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    Guys I really need you right now. My mom is knocking on heaven's door.

    My mom has been sick for awhile and I just talked to the doctor. She has less than 5% lung function now. It wont be long.

    I'm glad I made peace with my mom. I was raised by a single mom. Its like I had the worst mom but the best mom at the same time. Im going to miss her now matter all her faults. When I saw her a few days ago, I knew because she was very unresponsive and crusty looking. She stopped eating, drinking, and taking pills. She was put on an IV drip. She is a fighter and feisty.


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    Re: Guys I really need you right now. My mom is knocking on heaven's door.

    Oh man. I know that feel. My Mother had cancer and raised 4 children by herself after my father died. She could go back and fourth, too.

    The anguish you are feeling will pass, you just have to ride it out.

    I'm off to work but will be back this evening.

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    Re: Guys I really need you right now. My mom is knocking on heaven's door.

    I feel for you at this critical time. Keep us posted with how you are doing, as you like.
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    Re: Guys I really need you right now. My mom is knocking on heaven's door.

    Prepare yourself brother, no matter how obvious or not, it always comes as a shock, I feel for you, I know what you're going through, don't let the grief overwhelm you, I know, it's easier said than done, we're here for you!

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    Re: Guys I really need you right now. My mom is knocking on heaven's door.

    MGTOWFOREVER,
    We are here for you bother. This must be an extremely difficult time for you, but please take good care of yourself, keep steady.
    Do keep us posted in your own time, at your own pace.

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    Re: Guys I really need you right now. My mom is knocking on heaven's door.

    My mother died of cancer in 1980. She was 64. I went to see her the last time she barely made it out of the hospital alive. I didn't have the heart to go to her funeral. My condolences, friend. It sounds like you're about to loose her.
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    Re: Guys I really need you right now. My mom is knocking on heaven's door.

    Quote Originally Posted by Joetech View Post
    My mother died of cancer in 1980. She was 64. I went to see her the last time she barely made it out of the hospital alive. I didn't have the heart to go to her funeral. My condolences, friend. It sounds like you're about to loose her.
    Im sorry brother. My mom is around the same age and it hurts so bad. 60s arent old anymore. I know people in their 60s that are in way better health than me & could probably kick my ass. haha.

    I know Im about to lose my mom. Not eating or drinking, can't swallow at all, and just a breathing corpse with less than 5% lung function. She is a fighter. She is the type where you think she is down but she comes back stronger than ever. There is no life left in her. Oh God. I was told if she makes it through the weekend then they will be surprised. Yesterday they made me say my goodbyes. I said way too many and cried way too much.

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    Re: Guys I really need you right now. My mom is knocking on heaven's door.

    Quote Originally Posted by MGTOWFOREVER View Post
    Yesterday they made me say my goodbyes. I said way too many and cried way too much.
    Oh man this is choking me up. Thinking of my own Mom. I gotta leave the room for awhile.
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    Re: Guys I really need you right now. My mom is knocking on heaven's door.

    I'm with you, brother, just like all of us!
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    Re: Guys I really need you right now. My mom is knocking on heaven's door.

    Sorry to hear about your mom MGTOWFOREVER.

    Mines been gone a long time. Her passing wasn't that sad, as she didn't care no more after dad died. She was a good sport, but couldn't fool me into thinking she really cared, cause she didn't. So that took some of the sting out of it. Everybody's situation is different. As usual, I came out of it better than most people.

    Hang in there, and realize that getting over this will take awhile. Are you the one that's going to clean out her place? That can turn into a pain fast, depending on what kind of mess she left.
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    Re: Guys I really need you right now. My mom is knocking on heaven's door.

    Thanks guys. My mom wasen't an evil woman. I see it now what 2pac said in his song dear mama. It aint easy trying to raise a man. I will admit I never went hungry , always had a roof over my head even if I was constantly moving, and always had clean clothes. My problem with her was she was controlling & wouldn't let me have. If I thought out of the box(which, as you guys know, I do often), she would discourage it & try to sabotage it. We talked about it and she made peace with me. She told me she loved me and was actually jealous of me of how brazen I am and that she is proud of me.

