How many of you have heard this from your mother? "No man is an island. In order to be happy you need to find yourself a good women." Or maybe instead you may have heard this from a skirt chaser "Wow this place is a sausage fest. Where are all the chicks at?" implying that you can't have a good time where no women are present. We are conditioned to think like this from an early age. No male protagonist in a Disney movie is without the source of his happiness and the purpose for his heroism. Can you guess what I'm eluding to? It's the Disney princesses, the Damsel in distress, Helen of Troy, etc. The Damsel in distress is the source of the protagonist's happiness and the reason he chooses the hard, honorable, character defining, path rather than the easy one. Beforehand the protagonists may be portrayed as useless, mislead, and/or unhappy. Think Disney's Aladdin before he got his 3 wishes (his last wish being the ultimate source of happiness *sarcasm*) he was a "street rat". Basically he lived day to day struggling to survive as a thief and a criminal. Think Snow White and the Seven Dwaves. The previously grumpy dwarf nicknamed "Grumpy", had magically become happy after the beautiful young princess, Snow White came into their home.
So in the story of Snow White and Seven Dwarves, the dwarves were competing so earnestly for the love and affection of Ms. White. She was the source of all things "happy". Without her, was a wretched existence without purpose, working day in, day out mining rocks out of a cave. Some men even think that happiness comes from getting laid as much as possible. A recent post made by O.G. revealed a man who was dependent on sex as a method to achieve happiness and satisfaction. Once his bridge to sex was cut off (his youth and getting married), he talked about how depressing and lonely it was. We've been pavloved, associating one with the other. Unlike the sound of a bell, men are preconditioned to feel an automatic stimuli upon seeing a woman. When the two are conditioned together, it may create the illusion that one is inexplicably linked to the other. The unchallenged notion here is that women are the sole conduits of our happiness.
"Wait... are you suggesting you can be happy w/o a woman in your life? You must be a virgin who lost all hope. Keep trying bro". This is the typical shaming nonsense of the norm and group think you may come across. One of my favorite songs by Guns and Roses, "Say hello to the paradise city where the grass is green and the girls are pretty" is another type of Pavlovian conditioning. I didn't want to bring this up as an example being that it's been one of my favorite songs during middle school. BUT if you listen carefully, you will find that the idea of paradise and pretty girls are linked together in one phrase. It's the same Pavlovian type conditioning where we associate one with the other or one leading to the other. Find the girls ==> Find your happiness and your purpose. Find the pretty girls ==> Find paradise. Risk your life and Save that girl ===> Become a Hero. Speaking of heroes, the only hero who did not have a main female love interest was the old cartoon batman. Isn't it interesting (or should I say unsurprising) when Christopher Nolan wrote "Rachel" into the script for his movies?
I've many thoughts on this but I will end here less I ramble for eternity. Any thoughts are appreciated.