Man, I'm real sorry to hear that, I can't say it's gonna be easy, like you, I was close to my father too. I can say one thing, the pain will subside...
I stand enlightened, I thought they were shredding from reaming the hole with to much angle trying to get more edge! In Massachusetts they can fit 3...
Then why comment at all here, just to be dismissive? It's unhelpful because obviously I found something in it to discuss. Perhaps just be a spectator...