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    Re: Guys I really need you right now. My mom is knocking on heaven's door.

    I'm sorry about your mom, still have mine and while we butt heads at times your post reminds me to continue to make peace with her.

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    Re: Guys I really need you right now. My mom is knocking on heaven's door.

    Quote Originally Posted by Wally View Post
    I'm sorry about your mom, still have mine and while we butt heads at times your post reminds me to continue to make peace with her.
    Continue to make peace with her.I knew this day would come but didnt expect it so soon. I was angry with my mom for a long time but talking with a clear and open mind makes a huge difference. Once I got rid of the "You did this & that! Beg on your knees for my forgiveness" it went smooth. You never know what the other person is seeing or feeling at any moment. Look in front of you. What do you see? A sitting person will see differently than a standing person even if they are facing the same direction.

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    Re: Guys I really need you right now. My mom is knocking on heaven's door.

    It happens quick...lost my father within a week of going into hospice. At least I was able to visit him everyday and he knew I was still around. But even to the bitter end he cared more about my well being then his own in his darkest hour.

    My mother has done things that most of my family does not approve of. In fact they wonder why I still talk to my mother but I decided long ago that I would take the high road because you never know and life is short.

    Over time my mother has accepted that I have grown more and more independent.

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    Hang in there bro. You have all of us to lean on.

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    Re: Guys I really need you right now. My mom is knocking on heaven's door.

    Before anything else, a mother holds you in her womb for 9 months. Only God knows the anxieties she suffers in that time. Then the birth causes such great pain to her. Even before changing nappies and sleepless nights and crying and feeding, worrying about the future of her child, she endures such a heavy burden.

    What follows is the raising of the child, in whatever capacity she can manage. What can be said of it? Nobody is perfect, we all stumble along trying to do the best we can but, a mother does so much more; suffice to say our mothers carried us a lot longer than 9 months. Considering how often I've been horrible to my mum, times like this just well me up thinking about what she has done for me. Shit.

    Peace MGTOWFOREVER.

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    Re: Guys I really need you right now. My mom is knocking on heaven's door.

    Sorry to hear of your situation.

    It's never easy losing a family member. I've lost 3 and the emotions I felt were different each time, but the pain and confusion, even when it was on the cards, were always there.

    Grief effects us all in different ways. Give yourself the time you need to come to terms with this and don't worry if it takes longer than you anticipated. With me it always does, but we get there eventually.

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    Re: Guys I really need you right now. My mom is knocking on heaven's door.

    Quote Originally Posted by Azure Nomad View Post
    It happens quick...lost my father within a week of going into hospice. At least I was able to visit him everyday and he knew I was still around. But even to the bitter end he cared more about my well being then his own in his darkest hour.

    My mother has done things that most of my family does not approve of. In fact they wonder why I still talk to my mother but I decided long ago that I would take the high road because you never know and life is short.

    Over time my mother has accepted that I have grown more and more independent.
    I know the exact feeling. Everybody would tell me to get rid of her and she treats you like shit. But what they failed to see is she would've died without me many years ago. I'd stop by everyday to make sure she ate and if she didn't have supplies I'd go to the store.

    I like what my mom said to me. She said "You didn't come with a set of instructions but you werent that hard to figure out".

    To EVERYONE:

    Thank you. I really do appreciate everything.

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    MGTOWFOREVER,
    We are all totally with you, keep strong brother. I lost my Dad when I was young, and it was hard as a young man. My Mom is still around but now very frail. I am afraid I will have to go through her passing in the next couple of years. And it wont be easy

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    Re: Guys I really need you right now. My mom is knocking on heaven's door.

    I lost both my Mom and my Dad withing a very short time frame. It was very hard to deal with . I had much animosity at my mother for the actions she imposed on me growing up. We seldom got along after I left home, always arguing over just about everything. I will agree with a statement up above. "they do not come with instruction manuals"
    What helped me most in getting over her passing was for me to forgive her faults. I am sure I have just as many if not more.

    My friend I am sure we are all behind you here and wish to give you heart felt support during this hard and troublesome time


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