your parents that you don't want to get married and have kids until you are financially secure and have a set career path. String them along for as long as possible. Avoid telling them all the 'I don't want to be like typical Asian parents by projecting what I cannot achieve onto my children', because even if that's true it's going to piss them off because it's an indictment of how they raised you.

He is still around, he still insist on me needing a wife or companion, by telling me bullshit on dying alone. When you die, you die alone, you cannot die together.

So your old man doesn't have your back either? Sorry to hear that.

Originally Posted by 12inchbamboo

How to make a woman lose interest in you.
1. Tell her she is nice.
2. Tell her all your problems, you havent paid your bills, ask for money from her.
3. Feign being overwhelmed by problems, your work and literally cry like a kid in front of her.

Come back and tell us the results! Problem solved.

Lol /Thread. This is the only comment we need. Just be a lil bitch in front of women to scare them off. Tell them honestly of your thoughts and fears. They will run for the nearest strong jawed arrogant dickhole and utterly forget whatever kind of loyalty or commitment was had previous.

Originally Posted by mattbronn

Lol /Thread. This is the only comment we need. Just be a lil bitch in front of women to scare them off. Tell them honestly of your thoughts and fears. They will run for the nearest strong jawed arrogant dickhole and utterly forget whatever kind of loyalty or commitment was had previous.

I'm glad you commented on this as the thread was before my time and I've laughed all the way through...some great suggestions.

Having recently ended my marriage I've had to face a barrage of friends/family wanting to set me up with someone. I took to saying I'm not interested in anyone over 25 (I'm 45) as they would be used up, damaged goods after that age. The set up requests stopped completely...

Won't work for everyone, but the general spirit of it can be altered as needed.

Originally Posted by KRFJames

I'm glad you commented on this as the thread was before my time and I've laughed all the way through...some great suggestions.

Having recently ended my marriage I've had to face a barrage of friends/family wanting to set me up with someone. I took to saying I'm not interested in anyone over 25 (I'm 45) as they would be used up, damaged goods after that age. The set up requests stopped completely...

Won't work for everyone, but the general spirit of it can be altered as needed.

I believe in the 19 80 spread (when I'm 80's banging 19), 25 is an old dried up hag, a has-been!

Originally Posted by mgtower

25 is an old dried up hag, a has-been!

A proper garden tool, being held in many hands, as much as the shovel of the local landscaping company. lol

Originally Posted by TrackingPanda

A proper garden tool, being held in many hands, as much as the shovel of the local landscaping company. lol

That's shiny brand-new compared to what's around here!