
Originally Posted by
Granola Junkie
Hello GDash and welcome to GYOW!
I believe most of the fellas who posted on this thread already summed up nicely the advice that you wanted to hear.
I'd specially highlight Jackoff's post, as it's spot on with what I would tell you.
But, there's one thing that the guys above haven't mentioned, and this subject is what led me to log on and reply to your OP: your son.
I'm also a father to a 10 year old boy, my only child who I love wholeheartedly. You can read more about me in my intro, that I linked in my signature below.
As I write this post, I've been divorced for 20 months and have become a voluntary celibate man because resolutely I focused on my personal projects and also on my son's well being.
Just like you, I also had some women start smiling at me more when they found out I was divorced, and I even went on a dating app for a very brief period of time right after my divorce, but I'm glad I didn't take any of it further because it would have derailed me from my personal projects.
Now, the reason I want to reply to your thread: your son. And please take this advice at heart, even though it might sound harsh or like some "tough love".
Your young boy has just lost his mother only 90 days ago! He will never be able to hug her, kiss her, or even see or hear her again (except in photos or videos on a screen). He has lost the woman who nurtured him, who made him feel loved and special. Your son's "nuclear family" was destroyed by your wife's passing.
Have you stopped for a while to think what might be going on inside your little boy's head? As mature as he may seem, how do you think he feels in his little world now? His mother is buried in box 7 feet under or is just ashes in an urn! She is not coming back ever again!
Now, imagine what you boy will feel when, just 90 days from losing a parent he loves, the other parent (you) drops him off at some relatives/friends/nanny because "daddy is going out with some adult friends/woman friend"! Don't you think he'll feel insecure? Alone? Rejected?
I'm just a stranger on an internet forum, GDash. But, here's my advice from a father to another father: you got to get your FUCKING PRIORITIES STRAIGHT!
With the passing of your wife, your nuclear family was destroyed, and instead of focusing on your little boy's well being, you're here wondering if you should fuck some cunt who is batting her eyelashes towards you?!
Stop thinking with your dick and use your other head! Yeah, the big one on your shoulders!
Do you really think this woman is "down to fuck" and nothing else?
Do you really think she isn't going to exploit your feelings of grief over your wife's passing?
Do you really think that she won't want to infiltrate herself into your life and your relationship with your son?
This is just me, but I made it a top priority in my life to care for my young son after the divorce, to be there for him at all times. And it really payed off! He spends a lot more time with me than his mother, and begs to stay at my place every weekend! My bond with him has gotten even stronger these last months!
Your focus right now should be to be the best father you can and to show your son that he is safe and loved, and also that he is the most important person in your life!
You'll have plenty of time to fuck women when your son gets older (teen and beyond) or goes off to college! Don't worry, I'm sure there'll be plenty of lonely 40/50ish cock thirsty cougars, sugar babies or hot escorts for you to have fun with! In the meantime, watch some porn, rub one off, and focus on what's really important in your life!
Anyways, that's just my 2 cents, as a father myself. But, what works for me might not work for you.
As Jackoff wrote: you decide how to go your own way.
Cheers,
GJ