I think a lot of the guys here understand exactly how you feel because they made the same experiences with women. A lot of men make the same experiences. They get used by women, women lie to them, women cheat on them etc.
I donīt know how old you are but there are probably more men out there who are in their late twenties who never had a relationship with a woman than one would expect. Not because they are ugly or stupid or bad people. I knew guys who were decent looking (not super-hot but at least average) and intelligent and with manners. And they struggeled hard to get a date with a woman or to get laid.
I find dating women and searching for "THE ONE" very exhausting and in most cases extremely depressing. It depends on your personality and maybe some guys see it as a challenge and enjoy the chase. I did enjoy it too, to a certain point. But in most cases it became so frustrating and just outright weird that I didnīt really enjoy it. And eventually I reached a point where I had huge problems to summon the motivation to even talk to a woman, because I already knew all the stupid bullshit she was going to say and the mind-numbing psycho-games she was going to play.
I can totally understand your desire to find "THE ONE". It is so deeply ingrained in us from early childhood on.
What helped me to deal with the ugly reality of dating women was the realization that I feel pretty shitty and often depressed, whenever I interacted with women and was hoping to get to know her better and maybe find "that special woman" for a realtionship. If I would go out and try to pick up women or go on a dating website, it would really drag me down, because I know all the stupid games women play. I know exactly whatīs waiting for me. The lying, the fake personalities, the double-standards, the endless list of demands from them...
I really feel depressed and start to have all that negative feeling whenever I spend some time trying to pick up women. All the bullshit they talk, their endless demands, their hyper-inflated ego...when I stay away from them and focus only on my personal interests, my life really becomes much better. I feel more mentally stable, I donīt have all those negative thoughts and the frustration. I can use my energy to do something that is rewarding, whereas women are like black holes: You pour all your time, effort and energy into them and in most cases itīs just gone and you never get anything back.
Whenever I get this feeling how nice it would be to have that "soulmate", that "special one", I just remember all the occasions when I dated women and I can literally feel how my mood drops in a couple of seconds. And then I realize how trouble-free my life is without them.
And I can understand your desire to find that ONE.